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To love my ginger hair?

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SleepForTheWeek · 30/12/2017 15:10

All through school I was mocked for my hair colour, I hated it and prayed that if I had children they wouldn't be ginger. I dyed it blonde/brown/bright red when I was old enough (not at same time!)

It wasn't until I was an adult and working in an industry that involved people from other countries that I started getting compliments about my natural colour, I've not dyed it for a few years now and love it! It's not JUST 'ginger', it's reds/blonds/browns/golds all intertwined.

Even now I hear people say 'I hope my baby is not ginger' and I've even had a 'friend' tell me they'd drown their baby if it was ginger (in apparent jest). It's not OK to say that about skin colour/disabilities/sexual orientation, so why is it socially acceptable to say it about children with red hair???

Anyway, no point to this except to say

EMBRACE YOUR GINGER HAIR!

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ExpectingToFly · 31/12/2017 19:26

I was bullied for the colour of my hair. It was ginger and I got nailed for it . My parents called it 'golden' and 'strawberry blonde' but I'm not sure that was helpful as I was so sensitive to the taunts Sad

I did get more confident the older I got and then used to dye it redder like Shirley Manson from Garbage and Angela in My So Called Life! Unfortunately from about 20 o started highlights and so I think the true ginge has faded i would love to get it back now! Especially as my daughter is ginger too. I think her hair is beautiful but I fear for her at school. We tell her that she is a ginger ninja Star ! I want her to be proud of her ginger hair

Pearlsaringer · 31/12/2017 19:36

Worra I think your post was both rude and mean.

MongerTruffle · 31/12/2017 19:37

I love this

To love my ginger hair?
runwalkrun · 31/12/2017 19:54

A lot of people don't like the pale skin, freckles, orange eyelashes and eyebrows that often comes with having naturally red/ginger hair.

I must admit, I absolutely love red hair but wouldn't like to have the above features that often go hand in hand go with red hair.
I also agree with a previous poster that true red hair is more attractive than orange hair.

lurkingnotlurking · 31/12/2017 19:55

... Which brings me back to the point about how redheads get fed up with people commenting on the way we look throughout our lives and picking out what features they find unattractive.

runwalkrun · 31/12/2017 20:03

Oh dear, I hope my comments aren't seen as being mean. It's just a personal preference (I never wanted pale skin and freckles)

Will go sit on the naughty step with Worral. Blush

lurkingnotlurking · 31/12/2017 20:04

It's okay. It's also okay to get really prickly about something that has been used against redheads throughout our lives.

Bumplovin · 31/12/2017 20:05

My daughters her is ginger well almost auburn it's quite dark. I must admit I'd hoped having ginger hair was not still a thing for kids to pick on her for I love her hair it's gorgeous

isseywithcats · 31/12/2017 20:07

im the one on the left hope this posts

To love my ginger hair?
lurkingnotlurking · 31/12/2017 20:07

Give her some good comebacks. I never had any good ones.

runwalkrun · 31/12/2017 20:10

Worra I think your post was both rude and mean.

and yet there are lots of comments labelling brunettes as 'mousey' and blondes who are apparently 'dull'

It's not necessary to big something up by ripping others natural looks to shreds.

WorraLiberty · 31/12/2017 20:49

How is it rude or mean to state a fact?

I repeat. There are a lot of people who will dye their hair red but don't like natural red hair for the reasons given.

Therefore, the hair dye thing isn't really comparable.

If people choose to see stating that as rude or mean, there's nothing I can do about that.

It's not like I've stated it was my personal opinion, because it isn't.

Pearlsaringer · 31/12/2017 20:55

Never offend a redhead, we are known for our hot tempers! I think your comments just came out a bit harsh, Worra. Some of us do have those characteristics you describe. We can’t choose not to have them, and often have to take some stick as a result, so threads like this that enable us to enjoy the positives are welcome.

CombineBananaFister · 31/12/2017 20:58

I'll never forget an old lady leaning into my pram and giving me the sympathy look stating ' aww, What a shame, he's ginger Sad like that was the worst affliction my beautiful DS could have.
People are vile and superficial. I have the most amazing young man with a million attributes that make him brilliant. Fuck the idiots.

WorraLiberty · 31/12/2017 20:59

Fair point Pearl but rude would be me coming onto this thread to state I found all those things horrible.

I'm just pointing out that when people get their hair dyed red, it doesn't necessarily mean they'd want natural red hair (for the reasons given, which I won't repeat), therefore it's not always comparable.

It's been said a hundred times on threads like this in the past anyway, so it's hardly a groundbreaking statement.

I haven't seen anyone on MN get offended by that fact in the past, but I accept there are different people who take offence to different points raised.

lurkingnotlurking · 31/12/2017 21:00

combinebananafister What an arsehole she was. I've had two strangers commiserate with me for having all boys while carrying them as newborns. Also arseholes.

BuzzKillington · 31/12/2017 21:04

I am not a fan of ginger hair, but a dark auburn is lovely.

deadringer · 31/12/2017 21:10

I love my dd's hair. She has strands of blond, strands of brown and strands of pure ginger. In some lights it looks blonde, in others very red. I am mousy brown pure grey and think i her hair is gorgeous.

To love my ginger hair?
Whatislife123 · 31/12/2017 21:14

Why are people slagging off dark brown black hair. Its sexy and hot. Red hair is nice but not the pale skin and eyelids. Red hair looks nice but dark hair can look very sexy and alluring on the right person.

MammaTJ · 31/12/2017 21:25

Ginger hair is not going to suit someone without the pale complexion us natural redheads have, so they can hate that all they like while dying their hair but we look better! Wink

I have three DC and love them all equally. One of them was born blonde, the other two ginger. The ginger one redeemed herself by marrying a ginger haired man, although they made a blonde baby. They are scared to leave the baby with me in case I dye her hair! Grin

Whatislife123 · 31/12/2017 21:34

Sorry to burst your bubble but i would never dye my black hair for red hair. I just live my dark hair and natural olive skin too much. It makes me feel very sexy. Grin be proud of whatever hair colour you have

Whatislife123 · 31/12/2017 21:35

**love

runwalkrun · 31/12/2017 21:42

The ginger one redeemed herself by marrying a ginger haired man, although they made a blonde baby. They are scared to leave the baby with me in case I dye her hair! grin

I know you're joking. But really. Hmm

What's wrong with blonde hair? My daughter is a true blonde ((think Scandi blonde) I'm so envious.
It's the same blonde t hat people pay a fortune for at the hairdressers.

MammaTJ · 31/12/2017 22:06

runwalkrun I take it Santa forgot to put a sense of humour in your stocking!

runwalkrun · 31/12/2017 22:13

So it's ok to ' joke' about wanting to dye your blonde grandchild's hair ginger, but don't like it if people comment on a ginger baby's hair.
You have to admit, it's sort of hypocritical.

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