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To love my ginger hair?

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SleepForTheWeek · 30/12/2017 15:10

All through school I was mocked for my hair colour, I hated it and prayed that if I had children they wouldn't be ginger. I dyed it blonde/brown/bright red when I was old enough (not at same time!)

It wasn't until I was an adult and working in an industry that involved people from other countries that I started getting compliments about my natural colour, I've not dyed it for a few years now and love it! It's not JUST 'ginger', it's reds/blonds/browns/golds all intertwined.

Even now I hear people say 'I hope my baby is not ginger' and I've even had a 'friend' tell me they'd drown their baby if it was ginger (in apparent jest). It's not OK to say that about skin colour/disabilities/sexual orientation, so why is it socially acceptable to say it about children with red hair???

Anyway, no point to this except to say

EMBRACE YOUR GINGER HAIR!

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ALemonyPea · 30/12/2017 21:58

DS1 has thick curly auburn hair, DS2 has poker straight thin ginger hair.

DS1 loves his hair, he says it makes him unique, and at 14 has never had an issue with being teased about it.

DS3 is furious that he doesn’t have ginger hair. He wants to dye it ginger as soon as he is allowed to.

Ionacat · 30/12/2017 21:59

I hated my ginger hair growing up. Not helped by my Mum not knowing what to do with very curly hair - varying awful hairstles. I have an amazing hairdresser who has cut my hair for years and my hair is roughly bob length when dry and I have ringlets. I get so many compliments and I love my hair now. DD2 has red and what we think is likely to be curly hair and I will make sure she has decent haircuts so doesn’t end up hating the frizz like I did.

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CorbynsBumFlannel · 30/12/2017 22:07

Yadnbu and people should embrace their natural look whatever it is imo. There doesn't seem to be the same anti ginger sentiment in other countries. I have a cousin who is red headed and she is practically treated like a celebrity when we go on holiday in Italy, France, Turkey etc. A lot of it is a hang over from discrimination against Irish immigrants I think.

ThatWasNotLove · 30/12/2017 22:08

As a Scottish child I didn't like it (on others) and I think that was social conditioning. I was definitely seen as an unfortunate thing to have.

As an adult, I'd LOVE to have wavy, think red hair.

I'd be telling my kids to be proud of it, if they had it.

Beautiful and so rare internationally.

Bridechilla · 30/12/2017 22:12

I purposefully died my boring brunette hair ginger for years. Very Envy

Amanduh · 30/12/2017 22:15

The thing that makes me sick is the acceptability on social media and tv to use hair colour as a put down. Obviously and rightfully in both these places racism is condemned and immediately jumped on. Yet it's fine for someone to refer to anyone as a 'ginger twat/idiot/bastard' etc etc and in conversation as well. Replace that with skin colour.
Yep, exactly.
Makes me SO angry.

Polkadot1974 · 30/12/2017 22:16

Mine is fading really badly and despite hating it as a child I am desperate to get it back and was really annoyed when someone said mine wasn’t really red!

LemonSqueezy0 · 30/12/2017 22:18

I was in love with Anne of Green Gables from a very young age and prayed and prayed for ginger hair. Alas, it was never to be...

Ollivander84 · 30/12/2017 22:18

Red hair here Smile

To love my ginger hair?
gingerh4ir · 30/12/2017 22:20

Yanbu Grin

BulletFox · 30/12/2017 22:22

Don't get any antagonism towards ginger, where does it originate?

It's a lovely colour, vibrant, embrace the ginger!

CheekyRedhead · 30/12/2017 22:22

Another one here that grew up hating it, mainly due to the constant teasing/ bullying. In my 20s I would die inside at drunken men in bars asking if the collars match etc. It gave me shocking anxiety about it.

From a teenager I dyed it for years until the past few years I've kept it natural. I get so many compliments which surprise me, I'm now going blonde in parts which everyone is asking if I've had highlights.
Im ready to go bright again I think through

BulletFox · 30/12/2017 22:23

Oh bloody 'ell I meant to say I don't get THE antagonism.

Phone keeps thwarting my message (not my clumsy fingers. Honest gov).

LokiBear · 30/12/2017 22:24

Yanbu! I've told this story before, but one of my proudest moments as a teacher was coaching a lovely young girl through some bullying she'd faced over her beautiful red hair. She sat in my office, sobbing and wishing her mum would let her dye her hair because some of the boys kept calling her 'the ginger minger'. I told her I'd deal with them, and I did, but I also told her she was beautiful and that her hair reminded me of a sunset on a summers day. A few days later, I heard the words 'ginger minger shouted as I walked down the corridor. I turned to reprimand the boy tho had shouted it, but before I could get there, the young girl who had been so upset a few days before shouted back, 'oh screw you, I'm a fricking sunset!' I found it impossible to stifle my smile as I escorted the mean boy to detention. It was brilliant.

sweetkitty · 30/12/2017 22:25

Red hair is so eye catching and stunning, stand out in a world of brunettes and blondes.

DD3 has stunning auburn hair love when the sun hits it.

bertsdinner · 30/12/2017 22:28

My sister has lovely, curly ginger hair, it's like a bronze shade. It turns heads in the street. She did get mild bullying at school and still gets the odd "ginge" comment, though is more than capable of holding her own.
We have found she gets more attention abroad (in particular visiting our brother in Germany), and lots of comments about her hair. Positive, but as if its something unusual.
I am mildly ginger, chestnut brown, but I dye it to make it redder.

moolady1977 · 30/12/2017 22:29

My hair is ginger my dgm and my dsis and dn are also ginger as is my dsd, I love the colour and used to get upset while I was pregnant with all 3 of my dc when my stbxh would say if any of them came out with ginger hair he would shave their heads

Cabininthewoods69 · 30/12/2017 22:30

Love my ginger hair and the fiery personality that comes with it

Passmethecrisps · 30/12/2017 22:30

I love this. My6 month old baby looks increasingly likely to have ginger hair. Husband and his dad have ginger beards and my sister has full ginger hair (if she didn’t dye it). I spent my youth dying my hair ginger as I thought it was fabulous

Ssssurvey · 30/12/2017 22:33

OP and Ollivander84 both of you have great examples of beautiful hair, thanks for sharing :)

Screw you, I'm a fricking sunset! Love this!!!!!

TeaAndToast85 · 30/12/2017 22:34

@SleepForTheWeek that picture of your natural hair colour is pretty much the colour I would ask the hairdresser for if it didn't fade so darn quickly. I am a dingy dark blonde, and am well jel xx

TeaAndToast85 · 30/12/2017 22:35

@Ollivander84 those curls are AMAZING

bayseyan · 30/12/2017 22:35

Always wished I had red hair!

iklboo · 30/12/2017 22:35

We're a family of red hair appreciators. None of us are red heads but we love it.

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