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to prevent family having fun on New Year's Eve?

104 replies

Unusualllly · 30/12/2017 08:55

Been invited to friends holiday cottage for Hogmanay.
Facts:
3 hour drive away
2 nights stay there
6 month old (does not sleep well at all, worse when away from home)
1+half year old (usually sleeps ok away from home)

Husband dead keen to go. He will have a fun catch up with our friends, go golfing with them etc. Our toddler will love playing with their toddler.

I don't want to go. I am knackered. Lots of driving for the kids. Their sleep and nap routine will be messed up. Hassle to pack car with 2 travel cots, 2 high chairs, toys, clothes, golf stuff, food ,etc.

Having "discussion" (i.e argument). Who wins? Can you help us decide???!!!

(Note- husband is great and does fair share of night waking, chores etc.)

OP posts:
ButteredScone · 30/12/2017 08:57

Stay behind and let him go. You do something you want another time.

MorelloKisses · 30/12/2017 08:57

Can he go, take the kids and you stay home and have a rest?

BibbidiBobbidi · 30/12/2017 08:57

Can your DH and older child go and you and younger child stay at home?

billybagpuss · 30/12/2017 08:59

I can totally understand where you're coming from, but I'd go, otherwise there may be a feeling of resentment and you will probably feel guilty for ruining his fun. The kids will catch up on sleep next week.

Hohofortherobbers · 30/12/2017 09:00

I'd go. It probably won't be as disruptive as you're expecting and will be a nice time.

Believeitornot · 30/12/2017 09:01

Unless you’re going to work on the 2nd, you should go. You’ll enjoy it when you’re there.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 30/12/2017 09:01

I would go or send him solo

Sounds shitty but I think the fall out will be worse

NerrSnerr · 30/12/2017 09:01

I would either go or my husband go with the older child.

NerrSnerr · 30/12/2017 09:02

Or for a 3 hour drive could you just go for one night? Drive up NYE morning and drive back in the afternoon/ evening on NYD.

TuckMyWin · 30/12/2017 09:03

I'd go. The alternative is staying home, still sleep deprived, with a grumpy husband and a toddler bouncing off the walls in the post Christmas lull. And you'd still be sleep deprived and knackered.

The baby doesn't sleep well anyway. The toddler does, and is old enough to absorb a change in routine caused by car naps. Try and travel as much as possible at nap time, get your husband to do all the packing and driving, and catch up on some sleep yourself in the car.

ruleshelpcontrolthefun · 30/12/2017 09:03

Send him on his own.

NerrSnerr · 30/12/2017 09:04

Actually, yes I would go and i wouldn’t put the baby to bed until I went to bed and just let them snooze, feed on me so I wasn’t getting up and down if they’re unsettled. I’d still do that now with my 9 month old if we were away for a quiet evening!

drspouse · 30/12/2017 09:06

Can your DH and older child go and you and younger child stay at home?
Sounds perfect.

MizK · 30/12/2017 09:07

Just go. It will be a change of scene and you may even enjoy it. I'm not surprised you're knackered at the very thought though, 2 under 2 must be bloody exhausting.

somewhereovertherain · 30/12/2017 09:07

As they say a change is as good as a rest. So I’ll go. I mean yes go.

IJustDontKnowAnymore1 · 30/12/2017 09:09

Let your DH go with the older child and you stay home with younger child.
Sorted! 😊

SpareASquare · 30/12/2017 09:10

I'd either go or encourage him to go without me.

LiveLifeWithPassion · 30/12/2017 09:10

I’d go. Get your dh to deal with as much as possible to make it less stressful for you, including dealing with the travel cots.
Change of scenery might be nice.

LellyMcKelly · 30/12/2017 09:13

God no. Let him go with the kids. You can catch up on your sleep.

pluginbaby00 · 30/12/2017 09:13

Another vote for just sending him with the eldest as sounds like they are the two people who will actually get something out of the trip. Leaving you to have a slightly easier time of it with just the baby and yourself.

Butterymuffin · 30/12/2017 09:13

Go on condition that you get equal time without both kids, where he takes them, to match his golf time when presumably you will have them.

Original poster
Unusualllly · 30/12/2017 09:14

Damn it noone agrees with me!! :-(
Not an option to send husband on own, he wants to spend time as family and would not leave us. So I guess to prevent resentment I will have to go. Just know I will be dealing with crying baby all evening and up/down all night. Arghh, I wish I was not so miserable!!

OP posts:
NoSquirrels · 30/12/2017 09:15

He goes with toddler.

maras2 · 30/12/2017 09:16

Just the thought of 3 hours travel with little ones makes me feel quite ill.
Just for a flipping party Xmas Shock No way.
Let him go either on his own or with the older one.

NoSquirrels · 30/12/2017 09:17

Only go for the one night?

Travel at toddler nap time (after lunch?)

Husband commits to being up with baby either in the night or early mornings (with toddler too) so you get a lie-in?

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