I've just had the worst day of my life

[Razorboy]

I was on my way to work today. I had a phone call from my aunt. My dad has disappeared over Christmas. I have tried to contact daily. I knew in my heart something was wrong.

My family found him today. He is dead. The situation was fucking awful.

I have to put on my big girl pants and deal with the most awful thing ever. This was unexpected and horrific.
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Can someone walk with me through this please?

This is a tragedy, I am so sorry.

Practical help - here is a decent checklist of what to do.
www.gov.uk/after-a-death
Emotionally I cannot imagine how this must feel, lots of hand holding available here, whenever you need it. and for you. Turn to your family and friends, when people ask how they can help they really do mean it.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Are you the one who has to deal with the practical aspects? If so, here is the legal stuff. Along with that: be kind to yourself. Expect to feel horrible/lost/confused/desperately sad. It will pass, in time. I hope you have friends/family to lean on.

How dreadful for you, so sorry OP.

I'm sorry for you and your family.
Take one day at a time, accept whatever help and support you need and mind yourself.

I'm sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss, you must be in shock, be kind to yourself and try to eat well and get plenty of rest if you can whilst you deal with this. Accept any help offered and ask for help where you need it from those around you.

Razorboy, so sorry to hear this, wishing you all the strength to cope with your very sad situation xx Life is shit at times X

Oh OP, I am awfully sorry.

I lost my Dad in Feb this year. I understand.
It will be tough for a while. It will get better though. I am promise.

Be kind to yourself, you’ve had a massive shock.
Sorry for your loss xxx

So sorry for you OP

I am so sorry to hear your sad news. What a dreadful shock for you.

I know that the procedures to deal with a death is different in Scotland and England, probably Wales and Ireland too. Police should be involved as it is a sudden death, hope they can help with information on what to do.

Are you only child and maybe also next of kin? Maybe best to travel to the area and if possible stay with Aunt if she is close by.

If you need anything say on here and I am sure someone will be able to help.

Sorry you have had such a shock with this major loss. Try to eat well and drink plenty tea and water probably best to avoid alcohol. sending hugs

So sorry for your loss. Put on your big girl pants in RL but post here if it helps you

I’m so sorry that you are going through this

Just dropping in to let you know I'm thinking about you

Sorry for your loss

You poor pet, I’m so sorry Luner has some great practical advice there, but maybe see if you can get prescribed something to help with the shock sooner rather than later, a couple of Xanax or somesuch

So sorry. Sending you hugs

I'm very sorry for your loss, Razorboy, not only do you have to deal with the passing of a very close relative, in these circumstances you have to piece together what happened.

Something similar happened with my bil but I didn't deal with the practicalities so can't advise what you do next.

I assume the police have been involved given the circumstances? A coroner will do an autopsy to determine the cause of death and there may be an inquest depending on the circumstances.

I'm so sorry, what a terrible thing to happen.

My sympathies Razorboy

I hope you're able to come back here and read the responses to your post. It's so difficult and there are ears and shoulders here for you if you want them x

Another one here thinking of you.

Just read your post.

Hope you have someone with you to help you

So sorry Razorboy,
My dad died suddenly after Christmas in 2015 and it is like the whole world shifts.
Bereavementuk.co.uk is a website I visited at lot where they have a wonderful forum of people who are going through similar experiences. There is no judgement at all, just lots of support and I found it invaluable.

If he wasn't under care for a terminal condition, be prepared for a long wait in terms of funeral arrangements. We weren't able to book anything without the death certificate which took nearly a month and then it was another 2 weeks before we could get a slot at a crematorium.

Take care of yourself, make sure you are eating and drink and accept help from people around you. Often people don't know what to do or say so don't be afraid to ask.

It is unbelievably shit and I thought I would never be happy again as he was my hero, but I promise it does get easier.

Sending you hugs xxz

So sorry for your loss.

A good undertakers will take you through everything of a practical nature, they’ll have a check list for you.
It may take a while this time of year for the post-mortem and it can feel fucking awful being in limbo waiting to register the death.

My mum died suddenly last January and the waiting was the worst part for me, being unable to make firm plans.

I'm so sorry what a terrible shock . Another one with a hand to hold and an ear. If all you can do to get you fr one minute to the next is breathe so be it.