Smoking weed is......

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Just trying to make sense of things. Is it me or smoking weed is not normal? I am fed up of this excuse to the point, where I think I need some reconfirmation , to make sure I am not the only one thinking that.

Honestly? It’s legal status doesn’t bother me. I view it like alcohol. A couple of glasses/joints on a Friday night is one thing. Dependency or of it starts to negatively affect the life of the user or their family? Stop it. No difference.

Bingo.

TBH, I smoke it once in a blue moon; sometimes I enjoy it, other times it makes me paranoid.

There have been times where I've smoked several joints per night, every night for a period of months and never had any problems. If I'm in the comfort of my own home, it's fine. I've never found it particularly addictive, although I know of some people who do.

I'd say it's less harmful than alcohol, as in doing it to excess on a Friday night.

But like alcohol (and almost anything really) do it to excess and it can cause damage.

I agree with a pp who says 'terrifying'. I too have DCs with a family history of schizophrenia and I fear that they will be among the minority who are susceptible.

Abnormal. Hate the stuff.

It's not normal, and if it is becoming normal, it shouldn't be. I hate it and the mentality of weed smokers towards it. Especially when they compare it to alcohol and cigarettes. Nope. Those things are legal. Not the same at all. I hate the sense of entitlement that comes with it, ie "I like it and I prefer it to alcohol so therefore I should have it". Nope. It is illegal.

Absolute deal breaker for me. I would not date someone who promised to quit because I know they won't. They think it is harmless. They don't see themselves as drug addicts yet that is exactly what they are.

I would support the use of it if it was prescribed by a doctor for a legitimate purpose, but I also have a problem with medical marijuana because of the way that people who don't need it medically are easily able to get a medical marijuana license in areas where this is legal, and then use it to have recreational weed.

I believe the best way forward is to determine what it is that makes it beneficial medically and then create a formulation of it that does not get people high and make that, and only that, legal.

If his smoking it affects your life than it’s a big deal. For example - I smoke cigarettes (dons tin hat) - that means that if I had a partner who didn’t smoke (dh does) he would have to put up with me nipping out of a restaurant sometimes, being the person sitting in the cold garden in a pub etc. And that’s nothing on someone who thinks it’s normal to smoke weed - skinning up and smoking something that is obvious and stinks in areas you may deem innapropriate, being grumpy when running out, calling dodiger dealers when his usual can’t get what he wants. I’m oddly anti cannabis though I did smoke it when younger, but find that those who still do it (a lot rather The odd toke at a party) so genuinely have Other issues

I love the way people on here are just crapping themselves with exciting to say they are ‘middle class professionals’ like that in some way makes it ok and then so much better than the yobos that smoke it

Smoked it heavily throughout uni and into my 20s, as did many of those around me. So it was normal then. But I have up because it made me too introspective and dull. I didn't want to be that person any more and I was risking it dulling my senses and not in a good way. I needed to be sharper than I had become to further myself.

So I haven't smoked it since having ds, who is now 7 - and most of those around me no longer smoke it either. If someone offered it to me on an evening out I might do it just to remind me that I'm not totally middle aged and boring, but beyond that I know my limits - as I do with alcohol now too.

I’m easy either way. Used to smoke it, don’t now.

I maybe would occasionally if I was around it, but I very rarely am. Also as an ex-smoker I don’t want to ever smoke tobacco again.

Couldn’t give two hoots about anyone else smoking it as long as they’re being considerate to non-smokers.

I am living with an addict who has got major psychological problem

Sometimes it's a 'chicken or egg' situation. It could be his MH problem is a result of his weed smoking. But it could also be that he's self-medicating an already existing MH condition with weed. Either way, if he won't seek treatment I wouldn't waste my life in unhappiness trying to deal with him.

It's not normal, and if it is becoming normal, it shouldn't be

It's been normal for years and years in many areas.

I think the younger generation probably prefer it because

1. It's way cheaper than drinks like WKD and other 'alcopops'

2. Since the introduction of photo ID, it's increasingly difficult to purchase alcohol under the age of 18.

3. Even those over 18 aren't welcome in many of the pubs/clubs around here because they have an over 21 entrance rule.

4. There are very few local pubs that are still open anyway.

Kingdom Carmel..... That's where I am. He constantly nips out when we are watching something on tv. He gets restless to get home if we go out. It's the first thing he does in the morning as soon as he wakes up. He doesn't like socialising much sort from seeing his friends because he can smoke.
His logic is absolutely shit. He is delusional. He always falls prey to other people's craftiness but never ever agrees with me.

Is it me or smoking weed is not normal?
What does 'normal' mean? It certainly is in common usage. What adults do in the privacy of their own homes should be no business of others. I really wonder why a small minority are so obsessed with stopping others using it.

Some people smoke a small amount of weed and are fine, some people drink a small amount and it’s fine.

This is having an affect on you that’s not fine.

I hope you’re ok.

It's not normal, and if it is becoming normal, it shouldn't be. I hate it and the mentality of weed smokers towards it. Especially when they compare it to alcohol and cigarettes. Nope. Those things are legal. Not the same at all. I hate the sense of entitlement that comes with it, ie "I like it and I prefer it to alcohol so therefore I should have it". Nope. It is illegal.

Personally, I'll decide for myself what I consume!

I tell you what, if my town centre was full of stoned people in the early hours of Saturday morning when the clubs are closing, it'd be a pleasure to walk through.

A nice change from the fighting/screaming/vomiting drunks and the regular knife crime.

I expect the emergency services would be pretty thrilled too.

Never done it. Only once been somewhere (house party) where the smallest joint in the world was being passed round.

I sometimes wonder what I missed out on.

All things in moderation:-)

@WorraLiberty My neighbour smokes weed and him and his girlfriend end up arguing and fighting about it.

I'm not sure why you think everyone would be peaceful and calm if they smoked it.

OP I’ve been where you are and it nearly destroyed our marriage. He refused to stop and said that he was an adult who could make his own decisions.
I said I was too, and I was deciding that I didn’t want to be with him if he was wasted all the time. It took me to get to breaking point to do it and it sounds like that’s where you’re at now.
He chose me, but it’s not been easy and he could’ve easily chosen the other way. He sometimes resents the hell out of me for making him choose, but the door is always open.

This isn’t about weed per se. It’s about living with an addict where their whole life is about their addiction and everyone else comes a poor second. You don’t have to live like this. It’s not easy, but you can walk away.

I know a few people who smoke it I don’t and never enjoyed it as I don’t smoke

I used to think of it as a soft drug almost harmless

Working in mh services my opinion has drastically changed it isn’t the soft harmless drug I believed it to be

OP - you're issue isn't with weed/legal issues surrounding weed/acceptability of weed, though is it? It's about the fact that your DH uses very heavily and it affects his behaviour negatively.

Smoking weed is normal within my (adults in their 40s circle) but I don't think it's 'cool', don't have any issue with people who are against it, except to churn out the usual arguments about alcohol/cigarette. I DO think it's legal status needs revisiting.

HOWEVER, your post is not about whether it's normal, it's about how it's affecting your relationship. So whilst it is normal to some an not to others, it is negatively affecting your life. That needs addressing.

Many of my friends smoke/don't smoke/take it or leave it. I have one or two who smoke every day and have since i've known them - twenty odd years - and they are moody arseholes when they don't have any and it has definitely made them a bit 'stupider' by virtue of the fact that they are a) stoned all the time and b) less engaged in day to day life/culture etc so less informed. So there are long term social effects as well as mental and physical health.

These issues would pose real problems for me within a relationship.

Because crazycatgal compared to the regular, violent drunks in the town centre on every single weekend, the majority of stoned people are peaceful and calm.

Of course you'll always get a few exceptions to the rule.

Foodfrax - I know right - middle class innit

There are guns and violence involved with weed and other criminal behaviour.

Not so sure stoned people are all good vs all bad drunks. It’s a bit less black and white than that.
All the people who end up paranoid or exacerbate mental health problems with weed aren’t so great. Nor are the people who become very bad tempered, agitated and violent when they can’t get any to fuel their addiction. Having been on the receiving end. It’s not fun.

I don’t have a problem with drugs and people who take them, so long as they’re not harming others in the process.