Smoking weed is......

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Just trying to make sense of things. Is it me or smoking weed is not normal? I am fed up of this excuse to the point, where I think I need some reconfirmation , to make sure I am not the only one thinking that.

Not normal in my circle.

And from your subsequent post, your DH is an addict.

Your partner sounds like my ex OP at least his use of cannabis does. In my experience you will waste an awful of your time waiting for him to change and nothing will come of it.

I really do not see what the fuss is about

how about that the industry is run on the backs of child slaves?

I'd say that is something to make a fuss about

It’s a drug, it’s addictive and if it’s causing mood swings from withdrawal and the person is dependant on it then you can’t have a ‘normal’ relationship with someone where their priority is a substance that comes above a person. It only takes 3 days to get off the addiction, after that it’s psychological purely due to a habit being broken.

And from your subsequent post, your DH is an addict.
Except that there is no medical evidence that cannabis is physically addictive

so much hand wringing on this thread

excessive cannabis usage is - like alcohol - the symptom, not the cause

I suppose like any drug (I'm including alcohol and tobacco and sugar in this) it can become addictive and have a bad effect on anyone who abuses it.

I smoke it once or twice a week (only half a joint each time). I wouldn’t want to smoke it anymore regularly than that, just like I wouldn’t want to drink more than once or twice a week too

Grenshoots
how about that the industry is run on the backs of child slaves?
(a) link please
(b) so are clothes and agriculture .......

I spent a decade walking on eggshells around a man who couldn't function normally without weed. Its not a good life. I am 1000x happier now I am not with him.

Normal.

I don't touch it but I know a lot who do. It probably should be legal or decriminalised. I find that casual smokers (Saturday let's share one) types are ok. But, and this is my experience not a generalisation, long term, constant users are tedious. And come with a whacky range of views tbh. The most irritating one been that 'the herb' is a cure for everything. Maybe the oil is medically useful but that massive joint you've rolled: I'm not convinced.

It's normal to me in my life.
If you don't like it that's perfectly fine, I understand the arguments for and against and make my own decision.
I rarely drink, even over Christmas only had a few drinks, wasn't even tipsy.
If you have a partner who smokes it, then it will be their normal, it doesn't have to be yours though.

Excessive is not great like anything really. Once or twice a year I wouldn't bother about. I may be swayed by the fact I slept in a tent last year after spending the night around a fire, drinking lager, listening to nirvana and participating in smoking pretending to be 18 again
But that's the only time in a few years and I can take it or leave it, very much like alcohol is for me
Which is odd, as I was heavily addicted to smoking cigarettes (30 a day)

Really depends on context.
Walk round very well heeled streets in Amsterdam and smart people smoking it on their door step watching the world go by...

I hate it and won't be involved with people who smoke it. It's your boundaries that matter though - not ours.

Not normal among my close friends (mainly middle class or 'professionals', 20s & 30s). from It's fairly common at parties with friends-of-friends, generally early/mid 20s including professionals and parents.

I wouldn't put up with it from a partner, but I don't think I'd want to be with someone who smoked tobacco either. My sixth form boyfriend was a smoker, and his kisses tasted like tobacco.

I don't do it, Iv tried it but not regularly or recently, Iv known people who use it regularly Iv spent time with people using it while not myself I don't have any strong opinions or judgments on it or anyone who does it. For some people it works for others it really doesn't and they should massively stay away from it! Iv not been around it for a few years now though

It doesn't matter what anyone else's opinion is.

Your last post is all the information you need.

It doesn't work for you and that means this person doesn't work for you.

On the flip side his choices have shown you obviously aren't the person for him either.

You can't change someone you can only decide for yourself and by the sounds of things that means moving on unless you decide that things as they are now are what you want forever.

I’d not consider it normal.

I have known people who openly smoke it and apart from the fact that they and their homes do stink, they have also been lower than working class (he sits on his arse all day and his gf pays everything). It’s not something I’d associate with middle class professionals. (That would be coke)

I distanced myself from both weed smokers.

I am constantly in battle with him over small little thing that shouldn't be so difficult. There are so many things that I find difficult to write without sounding insane.
Can excessive use of it cause people to loose understanding of normal day to day things?
I can't reason with him because he comes out with such pathetic logic that I give up.
He is delusional and calls it being motivated.

Deal breaker for me too, I couldn't have a partner or friends that thought illegal drugs were ok to take.

how about that the industry is run on the backs of child slaves?

How about all the people who grow their own?

It's an odd one, if I smoke it occasionally, it's fine, if it creeps into my life more regularly I find myself restless without, which I know is the sign I'm smoking it too much. Shouldn't really smoke it at all as traces stay longest In The body and being subject to random drug tests from work, it is the one drug people get suspended for most often. Although there are more that I know do coke than smoke weed, but it is always the weed smokers caught on the drugs tests.
We breathalyse too, but every one knows how long that takes to come out of your system.
On a Monday morning I would rather work with someone who had a drink or a spliff on fri night, those that drank or took coke will prob pass the test, those that smoked wouldn't

Ok for early 20s experimentation for those without children. Quite sad for those older.

destructive to relationships/ family life/ education and career prospects I suppose it can be if taken to excess, along with alcohol or prescription drugs.

Since starting smoking weed I have met the man I married 25 years ago, have a close relationship with all my family including two grown up dc and one still dependant.
Have qualified to PG level having started with nothing, and had very good career prospects, although gave up to raise dc.

a deal breaker for me.

Dsis is 29 and smokes 5 joints per day. She has no job, no friends and cares about very little other than where she is going to get her next joint from. Losing her supply was the catalyst for the Christmas when she tried to kill herself 5 times.