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Taking the tree down!

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Elsouth · 25/12/2017 19:28

Is it wrong to consider taking the tree down tomorrow? When is everyone else doing it?? I think last year I did it just after Boxing Day. As the kids get older the presents seem to get bigger and I end up having to rearrange the whole room. Need that tree gone. Does that make me a grinch?

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QuiQuaiQuod · 26/12/2017 14:25

We have ours up for a long time. It goes up by mid-November as the dcs have autism, and this way by the 1st of December, they are "used" to it

^^ same here.

AccidentallyRunToWindsor · 26/12/2017 14:31

I'm itching to take mine down now- it's been up 2 weeks!

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Elsouth · 26/12/2017 14:40

I don't think your main issue is space
Yes it really is I've got bits I've had to move round the house to make way for it. It's coming down as we speak. Kids don't care my toddler said the tree is going back to the Christmas house to sleep

I can't believe this thread is actually still going

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cardibach · 26/12/2017 15:33

The strong reactions (from both ’sides’) here are a bit odd. However, in threads at the end of November about trees going up anyone who says they are doing it later because otherwise it’ll be dead/they’ll be sick of it by Christmas Day gets told they are joyless Scrooges and that is nonsense. It clearly isn’t - while I see there are people who are sick of a tree after a week (in which case, why bother - I haven’t got one this year) there are more who say ‘it’s been up for a month already.

cardibach · 26/12/2017 15:34

Qui while I sympathise with the difficulties of handling change with autistic children, why do they need to be used to the tree by Dec,Ben 1st? If there’s a two week period of adjustment, surely/s ling as it goes up ore than two weeks before Christmas Day it would be ok? If you like it though

cardibach · 26/12/2017 15:35

December 1st*

PasstheStarmix · 26/12/2017 15:36

cardibach Do you have experience with autistic dc?? I think Qui knows her children better than you do and what is better for them in regards to when their decoration go up and what effect that will have on her dc.

PasstheStarmix · 26/12/2017 15:36

/s*

PasstheStarmix · 26/12/2017 15:37

And why does it bother you that you had to comment on it cardi?

ferrier · 26/12/2017 15:40

Chistmas isn't finished till Twelfth Night. It certainly needs to still be there for the New Year celebrations.
Just don't put the tree up so early next time if you get fed up with it.
That's how it happens in my world anyway Grin

IAmLucy · 26/12/2017 15:40

Mine came down last night after kids went to bed. I have autism and find Christmas overwhelming but enjoy the excitement and build up for my children. But I can not stand decorations after Xmas dinner because well...it's not Xmas anymore. It doesn't feel right and it really stresses me out.

Husband and children are very tolerant of this I must add. I don't ruin their Xmas or anything

PasstheStarmix · 26/12/2017 15:43

ferrier Not everybody is in your little world and have you considered that people might actually like them up early. To them they might consider the 'twelfth night' as late. It's a big big world with lots of traditions and opinions. Each to their own; try having a broader mindset.

Linnet · 26/12/2017 15:46

We take ours down on twelfth night.

Corcory · 26/12/2017 15:47

Our's will stay up till 12th night. I want to get my money's worth. We have the space as it's in our the corner of our dinning/open plan hall.

We have two autistic children ad they like things to 'stay the same' so like having traditions in our family that they know will be held on to.

IAmLucy · 26/12/2017 15:49

It's all about individual circumstances though isn't it. Xmas to me ends on Xmas day and after that I'm desperate to get back to normal. My eldest daughter also has autism and she is the same as me. It's over and we want everything back to normal.

My mum used to keep the decorations up until after new year and I would beg her to take them down and be told I was a 'fucking miserable little bastard' (I wasn't diagnosed with autism yet then but still....)

I feel embarrassed saying how early my decorations come down and feel like I have to mention my autism to excuse myself. Which is stupid really - what difference does it make?

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 26/12/2017 15:50

Just don't put the tree up so early next time if you get fed up with it.

Ok so next year I will only put it up 3 days before Xmas instead of 4 that I did this year and that will help me enjoy it until the 6th of January?

cardi strong reactions from both sides? I see people being disgusted that some take theirs down before 6th of January. I don’t see anyone getting offended or disgusted that people keep their last up.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 26/12/2017 15:51

Theirs up

shhhfastasleep · 26/12/2017 15:54

Wish we could . DD insists on 6th Jan - the last "possible " minute .

FreudianSlurp · 26/12/2017 15:55

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Cariadd · 26/12/2017 15:58

Mine comes down Boxing Day or the 27th. Christmas is done and I cant wait to get it all away and have a fresh start for New Year.

PasstheStarmix · 26/12/2017 15:59

I'll be taking mine down on 28th, purely because today I've ate and drank too much and can't be arsed (we always have a lazy Boxing Day) and tomorrow we're going out to check out the sales. So Thursday it is. We also have a lot to take down having 2 trees and loss of other decorations that have all been up since 1st Dec so we've had plenty time to enjoy them. I just want place fresh and clean for New Years.

PasstheStarmix · 26/12/2017 15:59

loads*

RidingWindhorses · 26/12/2017 16:34

Took ours down today too. I know its supposed to be the 12 days of xmas etc etc and tree goes up on xmas Ev, but the way i see it, its Jesus birthday, the run up to the day is more exciting, so our decs go up on the 1st December, once the birthdays finisherd, thats it. hate things being up into the new year.

I'm not even Christian, in fact I particularly dislike Christianity, but the festival of Christmas isn't solely about Jesus' birth - but from his birth to his baptism/epiphany on twelfth night. Hence the twelve days of Christmas.

The emphasis on Jesus' birth is a relatively recent development, the most important day in the Christian calendar used to be the epiphany.

1st - 24th December is advent - ie period of preparation before the coming of Christ.

Clearly i don't care what you do, but if you're bothered enough to be excited about Jesus birthday you might as well be aware of the point of the whole festival.

Mummyoftwo91 · 26/12/2017 16:51

Took mine down today

oliveinacampervan · 26/12/2017 16:54

@RidingWindHorses

I'm not even Christian, but the festival of Christmas isn't solely about Jesus's birth - but from his birth to his baptism/epiphany on twelfth night. Hence the twelve days of Christmas.

1st - 24th December is advent - ie period of preparation before the coming of Christ.

Clearly I don't care what you do, but if you're bothered enough to be excited about Jesus's birthday you might as well be aware of the point of the whole festival.

This ^ It's frankly absurd to pull the Christmas tree down on Boxing day. No point in putting it up!

As has been said, there is a certain smugness from some people who pull the tree down early, like they hold some kind of moral superiority.

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