FURIOUS! My Mum just let my 3yr Old see her presents & Stocking!

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Staying at my Mums for Christmas. Brought presents the other day as all wrapped. Just finished putting everything in her Stocking in the spare room which was AGREED with my Mum that it was to be 'Present HQ' - For context, the house is a Bungalow, so I witnessed this from the kitchen and hit the roof.

So my 3yr Old follows my Mum around like a shadow as she adores her. Fine by me, gives me a bit of a break before I step in and take over.

So my Mum wanders into Present HQ (with my DD next to her) which has a Sofabed with all the presents on including the big polythene Stocking - FULL of presents!!!! My Mum turns away and starts gagging with something and I can see this in corner of my eye from Kitchen and just as I start to dive towards the room, my daughter exclaims "PRESENTS!!!!!! Stocking!!!!" and is sat looking through the stuff in the Stocking and admiring all her presents (wrapped, but still....) My Mum is stood next to her by time I shoot in and saying "Oooh! Isn't that nice!"

I. HIT. THE. ROOF.

I know that 'she's my daughter and I should've been watching her' but I was prepping veg for tomorrow and my Mum agreed to watch her whilst I did this. The door to the room has a swollen frame and so when shut, really takes quite a push to be opened. We had already spoken about how that would be perfect to hide the presents for this very reason!

AIBU to be not just upset with my Mum but bloody LIVID and feel like Christmas is ruined now? My Mum doesn't seem to see the big deal! I've spent months & Months buying bits towards Christmas as & when I could as I'm Disabled and so money is tight. SO upset

Please be kind (& festive?!) in your responses!

chill the fuck down.

I'm sorry I would be upset too. However your dd is 3, could you persuade her than Father Christmas dropped them off early as he knew she'd be on the good list, and he was pushed for time.

Christmas will not be ruined. Your dd will still be delighted.

FC delivered them early so as not to risk waking her, as she's SUCH a good girl.

You need .

Your mother needs some penance... all other jobs are hers!

What was she thinking?

What did she say?

She will believe any old shit you tell her at 3

They're presents for you or family not hers.

Chill out

Jesus Christ. You hit the roof??!
She’s 3. She would have forgotten in 10 seconds if you’d played it more cool.
YABVU.

your Mother is an ASS.... but it'll be fine...

Stwp outside for 5 minutes, take a deep breath, pour yourself a drink and read some threads on here about others having to deal with some serious christmas fuckery.

This is not a big deal and your 3 year old will be so hyped tomorrow she wont think about this at all.

Dont ruin christmas by being in a shitty with your mum.

I'm not surprised you're upset. But at 3 she's easily persuaded so just persuade her she hasn't seen her presents and tomorrow she will be super excited!

Totally agree with Taggie- you need to spin this - Santa came early. And Spartan dregs if you can’t be cool ndtructice when someone is upset then perhaps you should just fuck off.

Smoke the peace pipe. What a massive overreaction

Constructive

Don't problem but maybe do the old "Father Christmas must have known we were staying elsewhere and sent it ahead"

I've spent all day trying not to slap my husband saying things like "I'll bring the stocki..."

Meh. My 3yr saw her Christmas Eve box this morning plus all it’s contents but had completely forgotten about it by the time she got it this evening. Distract and deny!!

Agree with distract and ignore in the first instance but have a clever excuse for logistics otherwise. Kids are pretty gullible 😁

you need to add some .... fairy tales to your santa stuff

why are they there now? as above Santa wanted to make sure they got there in time

why do they have the same wrapping paper - because Santa drops them off early for us to wrap

you're going to have a few more of these before they stop believing, hope you've had a large glass of wine and chilled out a bit

She's 3, Christmas is not ruined.

Have a beer and forgive your mother. Unless there's some sort of massive backstory I would put it down to nanna excitement.

I would be apoplectic too! Then immediately reach for a stiff drink and put a great spin on it.

The saving grace is her age. She will believe whatever you tell her.

Worry not, Christmas isn't ruined, she will absolutely delight in all your thoughtfulness.

Merry Christmas 🎄

Get over yourself.

If they are all wrapped then she hasn't seen her presents. Unwrap them and just put them under the tree. Santa presents dont have to be wrapped.
Agree with PPs that at 3 she will be easily distracted.
Unfortunate but doesnt have to be a big problem.

You're mother was an idiot.
But as PPs have said - just tell her Santa must have delivered them early and she can't open them til tomorrow?

Get over yourself.

As has been said, DD will believe anything at 3! Tell her they're presses for someone you know that were being stored there. Either use a diff stocking, or mentioned that her stocking is really similar, coincidentally.
She won't analyse it, she wants to believe in santa, she'll be fine in the morning :-). Just relax and enjoy Xmas eve with her :-)

I don’t see the problem at all! You are massively overreacting!