FURIOUS! My Mum just let my 3yr Old see her presents & Stocking!

[MotherofaSurvivor]

Staying at my Mums for Christmas. Brought presents the other day as all wrapped. Just finished putting everything in her Stocking in the spare room which was AGREED with my Mum that it was to be 'Present HQ' - For context, the house is a Bungalow, so I witnessed this from the kitchen and hit the roof.

So my 3yr Old follows my Mum around like a shadow as she adores her. Fine by me, gives me a bit of a break before I step in and take over.

So my Mum wanders into Present HQ (with my DD next to her) which has a Sofabed with all the presents on including the big polythene Stocking - FULL of presents!!!! My Mum turns away and starts gagging with something and I can see this in corner of my eye from Kitchen and just as I start to dive towards the room, my daughter exclaims "PRESENTS!!!!!! Stocking!!!!" and is sat looking through the stuff in the Stocking and admiring all her presents (wrapped, but still....) My Mum is stood next to her by time I shoot in and saying "Oooh! Isn't that nice!"

I. HIT. THE. ROOF.

I know that 'she's my daughter and I should've been watching her' but I was prepping veg for tomorrow and my Mum agreed to watch her whilst I did this. The door to the room has a swollen frame and so when shut, really takes quite a push to be opened. We had already spoken about how that would be perfect to hide the presents for this very reason!

AIBU to be not just upset with my Mum but bloody LIVID and feel like Christmas is ruined now? My Mum doesn't seem to see the big deal! I've spent months & Months buying bits towards Christmas as & when I could as I'm Disabled and so money is tight. SO upset

Please be kind (& festive?!) in your responses!

3 year olds aren't known for their counting or memory, tell her some of them are from you and some from Father Christmas, she won't realise there are still the same number of presents

Freudian - You really made me laugh there!

Is she only just 3 or nearly 4?

Either way you can spin her a yarn and it’ll be ok. Either F.C. just came early or something similar.

She’s unlikely to remember what happened when you get to next year.

It was naughty of your mum to take a 3yo to see her presents though.

Sorry I didn't proof read....whoops!

My mum started playing with something (an ornament?) and failed to realise my daughter was inspecting the stocking!

I can't believe people tell their kids Santa brings ALL the presents.

Chill, Winston! She’s three, all is not lost. Just claim Father Christmas has been early. No need to hit the roof, your mum probably feels incredibly bad now and you risk ruining Christmas by going crazy.

While I don't think it is the end of the world WTF was your mother thinking?? The only issue I see is the stocking as Santa only brings one present the rest are all from you so she will have no idea which ones she has seen. Maybe empty the stocking hang it up and pretend anything she has seen wasn't for her?? Good luck and try and enjoy your day xx

Pixie isn’t a bully ffs.

Your child is 3. Tomorrow morning she won’t give a rats arse that she saw the presents today. Seriously chill out and get a grip. Being livid about this is absolutely bloody ridiculous.

I'm 55 and remember a year when FC fucked up and left mine and my sister's presents in Mum N Dads room by mistake. I howled when I woke up to no presents. It was put right soon enough!

It will all be fine.

Try to forgive your mum and forget it as it'll be a horrible atmosphere if you've fallen out with your mum and that will ruin Christmas more for your dd than anything else. It can't have been nice for her to hear you Hitting the Roof.

I remember adults arguing at Christmas when I was a child.

Forget it now and have a lovely Christmas

Just say they are presents that people in your family have got for other people and Santa picks them up when he drops hers off while she’s asleep. Sorted. And chill.

Frank I don't tell her Santa brings all the presents??? Only one and the stocking?

It's not just about Santa, I'd rather she didn't see anything until Christmas morning. Apparently though, I'm unreasonable for that

Yes she is TheFairyCaravan! Clearly! That much is obvious!

I don't mean to sound like a bitch.

I had postnatal depression and suffer anxiety so I know how things like this can be so overblown in your head and it really brings a weight down. But don't let it. It's fine. She's three. She won't remember it. You can give her any old story e.g 'theyre for family. Santa is bringing yours tonight'

There was a car crash near mine today. Somebody lost their life. Somebody will have presents for them under the tree that won't be opened now. All because of the other driver being drunk. Life before Xmas cruelly snatched away.

My best friend is sat by her fathers hopsital bed whilst he is riddled with terminal cancer. They were really hoping he'd have one last xmas at home.

Get a grip. This isn't a big deal. Fuck it. Pour yourself and your mum and wine and get on enjoy your xmas.

If she mentions it tommorow tell her she dreamt it.

If the presents were wrapped it'll still be a surprise won't it?

Awwh OP. Honestly she’s 3 it’ll be fine. Don’t worry

I'd be upset too and I haven't even got half the reasons you have.
I promise it will all be ok
Take some calm breaths and focus on how excited she will be tomorrow when she gets to unwrap them all.
All those lovely presents that you have got (and santa will get credit for but never mind! )
Have a baileys or a large wine and try to forgive your mum, she I'll have just been carrying on as she normally does forgetting your dd is there for a moment.
Have a lovely Christmas with your dd it really will be

I really, really wish this is all I had to worry about.
Please calm down OP, you sound a bit unhinged. In a year's time, will it matter at all?

I understand why you’re pissed off but with a three year you could have SO easily just blagged it and she would have 100% accepted whatever you said.

For example, as you’re ushering her out the door, you could have lightly said “oh, looks like Father Christmas may have had to drop a few things off early because his sleigh is so heavy!! Now, shall we do that peppa pig puzzle that you love?!”

No she’s not Mother.

Seriously if you can’t take someone telling you to “get over yourself” then maybe you shouldn’t post in AIBU —or on MN—

FFS. She's 3. You tell her any shit, she'll believe it.
The whole build up and whatever seems to be in your head. Any good story and your DD will be jumping with joy tomorrow because Santie brought her presents.
You are BU and completely ridiculous and from your replies full of self-pity. Grow up.

MotherofaSurvivor
I. HIT. THE. ROOF.

You must be great fun to spend Xmas with

Pixie isn't a bully. You however are foul in your responses.

Your poor mum. She made a mistake.

Don't worry. if she asks tell her those presents are for nannys friends. she wont think anything of it at 3 xx