To think my brother's wife is a lunatic

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So far around the enforced family dinner table I've heard she thinks car seats are largely unnecessary and are a result of intense lobbying by the car seat manufacturers. She regularly will pull out her 1 year child from the car seat and feed them in the back seat..on the motorway..she seems very proud of this

She also dismisses the Health Visitor advising her about finger food as "middle class advice " due to the waste generated with food being thrown on the floor. Safe to say SIL is the epitome of "middle class", living in a very "middle class area" and undertaking a very "middle class" job. Weird.

The first bit would have me very concerned. Informing someone who could do something about it level of concern.

The second part is personal choice. She doesn’t have to do finger food if she doesn’t want to. As long as her baby is fed a healthy diet, it’s no one else’s business.

Not sure she’s a lunatic but she doesn’t sound very bright.

What’s an enforced family dinner table? We just have the regular table and chairs.

The carseat thing is dangerous and I would have said something.
She has a point about the waste of food though.

Nothing to do with what class she thinks she is or where she lives she's just an idiot.

finger food has its place though, to give control to baby in weaning, and also for baby to get used to textures.
so yes she is a lunatic.

Sorry let me just clarify- I don't mean to be judgemental about the way she feeds her baby. It's just really odd in my opinion to talk about^^ being given middle class advice when she is clearly middle class herself

DH had to take DD out of car seat on the motorway last week as she was screaming at the top of her lungs and the nearest services were 25miles away. We weren't just going to leave her screaming for 15mins straight

She doesn't really sound like a lunatic.

what is class though? specifically what is middle class?

Acorn, people usually talk about things relating to themselves from their own perspective. And it's not unusual to be critical of some aspect of your own 'group'.

Ahh ahah ahaha! People who don’t ‘believe’ in car seats. Like car seats are like Santa or the Easter Bunny. Morons.

Then again, surely it is just Darwinism in action.

I love how car seats have become the great unquestionable

Seriously????

Unquestionable in what sense. That there’s plenty of scientific evidence which supports their use?

Words (almost) fail me.

OP, I’d have said something to her.

DH had to take DD out of car seat on the motorway last week

Again,

While the risk of a crash on the motorway is much lower, the chances of death are much higher.

Wow.

There was a story in the last couple of weeks about a baby who died when his parents had taken him out of car seat on the motorway in order to feed him or something. They had a crash. Yes, it is a small chance but things can and do happen.

but they had a crash, would the baby have survived still in the car seat? who knows

I think the coroner said the baby would probably have survived in the seat. I don’t want to go in to details on this thread but what happened to the baby was a direct result of not being strapped in a car seat.

I want to know what an enforced dinner table is too.

If you mean being invited to her home to eat and being seated at a table and expected to stay there for the duration of the meal and for a reasonable amount of time afterwards while you partake in some polite post prandial discourse , then I assure you this is entirely normal, especially in a middle class household.

Perhaps you are from working class stock and feel more comfortable like this with ITV on at full volume?

Less chance of a baby being violently thrown through the front window if in a car seat. Same with people wearing seatbelts. I cannot believe people are so stupid. Yes you can still be killed in a car seat or wearing a seat belt. Why wouldn’t you want to try and reduce that risk? Terrible and neglectful parenting IMO

Yes, the baby would have survived. Those seats are designed for impact protection. You child in a car seat is more likely to survive a crash than anyone else in that car. There are many stories from EMTs about children surviving fatal crashes after their child seat was thrown from the car. The seat offers extremely good protection from impacts.

But also, it is at total logic failure to equate a child not in a seats chances to a child in a seat. One is very much safer than the other. The key is that those parents deliberately reduced their child’s chances of survival. It is their fault their child died.

Not a lunatic. Just a bit thick and wrapped up in herself.

Well it was 15 mins where we weighed up the risk of a crash (minimal) to the distress it was causing her to sob uncontrollably for another 15 mins (a significant time for such a little one).
Call social services this instant, as we're obviously abusive parents then

MissBax your DH had to take your child out of its seat whilst you were driving at 100 mph!