Wedding gift cash - how much is enough?

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Please help settle a disagreement with my DH...

We're off to a wedding next spring, and we're good friends with both the bride and groom. We're very happy to be attending the full day, but it's going to cost us in the region of £250 with the hotel room and travel. Then any drink on top of that. This isn't an issue, they're dear friends and it's all budgeted for. The stag and hen do's ran to around £200 for each, but again, we were happy to attend and pay that.

We're disagreeing on the gift. The wedding couple have asked for cash toward their honeymoon. Completely fine. Not what we did when we married, but our circumstances were different and we were setting up our first home together. They've been living together for years and have everything they need there.

So how much is 'enough'. Bearing in mind we've spent on the two party's and will be spending more on the day.

Thanks for any input!

£50

How much can you afford? How much would you have spent on a wedding gift?

I would give £75-£100, but it depends on your financial situation.

£25

We give 50 for an all day invite.
25 for an evening only invite.

I'd spend £40 or £50 but I expect someone will be along shortly saying that anything less than £250 is shocking...

I think asking for money from friends for a holiday is a bit off tbh.

£50 tops

We usually give £100 for good friends. It depends what you can afford though.

£50 for friends. Maybe £75 if they are very close friends and you’re feeling flush.

£100 pounds would be usual for us but it does depend on what you can afford.

I'd say £30 for friends, maybe £50 for very close friends/family. I recently attended the wedding of a close nephew and we gave then £100.

£150 for a couple. £100 for a single person is the norm here.

I'm not sure but following with interest!

£100, although maybe a little less if they were colleagues rather than friends.

£50

£50

£50

We've agreed on £50, but I'm frightened of looking a bit tight. Seems that's along the right lines though.

Thanks all for your input! DH will be vindicated and very pleased.

God I hate weddings. And I'm going to my fist one next year where the request is for money. Following this thread with interest add I have no idea what to give. I was thinking £100, but it's annoying as I'd have got them a present in the region of £30-50 and that feels cheap.

Also think about what you may have bought them as a gift. 2 crystal champagne flutes from m&s are about £20.

I think £50 is ample OP. £100 is generous for a friend unless you're all minted.

Personally we give £50, but when we asked for contributions towards honeymoon spending money at our own wedding, one couple gave £150, but most people gave £20.

I would give a £100.