Wedding gift cash - how much is enough?

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Please help settle a disagreement with my DH...

We're off to a wedding next spring, and we're good friends with both the bride and groom. We're very happy to be attending the full day, but it's going to cost us in the region of £250 with the hotel room and travel. Then any drink on top of that. This isn't an issue, they're dear friends and it's all budgeted for. The stag and hen do's ran to around £200 for each, but again, we were happy to attend and pay that.

We're disagreeing on the gift. The wedding couple have asked for cash toward their honeymoon. Completely fine. Not what we did when we married, but our circumstances were different and we were setting up our first home together. They've been living together for years and have everything they need there.

So how much is 'enough'. Bearing in mind we've spent on the two party's and will be spending more on the day.

Thanks for any input!

That's reassuring welshsoph . It is a worry. The couple we were buying for are far richer than us and need nothing. It does feel odd just giving them cash but hey ho.

Ha definitely not minted!

welshsoph you've made me feel much happier about the £50, thank you!

Thanks everyone for your input! Really do appreciate it.

£50 is ample! I'd be (and was) happy if my friends gave me a tenner.

£50 is more than enough. We always give that amount and when we got married I was so grateful to receive anything! Most people gave £50 though.

£50 is fine.

By my count, you've already spent almost £700 on their wedding (stag do, hen do, travel/accommodation), and will probably be spending more before you get home.

Give a token cash gift, or a nice bottle of fizzy wine with a card.

I give £100 but whatever you can afford is fine. No one will think £50 is cheap. We didn’t request money as wedding gifts but some people have us that, ranged from £25-£150, and most were in the £50 region.

Really depends on many factors. First and foremost how much you can afford. After that, what is the norm in your social circle, how close are you to them, and what has it already cost you in festivities etc. I wouldn’t give less than £75 (from a couple, less if a single person). I was always taught to try to cover the cost of your plate at the wedding

I got married 10 years ago, and we asked for honeymoon vouchers for a specific travel agent. Wording was for nothing, or named charities or vouchers. We had about 1/3 of guests give us vouchers. Most of those giving vouchers were professional couples with household incomes of £100K+. One friend was a millionaire. All amounts were £20/£25/£30.
I'd have found anything more embarrassing.

Oh, there were no hen/stags, and everyone travelling was put up in our house for free, with a huge array of breakfast ingredients laid on. So other costs would not have been a factor.

I'd say £100. General rule of thumb is enough to cover your meal

We didn't ask for any gifts at all (I personally think gift lists / poems are rude) we received cash between £25-£150 and some lovely gifts too. I can't remember who gave what amount of cash as it truly wasn't important to me.
No one will think you're tight.

Gosh UK is so different to Ireland.

DH and I got married last summer. Most friends gave us £50 (and everyone was there all day). Only people who gave more were my godparents, my parents and my sister; I would have felt a bit guilty if people had given more tbh.

(We didn't ask for anything btw but people did give money, vouchers and gifts)

£100 is what we usually spend (cash or vouchers depending on their preference)

When we got married we received lots of cash gifts (even though we didn't ask for any honeymoon contributions etc!) and from friends it ranged between £10-£100.

We were really touched that even friends who had travelled the length of the country, paid for accommodation etc still gave us a gift of £10, which might not sound much but the gesture and thought of it was lovely and unexpected. I would say £50 is generous xx

DH and i got married 2 months ago, we were given mostly monetary gifts as we hadn't specified any list etc. They ranged from £20+. We didn't think anyone was 'tight' and were very greatful for everything we received. When we go to weddings it varies between £20-50 depending on how well we know the people and whether its day or night. I think 50 is more than enough.

I got married this year. Third marriage for both of us (although I married the same man twice 😀), we live together and we have a small house full of stuff. We didn't specify anything but if anyone asked we just said to stick a few euros in a card for our honeymoon. Tbh - we were thrilled with anything we got!

No more than £500 (between the couple) I'd say.

£50

We gave £100 to DHs best mate this year. Plus champagne plus a personalised photo gift

We give £100 for friends/cousins and £250 for siblings weddings. But I think £50 is fine as you have already spent a fortune on attending

I don't think wedding guests should contribute towards a honeymoon. And especially rude and grabby to actually ask for money. Buy them a toaster or a set of towels.

Pretty grabby of them to ask for money for a holiday after the guests are all spending loads to be there.

50 quid tops.

Always 50 quid!