To think my sister is being a cheeky fucker?

[Cheekyeffingsister]

We have a family whatsapp group and a few weeks ago we all put lists of present ideas for ourselves/our dcs and everyone said what they would get to avoid duplicates.

Dsis sent hers over, ‘does she think we’re all minted’ says dp whilst looking at her list. Nothing under £75 for her or her dp/DCs. We’re not well off by any means (her present is more than what I’ve spent on my own child) but she had called me and said ‘oh I couldn’t find what you wanted but saw some beautiful things you’ll love while in House of Fraser so got you and dp a £150 voucher towards them’ so based on that I felt I had to get her the pricey presents as couldn’t believe she’d spent so much! (Our presents we sent we’re all under £20)

Now 5 days before Christmas she has sent a message to the group whatsapp ‘Hi guys, just to let you all know we didn’t budget that well for Christmas and Sam asked for an Xbox last minuite so we won’t be doing presents for anyone this year. Hoped to get the kids something but don’t think we’ll have time now. See you Sunday x’

AIBU to think she’s a cheeky fucker? I know I’ll get called grabby and you don’t give to receive etc but to me it seems she’s sent us all pricey things, acting like she’s doing the same then waited until everyone will have bought things to say actually she’s not getting us anything!

I’m more pissed off that she said she’d get one of the things on DDs list and now i can’t find it to arrive before Xmas.

Disclaimer as not to dripfeed - she has form for this kind of thing.

I wouldn’t give DN the expensive gift, not to be mean but it wouldn’t sit right with me to prioritise spending on a nephew (getting an Xbox) rather than my own DC. Selection boxes rule!!! (And bring soooo much joy to children)

Ok above msg didn’t quite read right, was trying to say DN wasn’t exactly missing out.

Return the gifts, get your money back and send her a message along the lines of - 'I'm so glad you said that, we're overspending too so just getting something for dcs. Can't wait to see you!'

What has DH said?

My mouth is on the floor. I really hope you don't give her any of the presents and do the selection box thing.

If your DH was serious about wanting to put the chandelier you bought her in your hall then I'd go back and say

"Not to worry - we really liked the chandelier you asked for so we'll keep it and put it up in our hall instead as we're not doing presents this year"

and add 'so you can still enjoy it every time you visit'

Spoke to DP, he’s said categorically no way is he presenting her or her family with any presents on Christmas Day and he’s taking them back.

He’s suggested inviting her dc on a trip with us after Xmas as a present for them but doesn’t want to give something for them to open as ours won’t.

Im going with what he says, he really dislikes her and the way everyone panders to her so will do his plan and not argue it.

Seems there are a lot of cheeky fuckers like her and to the posters that asked.. yes she’s always been the golden child, has everything paid for her and her DCs, borrows money with no intention of paying it back and so on..

I have replied to the text saying ‘no probs, I agree let’s just do cards this year. X’

so pleased to read your update, your dh is so right it would be awful to sit there watching your dn open presents while your dc had nothing. Interesting to see what her reply is, and have you put the chandelier up or is it going back?

Well done OP 👍🏻

She sounds manipulative

Good on your DH.

Don't let your DC be treated as less important by anyone.

Oh great text OP. And good suggestion from your DH. Do let us know her response

How much do you want to bet you will now be called mean! 😂

That’s a lovely response OP, well done

This sister really takes the

Yay! Good result OP.

Not sure CF Sister will view it that way though

Well done, OP. Very dignified response. I like your DH's idea of taking the DC out for the day too.

Yahooooooooo... well done OP..

Perfect. Pleasant. Casual. Not getting the piss taken out of you.

Hats off!

well done op - she is so cheeky!

Well done OP!

Well done OP and your DH. Hopefully she will never be able to pull this stunt again now you've stood up to her. I do hope you post her reaction as I'm a nosy cow!

Good update!

Well done OP! Have to admit I am now very keen to hear what your DSis replies...... I imagine it to be the text equivalent of spluttering rage....

Cancel the cheque get a refund on the CF's presents and give her nothing. Cheeky mare!