To think my sister is being a cheeky fucker?

[Cheekyeffingsister]

We have a family whatsapp group and a few weeks ago we all put lists of present ideas for ourselves/our dcs and everyone said what they would get to avoid duplicates.

Dsis sent hers over, ‘does she think we’re all minted’ says dp whilst looking at her list. Nothing under £75 for her or her dp/DCs. We’re not well off by any means (her present is more than what I’ve spent on my own child) but she had called me and said ‘oh I couldn’t find what you wanted but saw some beautiful things you’ll love while in House of Fraser so got you and dp a £150 voucher towards them’ so based on that I felt I had to get her the pricey presents as couldn’t believe she’d spent so much! (Our presents we sent we’re all under £20)

Now 5 days before Christmas she has sent a message to the group whatsapp ‘Hi guys, just to let you all know we didn’t budget that well for Christmas and Sam asked for an Xbox last minuite so we won’t be doing presents for anyone this year. Hoped to get the kids something but don’t think we’ll have time now. See you Sunday x’

AIBU to think she’s a cheeky fucker? I know I’ll get called grabby and you don’t give to receive etc but to me it seems she’s sent us all pricey things, acting like she’s doing the same then waited until everyone will have bought things to say actually she’s not getting us anything!

I’m more pissed off that she said she’d get one of the things on DDs list and now i can’t find it to arrive before Xmas.

Disclaimer as not to dripfeed - she has form for this kind of thing.

Can't wait to hear her reply OP.

Glad to hear you're returning the expensive items, she really is taking the piss! I would say though that by not taking issue with her shockingly priced gift list at the time you encourage her entitled behaviour. I have a relative who's quite quick to suggest expensive gifts for her dc though she wouldn't dream of spending that amount herself. I either ignore her suggestions or point out it's a bit more than I was planning to spend, no way would I feel obliged.

Maybe next year insist on suggest a limit of £10/20 per person. Get other family members on side too, preferably well in advance of the Christmas period so she can't claim she's already splashed out on you and yours and expect you to "price match" with her!

Who the hell gives a gift list! If you do, you put affordable items on it, between £1-20. Not what she has done, cheeky and rude at its best!

Are you returning the gift OP? She is a CF

Response will be “surely you can’t have budgeted so badly too?” Zero class

He’s suggested inviting her dc on a trip with us after Xmas as a present for them

What a lovely idea - your DH sounds like a real star

I do hope SIL isn't tasteless enough to make snarky remarks about your choice, but if she does at least it's only herself she'll be showing up ... and hopefully other family members will pinch your great idea for the future

Well done OP.

Love your reply, it is perfect.

Any response from CFSis??

I have to agree, your husband is the dogs bollocks OP.

As much as it pains me to say this, sometimes we NEED a man's input and perspective with stuff like this, because we get emotional and slightly irrational and let emotions take over when something is getting us het up! (many apologies if this offends anyone, it's just how I am, and many women I know, I am not meaning to generalise! )

So sometimes it's good for a man to kind of intervene and give us a rational and logical perspective. I am so glad that your husband put his foot down (though I suspect it's what you wanted anyway OP; you just needed/wanted him to give you that nudge.)

Good idea to take the kids on a wee trip by the way! But your husband is correct that if your kids are not getting anything from your sister, then your sisters kids should not get anything from you either.

I know it's kind of bad, and you will probably feel a bit guilty, but your CF sister has to be stopped. Remember (as a few posters have said,) this was HER IDEA. So her kids are getting no gifts from you because of HER.

And please PLEASE PLEASE update us on her reaction!!! evil cackle

Oh and yeah, the short, succinct text you intend to send in brilliant. Concise and breezy. Well done!

Cancel the cheque gifts!

Well done OP. Your sister is a CF of the highest order.

Did she respond to you OP?

How awful. If she had just wanted to get you a £150 voucher to be generous she would have. But mentioning the price was to guilt you into spending money on her family. At least you've had a heads up and she didn't announce it on Christmas Day!

OP what's the gift she was meant to buy your DC and roughly where are you based? Maybe someone can help.
Or I can Amazon Prime it for you? 😁

Nice OP!

I'd follow up your latest message with one suggesting she return the £150 voucher she's said she bought you and get your children a token gift each instead. Style it out with a "it'd be such a shame for the children to miss out while DP and I receive such a generous gift".

Cheeky mare!

Good reply

She is a cheeky fecker

paula yes, thank goodness there’s a big sensible man around to help out women who are too scared or simple to think of a solution themselves.

Paula, your penis is showing.

Good effort OP. Am intrigued (more than I shouuld be) about what your DSis will do next...

Fab-U-lous OP. Please update us as soon as she replies!

"So sometimes it's good for a man to kind of intervene and give us a rational and logical perspective."

Um, did I just go back to the 50's?

Good for you on that text OP, I'd like to know her response......

Um, did I just go back to the 50's?

Nope, you went to 2008 when that troll was last in fashion.