'I will so sort it'

[Dizzybeez]

Anyone else's DH of this category of 'I will sort it' but never actually does?
Examples:
In the supermarket about to purchase more tupperware because I have none (because DH takes it to work and never brings it home.) DH "Don't bother with that I have loads at work." Me, yep, I know. Literally every time I go to put leftovers away and have to use a plate and clingfilm my blood boils a little more!
We can't find the lead for the radio. I miss the radio. Can't purchase a new one because he will sort it, he has one somewhere apparently.
We have no batteries. Every time I go to get some he says no because he can get some from work. That has been months now and I have got to the point of sharing batteries between remotes.
The washing machine is leaking. He insists he can fix it but it's been going on two weeks now and it's always 'yeah I will sort it'. The machine is four years old and we have two small children. I can't cope without a washing machine (have been using it anyway with towels on the floor but now the softner tray seems to not be working too).
I get it, he doesn't like to waste money (he is tight) but he never actually follows through on anything!!!!
AIU for ordering a new washing machine a week before Christmas behind his back or should I let him 'sort it'?

Good work! congratz.

Mine was leaking and then I switched back to powder. This and not overloading the machine has stopped it leaking.

When he fails to fix it order a new one. Don't let him 'have another go at the weekend'.

Mine is the same. It causes arguments when I do take over, partly because he feels bad for not having done whatever it is, and partly because he thinks I’m being passive aggressive (I’m not, I just want the job done).

I give him deadlines (I’m doing X myself if you haven’t done it by Saturday), and just go ahead and do other stuff myself and “forget” he said was going to sort it (batteries and Tupperware would fall into that category for me).

It is a pain - I do feel like the only responsible adult in the house sometimes. We made loads of plans for my maternity leave, the only ones that have happened have been the ones I have got on with by myself. Any that needed any input at all from him just haven’t happened. He is starting to realise how little he follows through on (it’s his life goals as well as house stuff) and he does get quite down about it, but that’s who he is. He does have plenty of good points and it’s a flaw which hurts him more than it hurts me. I can bypass the worst of it.

My brother is similar (though not as bad) - I don’t know if it is boys who were brought up by mums who did everything for them and who never had to lift a finger? Or is it lack of confidence? Or just a personality trait.

Why are so many posters commenting like ‘I have one like this, he didn’t bother his manly head with trivial wifework, so I do it all lol’ as if that’s acceptable? Why have such low standards in life?

We never go on holiday together because he will never commit to a date - I go on my own, or we don’t go at all. It’s really sad. He says he wants to go somewhere and then won’t commit to a date, and then everything is booked up and we can’t go.

Just do it / buy it/ call a man anyway.

Why have such low standards in life?

Is having a partner who says, and genuinely means, they'll do something but takes ages to getting round to doing it because - as a pp said - "life happens" really such a "low standard" partner?

Fuck.

Hope my DH doesn't cotton on to that.

Going to start making a list of all the positive things I bring to his life and our relationship in case! Thankfully I can think of a few, as I'm sure the OP can when it comes to her DH....

To each her own, but I really, really like a man who just gets shit done. Could not be dealing with any other kind.

you can get those plastic takeaway microwaveable cups on internet I guess. they should be very cheap.

Yep, to each their own. I'm sure there are many people who couldn't handle a relationship with either me or you Yorick.

What are you implying? I'll have you know I'm utterly compatible with every single man alive.

As long as he gets shit done.