To expect dp to clean his own shit up

[sillysausage16]

Every day without fail, often more than once there is shit splattered all over the back of the toilet bowl which I have to clean.

Is it unreasonable to ask the shitter to clean it himself, before it hardens so that i practically need a chisel to get it off.

Fucking enrages me. Its DISGUSTING. He's a 40 year old man who's mother clearly did everything for him

"Maybe you could write a book- "Housetraining Your Adult"?! You'd make a fortune!"

It can sell alongside my future opus "Only Make Adult Relationships With Adults (and how to make this happen)"

Yuk! Even my 13 year old knows it's not acceptable to leave the loo in that state.

Sillysausage16 are you actually 16? You have to just learn to accept that certain things are the role of women and men just won’t naturally do them. So you end up doing those jobs or they don’t get done, simple as. Cleaning cooking whatever. He probably whinges when you’re incapable of fixing the electrics or putting up a shelf.

So Taylor are you saying she should just put up with a dirty loo because men don’t clean??
Sorry I didn’t realise I had gone back to 1957...

Well I put this question to you: should the same man put up with a broken light switch because a woman is unable to or refuses to fix it??
She has the expectation of cleanliness whereas many don’t, so the problem is hers.
Also 1957 was a good year for music.

@taylorj86 we have a festive troll, everybody

Who are you talking to? Are you the festive pixie commentator. It’s not nice to call names dear.
Or insist that people should drive.

You are so right Taylor . Fixing a broken light switch once every 10 years is EXACTLY the same as cleaning a shitty loo 36,500 times.

To prove this they should swap roles. Op can fix the light switch and her partner can clean the look after her every day.

Sounds fair to me

Festive pixie commentator? What are you on about? Either way, are you seriously suggesting that men are incapable of - or somehow excused from - cleaning up their own shit? You want to raise your standards a bit, 'dear'.

This is how you get your kicks at Xmas Taylor? I feel very sorry for you, hope you get more purpose and love in 2018!

@Sparklesocks I've never understood the whole trolling thing. Imagine being so bored/lonely at Christmas that you sit around trying to piss people off on Mumsnet. Tragic.

Btw OP, congratulations on your victory!

Allison the light switch was a simple example but THANKYOU for your support. Gender equality is important as you suggest.
Teaandtoast85 you have clearly missed the point, and are not one to mention standards.
Sparklesocks you have not answered my question and your compassion is misguided.
I think the real issue here is a lot of unhappy ladies here venting about men because they are obviously the root of all frustration...
Unless you’re in a boy mutual relationship lol

It is sad if people who disagree with you is a tragic affair. I wish you more tolerance for the new year.

Rub his nose in it?

Don't listen to the he's lost you've won rhetoric,you should be equals and that goes for all the cleaning and cooking too.

He's a 40 year old man who's mother clearly did everything for him.

Where’s the evidence for this? More like, ‘He's a 40 year old man whose wife —mother— clearly chose to do everything for him’.

The minute you didn’t point him in the direction of a scrubbing brush to clean his hardened shit up and told him he would no longer have loo privileges if he didn’t, was the moment you expected yourself to clear his shit up.

I've plenty evidence ie he's told me himself.

Bore off

He told you his Mum cleared his shit up for him and you thought that’s my guy. Although it’s a pretty lame excuse I’m guessing her excuse was that he was once a child, you however, don’t have that excuse but yeah blame his Mummy for your decision to clean up his shit.

I knew it would eventually be his mother's fault.

I think some of you have really low expectations in a partner. Including you op.

You have to just learn to accept that certain things are the role of women and men just won’t naturally do them.

Do you have specific jobs in mind that all men or all women do? If so, you are sadly misguided.
However would same-sex couples cope?

Great he's cleaning but too bad it's only because he's worried about facebook shaming. And not, I don't know, respecting your partner? What kind of capable adult leaves their literal shit for someone else to clean up. Disgusting.

You have to just learn to accept that certain things are the role of women and men just won’t naturally do them.

O. RLY.

What, you're saying some girl babies do not emerge from vagina with a toilet brush?

I don't have low expectations in a partner I've told him it's not acceptable: I'm certainly not ending a relationship which is otherwise good because of one thing. I'm sure I do things which annoy him which he will be discussing on dadsnet or the like.

If we wait for someone perfect we will all be incredibly lonely