To expect dp to clean his own shit up

[sillysausage16]

Every day without fail, often more than once there is shit splattered all over the back of the toilet bowl which I have to clean.

Is it unreasonable to ask the shitter to clean it himself, before it hardens so that i practically need a chisel to get it off.

Fucking enrages me. Its DISGUSTING. He's a 40 year old man who's mother clearly did everything for him

My DSS used to do this until he was about 10.

Tell him he is not a child, threatento upload a photo of it to his social media if he leaves it again

Problem dear?
Yes, love!
Broad sweeping statements don't do anyone any favours.

Oh I absolutely know it's not all men!!

He works very hard I'l admit but because I'm a preschool teacher his view is that his job is more physical and therefore he is more tired.

He will do housework if I point out every single thing that needs doing, it's like he is immune to it

Oh God really? What is the point of him?
That is disgusting. Even my son age 12 had cleaned the toilet after himself since about age 7. It's not negotiable. I do not clean up other people's shit after infant school age.

It's disrespectful. He thinks he's too good you clean up his OWN shit ... but it's ok for you to do it.

What on earth is wrong with him that his shit is splattering?? what is he eating?

Every time after he goes for a shit, go in and point out the splatters and demand he clears it up immediately.

Or LTB.

Withold everything, make his life as unleasant as possible, call him out for the animal that he is until he gets the message. There is NO WAY I'd tolerate that.

Is he sitting properly...?

I'd do toilet patrol and teach him how to use it. If he goes to the bathroom stand menacingly outside the door and say 'are you done yet dear? Is there any...ahem...residual?' armed with gloves, scrubber and cleaning agent.

He needs to use it properly.

Make a list of all the jobs that need doing in the house and garden and share them!

I don't understand why you don't walk into the toilet, see the mess and call dp. When he arrives, point and tell him to clean it. Then walk away.

Do this every time. In between, instruct him that post poo he is to out cleaning stuff down so you don't need to keep shouting for him to do it at inopportune times.

Oh god beyond grim.

What sort of use is he? What does he bring to the party exactly?

Can also confirm that #notallmen do this. My OH is meticulous.

He once told me he thinks you should always leave the toilet in the state you would want it to be in if your boss knocked on your door and asked if they could use your bathroom.

So tonight I have threatened to post a pic on Facebook of it if he doesn't clean it: he looked worried, he knows I don't give empty threats

You could post it on here too. Not that I want to look at it!
I get the peeing on seats instead. Three males all claiming someone else did it.

Uh please don't post it on here!!

Bet he all of a sudden stops doing it now.

"Men are revolting creatures that never actually turn into adults, they just get taller."

Yikes. Where do you get your men from? Wherever it is, it might be worth looking elsewhere.

^ what she said

I can guarantee if you were a miner and he was a preschool teacher his job would be harder because... he has to run around after kids all day... he has to work long hours you know... he doesn’t get a whole hours lunch he has to supervise in the playground... lost socks...moaning parents... cleaning up other people’s shit...

My husband used to do this and everytime I was greeted which skid marks I would make him go in there and clean it up straight away. I also told him if he didn't learn to clean up after himself I would start doing it with his toothbrush. He still didn't learn until he went to go use the loo and found his toothbrush sitting in it. That was about 2 years ago and he hasn't done it since

So tonight I have threatened to post a pic on Facebook of it if he doesn't clean it: he looked worried, he knows I don't give empty threats

@sillysausage16

ATTAGIRL!

@notacooldad

I don't care. Your response to me was your first response on the thread, rather than decrying his disgusting behaviour, you got butthurt about a pretty accurate observation. #notallmen! 🙄

How do you get into bed with him every night, knowing you've cleaned his shit up earlier that day? And the next day? And forevermore

Obviously there are the usual exceptions for serious illness or disability, or very young children.

Tess, I wonder whether any of these people with dirty husbands lived with them before they married them. If so, why did they marry them?