AIBU to hate my Christmas present from DH

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I've realized DH has bought me a gift set of chutneys this year and I hate it. Especially as I helped him choose a lovely gift for his mother which cost three times as much and which I would have loved. I can't even take it back because it's gift food. Is that all I'm worth to him a tenners worth of chutneys? AIBU?

Bloody chutney? I'd be FOAMING! I've hinted that I would like a nice necklace (circled a few in hsamuel/beaverbrooks leaflets) or a rose gold Pandora bracelet. Will see what i get. Husband has stepped it up this year... I got laboutins for my 30th! He's normally shit so must have taken my advice and spoken to s particular friend of mine who has similar taste to me!

I'm positive I'll also get a decent bottle of wine as due very soon with number 2 and am desperate for a very large glass of wine!

"I'd be FOAMING!"

Don't get yourself in a pickle me dear - conserve your energies and preserve your strength.

Boom, tish!

I'll get me coat.

what did you want? Doubt there's anything you need.

you could always stop this massive waste of time and money by agreeing a ceasfire on presents.

I got a sewing kit off an ex once.. So I can see his trousers.. Wed not long got together lmao

The line used on other threads (by me and by others) is that if all else was generally fine, both in your DH's gift buying and in marriage overall, this wouldn't be a big deal. So maybe it's time to look past the chutney and work out how to deal with the other issues.

Sewing Fucking Kit????

I am getting eff all. Something better than nothing....

Tell him, OP. I'd be fucking devastated, mostly because I'd think my DH didn't really know me at all, or care.

A friend got a sheet of first class stamps from her MIL.

My DH once got me a bread maker because he wanted it. I've never used it and remind him about how shit it was on a regular basis. He's never made that mistake again! My sister bought me a rolling pin and a bread board the year after I got married. I threw them across the room. She's never made that mistake again either! 😆

You don't like it: forget about whether it's unreasonable or not. Confess that you've worked it out. Maybe give him another idea?
Personally, I hate present buying. We've opted to not buy each other presents. I think it would be unreasonable to let this become the basis for a Christmas argument.

Maybe they tashe nice.

I hope you got the 'right' woolly hat for him

*taste

Why now swap the MIL gift for yours?

My ex husband bought me a “Billy Bass”. Remember those fucking dreadful singing fish from years ago. He almost had to gave it surgically removed.
We were divorced by the following October........

Well you could make a cheese and pickle sandwich this weekend and suddenly decide that you really dislike pickle... with a: would anyone else like this sandwich - it is horribly sweet - yuck- I'll go and make myself something else.

You can always go back to liking pickle after christmas present time.

YANBU. I'd not be able to hide I knew, and I'd also change his imposed £10. That's what I spent on my secret santa, not my partner. Why should his mum get a £40 present and you a £10 present that's absolutely crap.

My husband doesn't always buy me anything, because I don't always need or want anything. Sometimes I buy my own and he pays and sometimes he chooses something. The choosing can go either way!
He knows not to try to get creative though- and I've told him many times that scented candles are my favourite gift (they aren't but if he bought me another iron I might brain him with it!).
Thankfully both of us are fairly practical people and he didn't take offence at the castrating pliers I gave him one year. (he is a farmer, it's not some sort of kink!).

We don’t do extravagant presents- £25 limit- and I’ve received many domestic things (one year a pair of special glasses to wear chopping onions [santa]). But I’d be greatly pissed off by a selection of chutneys- that’s a house present, not a personal one, and the sort of thing to give someone you don’t know. Chutney ffs.

Chutney? That's a see it in the shop and bring it home on a regular night 'treat'. It's not a Christmas present.

I agree with others I would be mightily miffed if that’s what I’d been bought as it would be part of our Xmas shop - so would the cheese & biscuits to go with it!
How about getting him cheese or biscuits to go with the chutney but make sure you have something up your sleeve in case he has got you something else?
I would not be giving him a nice present if that’s all he got me!
My hubby doesn’t always get it right, but neither do I but we both try really hard to get Lovely things for each other especially on the years when we didn’t have much to spend!
I wouldn’t dream of spending more on other family members unless it had been agreed due to finances! Which we have had to do sometimes! Good Luck xx

MorningstarMoon Thu 14-Dec-17 01:37:51
Why are so many people whinging about what their DPs have gotten them this year? I'd appreciate a chutney tray with some posh cheese.

I couldn't agree more. Sounds like a lovely gift.

Firstly how do you know its your Christmas pressie? Secondly, how do you know he hasn't got you something else?
If you feel 'chut-nied' all year round, then have a word, but if he only 'chutneys' you at Christmas, maybe its because Chutney is wonderful, and he thinks the same of you.... ;-) x

You work in a department store and your DH is short of money, so do what I do. DH and I buy our own gifts and tell the other person that's what we've got. Not romantic but works surprising well for us and no unwanted gifts.

A selection of chutneys? You ARE shitting me? That’s appalling. Unless you have a genuine chutney love. Actually, even that’d be crap.

I’m 😶 speechless