He tried to make me wear another girls clothes

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Me and my ex have recently started seeing each other again after still been sleeping together the last couple of months and I found out he'd actually slept with 6 other girls since we broke up (3 months ago) but anyway we built a bridge and got over it. And decided to be exclusive again. He said he regret all of it and I believed him.

I stayed at his on Friday night and in the morning realised I'd forgotten to pack my tights. He then handed me a pair of skeleton Halloween tights and told me to wear them. He said they belonged to his housemate. Obvs I said I think I'll just go without. I didn't mention it or think much of it then a few hours later I realised the Halloween tights belonged to that of a one night stand (I'd seen her instagram after stalking my ex's social media and she was wearing the skeleton tights on Halloween) I was mortified.

I went absolutely mad at him when I realised I was beside myself with fury.

Why the fuck would you give someone a pair of tights to wear belonging to your one night stand????

He seems to think "sorry" is acceptable enough and said I was overreacting. I am mortified. How is this okay???

Gross

Why would you want all this drama? Just move on.

Why would you stay with someone like this in the first place? You built a bridge? Come on now.

Oh and go get STD tested. Goodness knows what he may have given you.

Why are you bothering with him? You can do much better!

You've shared more than just tights

Umm...maybe just stop seeing him? And get checked for STDs

Oh god, the tights are the least of your worries. Why are you with this creep? Dump him, get yourself tested at a clinic and move on.

Stuff those tights in his daft gob and run for the hills.

I don't t think these are the responses the OP wanted or expected.

Get yourself a boyf who knows how to be a boyf.

LTB! 6 other girls while he was still sleeping with you??? He can't have been that cut up about your breakup. Plus, to have such little respect for you that he would give you those tights (which probably hadn't even been washed)!

Seriously, you any girl could do so much better than that! It'll be hard but I promise you, one day you'll find a decent guy and look back on this realising you had a lucky escape.

No honestly you're all right reading it back is just insane. What am I thinking

In case this isn't a troll...

Get some respect and tell him to fuck off. And then get yourself checked for STI's- he's likely riddled.

You built a bridge? You wanna burn it OP! Pull up the drawbridge and get the fuck out of Dodge. Why would you want to be with such an utter (probably STI-infested) cock womble? Run for the hills!

Bloody hell woman, why would you waste even another second of your life on this waste of space. Pull yourself together and grow a backbone and get a little bit of self respect.

No contact: delete and block all contact details.

This made me think of the gross joke I heard as a kid.

Why do prostitutes wear fishnets?
To catch crabs.

If I were offered these tights, I’d feel disgusted.

You should just move on. He's so not worth another moment of your time.

So it would be fine to wear his housemate's tights (presumably without asking her, or she would have said "they're not my tights").

If you're so over him sleeping with these six other women, why do you care so much about the tights? Unless you think he did it deliberately because he got some level of weird enjoyment out of it, but that seems unlikely - they just got left at his house by one of the women you're fine about him sleeping with.

I don't want to be harsh - it sounds like you desperately want this reconciliation to work out. However, I'd be extremely sceptical* about his claim that he regrets every one of the six people he slept with while you guys were broken up. Why would he regret it? You weren't in a relationship at the time, and six times is a lot of times to make the same mistake.

• By which I mean "it's not even slightly true, and he probably can't quite believe you've swallowed it"

You're probably furious because the tights are a symbol of what he thinks of you. He doesn't particularly care for your feelings or respect you.

He didn't try to make you wear them in some sort of perverse way. More he grabbed some tights from the floor thinking no further than You need tights.
He has a nonchalant attitude and no respect for you or the 6 other girls he slept with.

You split up and continued to meet up for sex while he was also sleeping around. He was using you because you still had feelings for him.
You deserve better

Why do people even give the time of day to such skanks? Your worry should be getting STI tested, not tights.

I don't know why I thought any of this was alright I just love him so much lmao

Thanks for the replies though I was mortified to tell anyone else about it but that should of really been enough for me to realise it was awful and so is the fact he slept with so many people and I really need to get out of this situation

Why such a fuss over tights when you are happy enough to be at least the 7th person he has had sex with in the last few weeks???

I don't know why I thought any of this was alright I just love him so much lmao

You really need to get yours of checked out for STI’s.

Dump him, you can do so much better.

In response to all the condescending messages it's because I'm a huge idiot clearly and I'm the only person in the world to be treated like a mug before and just let it keep happening 🙄

Ive never really had anyone to talk to about it I don't have many friends and my self esteem is at rock bottom