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Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

885 replies

Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 20:12

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything Smile
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked Shock
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T Gin

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

OP posts:
LapdanceShoeshine · 12/12/2017 00:54

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EBearhug · 12/12/2017 01:17

my autocorrect always changes eg piss off to puss off.

Yes - and I always wonder what makes it think I'm likely to have gone for the less sweary option.

LapdanceShoeshine · 12/12/2017 01:35

Me too

I thought they were supposed to learn our wicked ways

Mine doesn’t like fuck either. It’s always duck Confused

Strokethefurrywall · 12/12/2017 02:23

Well... that escalated.

HashiAsLarry · 12/12/2017 06:30

Had to go to bed last night, clearly traffig slipped me a decaff bag Grin.

Catching up this morning has been as amusing as it was last night. Complete batshittery.

Btw, my autocorrect is a pita, it often changes properly spelled words to completely different words. Thing is, they're always spelled correctly.

Dippydippydora · 12/12/2017 06:50

May goodness never was the phase "you always get one" more apt
Either mommy is the OPs ex collegeue or the ex collegeues mum or she sees workplaces as fair game to the get away with whatever you want.

YouTheCat · 12/12/2017 07:28

If Mommy is the CF's mother then I think, as a churchgoer, she needs to consider 'what would Jesus do?'

I don't think it involves pouring coffee in someone's handbag. The vicar will not be happy. Grin

ImpeachTheOrangeGibbon · 12/12/2017 07:37

mommy? Are you still there?

Missuseff · 12/12/2017 07:38

Wait wait wait... does anyone know if there IS a SarcasticNet? Because...that would be amazing. Exhausting but amazing.

Groovee · 12/12/2017 07:51

Thanks for the update OP.

ChrisPrattsFace · 12/12/2017 08:00

Enjoy your coffee this morning! 😊

flowergrrl77 · 12/12/2017 08:18

Might be time for the Russians to get involved... ;)

ReanimatedSGB · 12/12/2017 08:24

I vaguely remember it being a sort of thing on the Goth scene about 20 years ago to use an old kettle or teapot as a handbag. Did CFMum look like an aging Goth?

Ceto · 12/12/2017 08:35

led to her been outed
I think some of her reasons for been off were silly

Being, ffs. And it's not down to predictive text when you confuse the past participle with the present twice in the same context.

AlpacaPicnic · 12/12/2017 08:37

The thing that's bothered me more than any other aspect of this sordid scene... The thing I can't even begin to fathom... And it's such a minor point but I can't help myself...

How can anyone justify buying a coffee just to throw it away into someone's handbag?! Takeaway coffee is pricy! Even if it's a local place and not costabucks you will probably pay a couple of pounds.. what a waste of money!

Makingahome · 12/12/2017 08:38

I hope your work take action over the emails and if she is regulated by professional body they look at the competencies and report her..

Anatidae · 12/12/2017 08:38

New handbag for you OP.

Has anyone checked netmums to see if this epic tale is being told there as well?

:)

Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?
DownstairsMixUp · 12/12/2017 08:39

This is the thread that keeps on giving Grin

AnnetteCurtains · 12/12/2017 08:47

Well , I'm thoroughly enjoying this thread Grin

MrsKoala · 12/12/2017 08:50

The thing which is baffling me about Mommy's points (well there are a few - but the main one) is that she keeps saying it could have been handled differently with the ftcf, explained to her without involving HR etc. But the OP clearly states people repeatedly spoke to her about it and she just kept agreeing and nodding and carrying on anyway.

The fact that even when HR explained it all, she questioned it with incredulity, shows nothing anyone had said had sunk in, she obviously had not thought it applied to the things she had been doing. If she thought she was trying to get away with stuff, she would have been quiet and just carried on. That she didn't means she honestly thought this was okay and that HR and everyone else must be wrong.

Abouttoblow · 12/12/2017 08:54

Morning All!
Dreamt of handbags and gladrags last night.
Great idea Anatidae I shall add it to my wish list. Might need one for coffee and another for wine.
Last night felt a bit "Twilight Zone-ish" but you all made me laugh.
Will update on the work situation when I have any info.
Have a great day Smile

OP posts:
ImpeachTheOrangeGibbon · 12/12/2017 09:03

About - is it wrong to have loved this thread?!

I guffawed so loudly last night when Mommy appeared that I woke my DH Grin

gingergenius · 12/12/2017 09:10

Brings a whole new meaning to the phrase "more tea vicar?"

😂

mikeyssister · 12/12/2017 09:17

FTCF had twins - wonder if they were girls?

Salvadore · 12/12/2017 09:28

i logged off after the bridge/police visit. How could I have missed so much.
Enjoy work op.epic threads