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Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

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Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 20:12

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything Smile
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked Shock
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T Gin

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

OP posts:
Butterandsugar · 11/12/2017 23:35

This was an engaging thread to begin with...now it's gold!

I'm all for encouraging and supporting mothers back to work. I'm also all for people working their allotted time, taking a fair and proportionate share of the workload, conducting themselves with honestly and integrity and of course - the sanctity of one's handbag.

If you can read both threads and feel the CF has a point then I think you may need to have a hard look at yourself.

Mommyto2gorgeousgirls · 11/12/2017 23:35

People on here suggesting that I'm a skiver because of my username is my working mothers point. A lot of people on here are perfect. We do not know the real reasons the cf was the way she was, it's not normal behaviour obviously. And then to just walk out of a job, suggests underlying issues. Op was the instigater, maybe the cf's manager should have acted before this whole occurrence. And yes op I have been let down by public services before, it's not ideal.

DistanceCall · 11/12/2017 23:36

Naaaa, they can't blame immigrants or sexually loose women for this Grin

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 11/12/2017 23:36

If you think having children makes you a skiver I can see why you love this thread so much.

What? Who has said that?
You will find that a huge number of MNers are working mothers.

Mommyto2gorgeousgirls · 11/12/2017 23:37

Today 23:13 DistanceCall

A Fan of CF, at least. Another skiver and liar, most likely (which is justified because SHE'S A MOMMY, don't you know).

DistanceCall · 11/12/2017 23:38

Mommy, people assume you must be skiver because you sympathise with the CF. Or, as you so eloquently put it:

You sound like a cow so you probably deserved it. She left her job because u instigated a meeting with personal that led to her been outed. It wasn't really any of your business, as she was contacting you in the meantime so obviously considered you a friend. When actually your a 2 faced so n so.

The lady doth protest too much etc.

DistanceCall · 11/12/2017 23:39

That's called sarcasm, Mommy.

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 11/12/2017 23:42

Ah I think what Distance was meaning there was that you have taken great pains to point out your status as a mother and therefore makes you more important, in your eyes, than anyone else.
Other people are mother’s and just get on with their shit.

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 11/12/2017 23:43

Sorry for putting words in your mouth there, Distance.

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 11/12/2017 23:44

Other people are mother’s and just get on with their shit.

Sorry that should be mothers, not mother’s.

DistanceCall · 11/12/2017 23:44

Not at all, Hiding. You did an excellent job there.

Mommyto2gorgeousgirls · 11/12/2017 23:44

I haven't said I was a mother until It was assumed because of my username. Which seemed fitting as this is mumsnet. Not sarcastic net. Also distance you wernt been sarcastic you were insinuating I'm a skiver a liar.

NaiceBiscuits · 11/12/2017 23:44

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totsalot · 11/12/2017 23:45

I actually can't go to bed, this is too much of a beautiful thing!

Op I hope CF and CFM take a good long look at their ridiculousness and start acting like functioning members of society now.

Willow2017 · 11/12/2017 23:45

Having children does not make you a skiver. Doing personal things during your working hours - i.e. not doing the work you are paid to do - and justifying it by saying that you can't do it in your free time because you don't want to miss out on any time with your precious children IS skiving.

The situation wasn't "handled". The CF wasn't sacked - she left her job because she was told she couldn't skive any more and she had to put in the works she had illegally taken off.

AND THEN she asked the OP to lie for her.

If she's a victim, she's the victim of her own actions. Nobody else's.

This is it all in a nutshell.
Which part of this is too difficult to understand Mommy?

Mommyto2gorgeousgirls · 11/12/2017 23:46

Hiding you really need to get life with your corrections, at least half the population know predictive text changes all sorts of words to whatever it likes

Traffig · 11/12/2017 23:46

We do not know the real reasons the cf was the way she was, it's not normal behaviour obviously
Love your use of CF terminology to refer to the CFperson you are supporting.

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 11/12/2017 23:46

I haven't said I was a mother until It was assumed because of my username.

That is fucking priceless.
I do realise that I’m not actually behind the wallpaper of course.

And Mommy, if you are some bloke sat there in his pants enjoying winding up some middle aged women, please know we are enjoying it as much as you are.

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 11/12/2017 23:47

If I'm an instigator so be it.

I stand by everything I've done and said.

We do know the real reason CF was the way she was. She was lazy and entitled. I know, I was there.

OP posts:
HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 11/12/2017 23:48

Hiding you really need to get life with your corrections, at least half the population know predictive text changes all sorts of words to whatever it likes

Are you referring to when I said it should be mothers and not mother’s?
I was correcting myself.

DistanceCall · 11/12/2017 23:48

Mommy, I was presuming that the sympathies of someone who defended the CF's actions and called the OP a "cow" and a "so-and-so" would indicate that she had similar leanings to the CF - who is indeed a skiver and a liar - , yes.

this is mumsnet. Not sarcastic net.

You haven't been here long, have you?

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 11/12/2017 23:51

So did you name change specifically to comment on this thread Mommy?

OP posts:
Mommyto2gorgeousgirls · 11/12/2017 23:51

No one minds the odd spelling/grammar mistake here. Dont worry 😂😂now that's sarcasm

justilou1 · 11/12/2017 23:53

OMFG
My predictive text changes everything and misspells it.

Really?
REALLY???

DistanceCall · 11/12/2017 23:53

Shouldn't you change your username to Mommyto2gorgeousimaginarygirlsinmyhead, Mommy?