To think mumsnet is less bullying than it used to be?

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I've been here for years but do name change to protect identity.

In my early days of posting I'd see threads go to the maximum number of posts frequently with bullying type behaviour. I was on the receiving end myself a few times.

There used to be a real group of goaders who could stir it up. Maybe there are more posters now and that's why it's more mellow.

Anyhow it's a much more pleasant place to be these days

I have nothing more to say to you Maisie and stop stalking me or I will report.

I have noticed your comments on threads.
It's not stalking. ffs.

And anyway, you've just been on another thread making snidey comments about me saying you need to 'ask my permission to post' and othet crap so don't start playing the victim because I made one observation that you are always complaining about teachers.

Things used to be better in the old days. You'd go out after breakfast on your Chopper and only come back at tea time. Less traffic. Building sites were far more fun to play on. Spangles. Look In magazine. Posters were more intelligent. We were the right size for Space Hoppers. OliviaMumsnet. T'was All Fields. etc.

golden

OP, I think the somewhat attacking post from MaisyMay in reply to a mild observation, proves the point re your thread title. No, there is not less bullying, sadly.

I’m a 2-year lurker, only this year poster. Even managed an AIBU post recently. Survived it, but barely.

I can say that mostly I need to watch MN from the safety of the beach. There are too many sharks in the water most days. And if you happen to get so much as a paper-cut, look out.

I suspect that people who have got the knack of the ebb and flow (some times of day are better? Or days of the week?) can navigate the waters of MN quite nicely.

I’m still flailing about, oarless, mostly. Sometimes trying to offer a hand or throw out a lifeline. I’m not alone in this, I don’t think.

To change up the metaphor, I sometimes feel we are moths drawn to the MN flame. Hungry for connection, but (rightly) wary of being scorched.

Interesting thread, enjoying the other perspectives.

I have been on for seven years under a variety of names and I think it is less bullying overall, although sometimes someone will get ridiculously nasty.

I once had an incredibly venomous and personal attack following a completely innocuous post on a light hearted thread, where a well known poster (at the time) accused me of "playing the cancer card" when I mentioned the fact my aunt had terminal cancer and was going through chemo. I was just gobsmacked that anyone would be so vile and disgusting, but this poster seemed to enjoy being a total bitch to quite a few people, it wasn't that she just hated me.

I think there is less of that now, but also fewer hilarious threads.

Skittles, "survived it, but barely" What do you mean by some times/days are better than others? "Better" as in more confrontation or less (quieter.)

Skittlesandbeer
I lurked for a while before posting.
I think you start getting a feeling for whar's actually worth posting on and what isn't.

I think there's a lot more people dishing it out and then crying when challenged now and it feels sometimes when you arrive at a thread that it's probably better to move on because a collective view has been established and yoy can tell any view to thr contrary is only going ti get you shot down in flames.
Other places, like feminism, things can get heated but it's always intetesting. My views have shifted due to discussions there. Even if I don't always agree, it's typically quite thought provoking. I've found some threads on education intetsting debating with people and it's good to hear other views (just got to navigate when it's worth replying). In the conception threads it's all very nice there and even AIBU can be good when the poster is actually interested in other views rather than just wanting validation (and then having the thread pulled if they don't like it).

perchi

I suppose I mean that occasionally I see comments like ‘that’s what you get for posting in the night’ or ‘on a weekday morning at 6am’ and I’ve not been on here long enough to crack that code for myself.

Are some times more feral, or more supportive, than others? Perhaps it’s just that what can feel like helpful consensus from 20 responses feels more like a traumatic pile-on when it’s 200. I do love it when a fun/witty thread takes off in a ‘peak period’, though.

My confusion is exacerbated by the fact I’m posting from a very different timezone to most!

Agree. Haven't been on for a few months as the last time I posted I had a spelling mistake in my op. I got absolutely slaughtered for it and decided to stop using mumsnet for a bit. It was ridiculous. I've been back on for a few days any haven't seen any bullying up to now. Fingers crossed people have grown up a bit

Never mind, have just spotted the bitching going on in this thread
It was good while it lasted

Skittles, I don't really know yet, I'm quite new myself. I've found some friendly threads and some quite horrible ones, but I can give as good as I get sometimes! What time are you right now then, if you don't mind me asking?

Can’t remember how long I have been here. Maybe 10 years (eek)
When I joined there were lots of phrases used over and over that I don’t see recently such as - boils my piss, clutches pearls and sets my teeth on edge.
I remember my sister telling me to join and said Aibu was a nest of vipers. It was. Some comments could take your breath away , but they were clever comments and quite often funny. I can’t remember the last time I really laughed at mn yet years ago me and sis would regularly send each other threads that were hilarious- penis beaker is one that I still chuckle about.
There was always - write in paragraphs type comments but they were usually jumped on pretty quick for being pedantic twats

Oh and there seems to be less news related threads in Aibu these days. I learnt way more here about MH370 than I did on the news. There were pilots and engineers etc giving really informed views.
I think the bullying is still here but the intelligence less so