To think mumsnet is less bullying than it used to be?

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I've been here for years but do name change to protect identity.

In my early days of posting I'd see threads go to the maximum number of posts frequently with bullying type behaviour. I was on the receiving end myself a few times.

There used to be a real group of goaders who could stir it up. Maybe there are more posters now and that's why it's more mellow.

Anyhow it's a much more pleasant place to be these days

@fruit I definately agree re the cliques from a few years ago. I don't know if it is because they ended up banned or if it is because mn is a much bigger community nowadays that they faded away. My first few years on here were spent being ignored by said people so I rarely posted. But it seems to have become a very interesting place. I've seen so many threads where posters who have namechanged have had to prove they aren't trolls by quoting some classic threads. It's quite sad really.

I'm not sure it's really possible to be 'bullied' over the internet though?

crackednips of course it is. Brenda Leyland ring a bell?

Untrusting* not interesting. Although, don't get me wrong. MN is also interesting!

To whoever asked if you can really be bullied over the internet, of course you can Ever heard of cyberbullying??

It's as bad as ever, let's of posters use MN to fluff their Ego. Reminds me of teenage girls asserting themselves at school. But I've also had lots of support and lovely replies over the years too, I guess some just can't help wanting to be top dog still. Pathetic really and very cringey!

Daphnecandobetterthanfred

I must pencil in the term 'bitchplopping' in a conversation at some point this week.

Reminds me of teenage girls asserting themselves at school.

Precisely babybauble

jonsnow I think I learnt it in here, but I work with the absolute queen of bitchploppers so it's been very useful! If I say "I've streamlined how we do these reports," she'll say "well that's a waste of time, no one even looks at them." If I say about something that's gone well, she'll say "that won't last" and roll her eyes. Literally any good thing I do or mention she curls out a tiny little poop of distaste Fortunately she's not senior to me so I have a nice line of sarcastic comebacks. I'm leaving after xmas and I'm already so excited to never see her again!

I'm leaving after xmas and I'm already so excited to never see her again!

I'm not suprised and hurrah to soon never having to see her again soon daphne!

I've worked with some pretty awful people before, in the career I chose you have to develop a very thick skin very quickly. I've lived it the past fifteen years and can spot such characters a mile off. Online and off. So the comments on here are water off a ducks back to me, the same posters will pick on the 'new kids' hoping they'll bite without even entertaining the possibility that that new name might not be a new poster. It does concern me though sometimes when @MNHQ let a thread run when it's clearly a 'wind em up and watch em go' goady fucker whose sole purpose of starting such a thread is to fill in a spare free day they have and being determined to have the last word, not everyone can take it and a lot of peoples mental health is so fragile I'm concerned that the next person they target won't be able to take it on the chin as well as most posters can and do.

The fawning is pretty sickly.

the fawning is pretty sickly

What threads are you reading?

I have been on mn 3 years or so and have the same impression. The general atmosphere seems more supportive. Perhaps it's because I rarely read the AIBU board now, except if something interesting pops up on active.

What threads are you reading? I'll have to check my database. [santa]

I have not witnessed any 'fawning' either. What are people fawning over?

What are people fawning over? Still database checking [santa]

Is it like TRexing?

My apologies to the poster I evidently misinterpreted but there are often suggestions that the child free have no place here.

@Sparklingbrook

Fawning happens in spring, and the Does can get very aggressive if you wander too close

I know I'm a bit late with this comment but I just wanted to say, I've noticed a lot of needling and hurtful posts coming from teachers lately.

I have noticed that too Domani.

How did I know that as soon as i saw you'd commented this post you'd be on about teachers Domani.
I don't think I've seen a single education thread you've been on where you've not gone straught for 'i used to respect teachers but i don't now because they make me not respect them' / reasons why the teacher must be unreasonable (even when there's not enough info in ghr OP to say) and any teacher who comments saying 'maybe consider these othet factors before kicking off' only seem to be defending awful bullies.
You seem ti have a right chip about teachers at the moment

Think you're right there Maisie. I also have a chip on my shoulder about SW's too, because between them they've ruined my son's life. He's 23 and can't write a single word except sign his name and that's a struggle for him. So excuse me if I DO have a chip.

Domani
You're more than reasonable to be pissed off at a situation affecting your child.

Looking for situations to just slag off entire professions because of your experience seems a bit much though. It's quite a jump from 'i feel people involved in my situation failed my child' to SW and teachers are awful as a group.

Based on that logic I could have a strong dislike of parents because some parents I've been involved with have harmed or neglected their childten. But that would be an unfair generalisation to make because most are doing their very best and want what is best for their children.