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Original poster

To be annoyed that remembering my dp's prescription is my job?

58 replies

just5morepeas · 07/12/2017 22:45

My dp is on tablets that need picking up from the pharmacists every few months or so (I loose track).

I don't mind picking them up - he works full time and I'm a sahm, so I don't mind that. But he never keeps track of how many he has left so it's always when he's completely run out that he asks me about it!

I'm going to have to start keeping a reminder of when he's next due them I think. Ugh. (I know I don't have to, but it probably would make it easier on me to do so.)

When it's something he has to take everyday for the rest of his life I'd think he'd have a better handle on it than this! Argh!

OP posts:
acquiescence · 07/12/2017 22:46

Same here! I am planning to get him to set up with one of the companies that request it from your GP and deliver.

Fishface77 · 07/12/2017 22:48

So tell him to do it himself.
Why are you cleaning up HIS messes?
Bet he wouldn't forget his report for work.
And if his health suffers that's his problem.

Penfold007 · 07/12/2017 22:49

Are you his mother or his partner?

GreenTulips · 07/12/2017 22:53

DH manages this himself via the doctors website

My 12 year old does hers and it emails me when she's done it so I know to collect - most times she messages me to say she's collected on the way home from school

He's a grown up and should enable to do this all by himself

deepestdarkestperu · 07/12/2017 22:53

I'm pretty sure it's not your job! He's an adult, tell him to sort it out himself.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 07/12/2017 23:04

Do it or don't do it, who cares? My husband wouldn't remember his inhalers and he's not very organised. I am and I arrange them, I make sure there's a small 'stock'. I'm neither his mother nor his nanny.

This isn't aimed at you but this is just another thread for women to be insulted.

PickAChew · 07/12/2017 23:08

If he can't be arsed to communicate the need for a repeat prescription, it shouldn't be your job.

Glumglowworm · 07/12/2017 23:09

Surely he can see why he’s running low and ask you to pick them up when you get chance? If he asks you while he’s still got a week or two left it won’t matter if you don’t get to it immediately. That level of foresight shouldn’t be beyond any functioning adult.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 07/12/2017 23:09

Oh fgs! If it annoys you stop doing it. Or carry on being a martyr but stop whingeing about it.

FormerlyFrikadela01 · 07/12/2017 23:11

Do it or don't do it, who cares? My husband wouldn't remember his inhalers and he's not very organised. I am and I arrange them, I make sure there's a small 'stock'. I'm neither his mother nor his nanny.

This isn't aimed at you but this is just another thread for women to be insulted.

Same here. I organise pretty much our whole lives down to what shifts dp and I work becasue he just isn't organised enough. I don't mind... he brings other things to the relstionship.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 07/12/2017 23:12

Yes... just don't do it. That'll learn him.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 07/12/2017 23:14

Mine too, Formerly. He's he kindest person I know.

AIBU to wonder why some women bother to partner up at all and just don't buy sperm online?

gamerchick · 07/12/2017 23:15

You don’t have to take this job on if you don’t want it OP. Some people are happy to. It doesn’t mean it’s universal.

Mine takes care of his own meds. He’s diabetic amongst other things and needs a huge bag full of the things.

I have no clue and nor do I want to know. If he runs out then he sorts it himself, as do I with mine.

Fishface77 · 07/12/2017 23:16

It's not another thread for women to be insulted but op is obviously and rightly pissed of that her DH can't plan ahead. Then the rushing around for his meds falls to her so if she doesn't do it and he doesn't get his meds he will (hopefully) learn for next time.

MummaTwinkleToes · 07/12/2017 23:17

Same thing here. DH managed to collect his tablets previously but now I’m on maternity leave it’s another job that falls to me.

Butterymuffin · 07/12/2017 23:20

Get them for him but don't rush around. If there's a gap of a few days remind him that it's because he needs to tell you earlier. If he doesn't feel the consequence, he'll never see it as his problem.

PlaymobilPirate · 07/12/2017 23:25

I couldn't get pissy about it tbh - if you're a sahm you presumably have more time than him so could fit it into your day more easily (waits to be told you have 12 kids under the age of 5 to look after)

Part of a partnership is picking up the little things as and when you can. Tbh I'd class prescriptions as part of household admin and just order them every 3 months or whatever.

Original poster
just5morepeas · 07/12/2017 23:25

I'm glad it's not just me who feels like this.

Just to be clear, I really don't mind picking them up, it's the last minute every time thing that grates a bit! Its the fact that not only do I have to get them, but also apparently remember when they're due.

In the grand scheme of things, yes, I'll do this because he's good in other areas. But it's still annoying!

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Davros · 07/12/2017 23:30

Try to switch to Pharmacy2u. Your GP would have to be registered though I think. They send reminders and the meds come direct to you once GP approves repeat prescription ordered online.

Original poster
just5morepeas · 07/12/2017 23:36

I'm assuming there's a charge for that service Davros? Because i 've been thinking about that type of thing but assumed it was expensive.

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StripeyDeckchair · 07/12/2017 23:42

How easy is it for you to get a prescription?

My GP (A major city, not the middle of nowhere with crap internet) only accept written requests for repeat prescriptions handed in to the surgery & you then collect it 2 days later.

They are open 8.30-18.00 M-F. I find it difficult
/nearly impossible to get a repeat request in with FT work, children etc to juggle. It irritates me that the are so old fashioned. I would move but there is no local GP taking on patients.

Original poster
just5morepeas · 07/12/2017 23:45

It's on repeat - although they do managed to bodge the dose depressingly regularly and I have to go back again the next day.

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Gaudeamus · 07/12/2017 23:46

Could he not put a reminder on his phone?

I think it's fine for people in a couple to divide jobs as best suits their aptitudes and availability, but it's really not good if a) either party is incapable of managing in life without assistance from the other or b) the incompetence of one party unfairly disadvantages (or enrages) the other.

In this case it appears that both a) and b) pertain, so your husband really ought to take on the management of his own medication. What would happen if you were ill or away for some reason?

Also, organisational skills can be learnt in the majority of cases. Its mostly a matter of fully accepting that the matter in question is your responsibility (which can only happen if other people refuse to do it for you), and then cocking up a few times to reinforce why you should get on top of it.

SilverySurfer · 07/12/2017 23:47

Assuming no-one forced you to take on the job of remembering your DP's subscription, you presumably chose to do it. If it's something you no longer wish to do, simply tell your DP it's his responsibility to notice when his meds are running low. It's hardly rocket science is it?

Viviennemary · 07/12/2017 23:49

If you're the organised one then just do it. I don't see that it's a big deal if he works and you don't.

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