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AIBU to be really annoyed that most NYE parties in/around London do not allow toddlers?

233 replies

tashka · 05/12/2017 15:51

I really want a propert NYE party this year and DD is still sleeping during the day so we can put her to bed later in a day and then she'll be able to stay awake until midnight. So I was trying to find some nice place with a NYE party for about £50 per person around SW London which would allow a toddler but could not find any (( all nice places seem to be either too expensive (£100+ per person) or for 18+ only…

I feel so annoyed about it! All I want is to have a good time and celebrate the NYE with my family!

Anyone has any ideas for NYE party near London with toddler? )))

OP posts:
runwalkrun · 05/12/2017 17:40

My village has a family friendly party in the village hall. It's BYO booze and snacks, dancing in the hall and a quiet area in case needed.

that sounds like a laugh a minute Hmm

GloriaGutbucket · 05/12/2017 17:41

There is no age restriction because nobody can believe anyone would be stupid enough to take a toddler to a NYE party

Seconded.

Butterymuffin · 05/12/2017 17:44

Have you no other friends or family with younger children who would host NYE at theirs? If not, hire a cottage and gather at that. Or just suck it all up till next year and have a house party then.

Aeroflotgirl · 05/12/2017 17:46

run that's fine for toddlers and children, but anybody else will be going to the NYE party that op wants to go to with her young child. In a posh bar somewhere in Leicester Square or Soho.

Tartyflette · 05/12/2017 17:46

For those saying go to France -- I was in France last New Year's Eve and have been for NYE about 4 times in recent years (not ski-ing, may be different in a ski resort).

But the celebration is about FOOD no dancing or excessive drinking, just a 12-- seven course dinner in a v.nice restaurant with friends/relatives, perhaps live music and possibly a singer (to listen rather than dance to) fireworks at midnight perhaps. Definitely not a party, UK-style. And the dress code is, um, variable, although not generally super-dooper-dressy.

Even so there were very few young children in evidence AFAICR. And no ados (teenagers) at all, presume they're all off doing their own thing.

runwalkrun · 05/12/2017 17:46

and I do not want a babysitter as I want to spend the NYE with my DD))

In God's name WHY?
I love my children to bits, but I don't want to spend every waking moment with them. We're not joined at the hip, and it's good to get a babysitter and have an evening away from them once in a while.

You'll end up with clingy children if you never go out without them.

Insomnibrat · 05/12/2017 17:48

I can't believe how self absorbed you're being OP. Sod your toddlers needs, sod everyone else at the parties needs, let's be honest, it's all about YOU.
There'll be parents of toddlers there for whom this might be a rare occasion for them to be like, and amongst proper adult company at a proper adult event. Don't ruin it with carrot sticks and candy crush.

Aeroflotgirl · 05/12/2017 17:48

It does not sound like fun with a crotchity toddler in toe running about everywhere and you trying to helicopter round her, whilst avoiding people carrying drinks and food. I would much rather an adult only NYE experience.

Aeroflotgirl · 05/12/2017 17:50

Take your rose tinted specs off and see the reality, with a young, you would probably last until 9-9:30pm before they start to get ratty and want their bed.

Aeroflotgirl · 05/12/2017 17:52

Next year do your research, and book Alton Towers, or Chessington, or Butlins for a more child friendly party.

Originalfoogirl · 05/12/2017 17:53

NYE isn't small child friendly. I don't know many toddlers who wouldn't be bloody miserable or dead on their feet if kept up until 1 or 2 am

This. Not a good idea for most kids, nor for their parents either.

AlexaAmbidextra · 05/12/2017 17:55

Who the fuck would want to spend good money on NYE to be surrounded by fractious, overtired toddlers? I'd be really pissed off. Hmm

LunasSpectreSpecs · 05/12/2017 17:58

I do not want a toddler beside me at a New Years Eve party. You cannot possibly be so deluded.

Oh she can. So, so deluded. Because obviously HER toddler is the bestest toddler in the world, and rules and social conventions don't apply to her offspring. OP would also be totally oblivious to the eye-rolling and death stares from other people who had had the common sense to leave their children at home.

Insomnibrat · 05/12/2017 18:02

I suspect this thread might disappear before midnight, just like OP's toddler.

Basecamp21 · 05/12/2017 18:03

Not sure if they are still going but whirleygig used to welcome kids....mine loved going and I still got the flyers until recently.

LambMadras · 05/12/2017 18:04

A toddler, a late night, and loads of drunk adults. What could possibly go wrong?

Sounds. Fucking. Horrific.

notangelinajolie · 05/12/2017 18:09

How about the theatre instead?

LostInShoebiz · 05/12/2017 18:11

This sounds like a friend of mine. Turned up to a 40th birthday in very exclusive and very adult Soho nightspot with an 8 year old and wondered why PFB wasn't allowed in. Kicked up a fuss for an hour or so at the door. No one has seen her since as she won't come out if it's not DC-friendly, even weddings and funerals.

RavingRoo · 05/12/2017 18:14

Try a dinner and dance type thing in North London - I go to various Hindu, Sikh, Jewish community NYE parties there which are professional and great but also family orientated. Anyone can go, and they welcome kids in a way that more formal places don’t.

Stickerrocks · 05/12/2017 18:15

Can I just ask what you intend to do with your toddler at a NYE party? The music will be loud. The crowd will be loud. You won't be able to get out toys. There will be no space for a toddler on the dance floor. She will undoubtedly get trodden on by someone, because everyone gets trodden on by someone. You won't be able to socialise with anyone except your DD. It sounds like a thoroughly miserable evening for you, her and anyone who treads on her. Stay at home, watch CBeebies Bedtime Story together, put her to bed and then open a bottle of fizz. You can have a NYE social life again in around another 13 years.

Spangles1963 · 05/12/2017 18:24

Um,just why would anyone actually want to take a toddler to a NYE party? If I went to a NYE party and found loads of toddlers running about,I would be seriously pissed off rather irritated.

PanPanPanPing · 05/12/2017 18:26

Gordon Bennett Hmm

Elledouble · 05/12/2017 18:38

I used to work in a Beefeater pub and I’m sure there were kids about on NYE. Maybe worth finding somewhere like that that’s casual and family friendly? The food was crap and overpriced of course, but the atmosphere was good.

VladmirsPoutine · 05/12/2017 18:45

Stickerrocks my understanding is that the OP would be with like minded individuals; other families and so forth in a suitable place. Not literally bringing her toddler to a nightclub.

Glumglowworm · 05/12/2017 18:55

YABVU and ridiculously selfish

Nobody wants to pay money and spend NYE with your toddler.

Your toddler will be better off at home in bed.

You chose to have a child. That means you have to sacrifice some things and tbh a NYE party is a pretty minor sacrifice in the grand scheme of things