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AIBU to be really annoyed that most NYE parties in/around London do not allow toddlers?

233 replies

tashka · 05/12/2017 15:51

I really want a propert NYE party this year and DD is still sleeping during the day so we can put her to bed later in a day and then she'll be able to stay awake until midnight. So I was trying to find some nice place with a NYE party for about £50 per person around SW London which would allow a toddler but could not find any (( all nice places seem to be either too expensive (£100+ per person) or for 18+ only…

I feel so annoyed about it! All I want is to have a good time and celebrate the NYE with my family!

Anyone has any ideas for NYE party near London with toddler? )))

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Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 05/12/2017 19:30

Op has not suggested any such thing, Vladmirs? She wants a "proper party", and is pissed off that her toddler wouldn't be allowed in. If it was as you suggested there'd hardly be a problem? Confused

NotAgainYoda · 05/12/2017 19:35

Oh OP you are a funny one Grin

Barbie222 · 05/12/2017 19:36

Give it a few years and toddler will hopefully be buying you the bubbly. Until then there’s babysitters and staying in.

InfiniteSheldon · 05/12/2017 19:37

I went to Nye party in a pub a couple of years ago paid in advance smart dress code loads of bloody kids doing knee skids on the dance floor worst Nye ever yabvu

NotAgainYoda · 05/12/2017 19:37

((You really love brackets too))

Aeroflotgirl · 05/12/2017 19:38

A proper party is one with drink and adult behaving well like adults letting their hair down, swearing, sillyness, drunken behaviour, not a place for young children, or where they will be appreciated. People have paid through the nose to have a good time, not to be careful as a child is on the scene. Yabvvvu and selfish, you had children so you have to make sacrifices, and go to family friendly parties, not ones in nightclubs and bars.

PyongyangKipperbang · 05/12/2017 19:39

I agree with Luna

Just because certain parties are not child friendly/welcoming, doesnt mean that we all hate kids. There are plenty of child friendly events around (such as would happen in Spain/France etc) but that isnt what the OP wants and that is why SIBU.

If she wants the posh frock, posh food party then she must leave her child a home. If her child must be in attendance then she must change her expecations. Simple.

VladmirsPoutine · 05/12/2017 19:40

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar I must have got the wrong end of the stick then because the alternative is just batshit. Who wants to party with or indeed be around a toddler on NYE in a club?

expatinscotland · 05/12/2017 19:46

'This sounds like a friend of mine. Turned up to a 40th birthday in very exclusive and very adult Soho nightspot with an 8 year old and wondered why PFB wasn't allowed in. Kicked up a fuss for an hour or so at the door. No one has seen her since as she won't come out if it's not DC-friendly, even weddings and funerals.'

Yep, I knew a couple of people like this. Knew, because people who are joined at the hip to their kids are beyond boring. Made everything a PITA. Brought a toddler to a boozy dinner party and we just stopped pandering and went ahead and swore and played Cards Against Humanity and danced around.

Chillyegg · 05/12/2017 20:01

I hate New Year’s Eve. If however I’d venture out and spotted your 2 year old I’d be seriously appalled!
I’d be very concerned about your child’s safety and welfare! Your exposing your child to loud hot drunk strange adults who mainly you don’t know . These strangers could be on anything and may not responsibly act around your child or even be safe to be near your child. What if someone’s coked up to there eyeballs and hurts your kid? It’s NYE it’s an adult environment and no one should should stop having a drink cus you want to be cool mum and bring your kid . It makes you selfish and negligent! and What on earth is the attraction about taking a 2 year old out ? My 2 year old will be in bed where she belongs and yours should be in bed aswell.

Chillyegg · 05/12/2017 20:02

Also if your blathered how are you going to manage to be responsible to look after your child? Get a sitter or stay home.

Nancy91 · 05/12/2017 20:06

Erm... you have been out on New Years, right? Or to any adult party, ever?

Sayyouwill · 05/12/2017 20:07

I would be incredibly pissed off if I went to a party and there was a toddler there

WaxOnFeckOff · 05/12/2017 20:11

Not my cup of tea, but my friend goes to her local Beefeater type place. They book a meal and then keep the table and the place put a disco type thing on, kids are fine and although my friend and her family go home, the attached Premier Inn do a deal on overnight accommodation.

ForalltheSaints · 05/12/2017 20:12

YABU. First World Problem!

A sitter if you can find one, or stay at home. I'm sure Jools Holland will have some interesting musicians to keep you entertained.

WaxOnFeckOff · 05/12/2017 20:12

I would add though that this is in Scotland where it's generally pretty normal for children to stay up or be gotten up to bring in the New Year.

Ragwort · 05/12/2017 20:16

How exactly do you enjoy a NYE party with a toddler, what do they do whilst you are eating/drinking/dancing or whatever you do all evening? The mind boggles. We have a 16 year old and are still happily staying home on NYE, nice meal, a few board games and plenty to drink with Jools Holland on the TV. The thought of being out with a toddler just wouldn't cross my mind. Confused

LeonoraFlorence · 05/12/2017 20:20

We alternate hosting a party within our group of friends who all have children. Is that an option?

Sashkin · 05/12/2017 20:26

I don’t venture into central London myself on NYE, it is carnage. I certainly wouldn’t dream of taking a small child out - I think they would find all the drunken crowds quite distressing tbh.

Sashkin · 05/12/2017 20:27

And I have been out to plenty of bars in Spain, France, Italy and Germany - there were definitely no toddlers raving at 2am.

NataliaOsipova · 05/12/2017 20:31

I certainly wouldn’t dream of taking a small child out - I think they would find all the drunken crowds quite distressing tbh.

I think this is a really good point to consider. My kids are night owls and will be up until midnight (in our house, with friends before I get flamed!). But NYE in London is a pretty hostile environment. It just isn't the place to be out until late with a toddler. I say this as someone who generally finds London and Londoners very courteous and considerate of people with small children - but NYE is probably the worst night of the year to be "out" and you won't be cut the same sort of slack because of your child that you would be at another time.

Monkeypuzzle32 · 05/12/2017 20:31

it does irritate me when asked for a recommendation, you give a decent rec and its utterly ignored. Hmm

Mumof56 · 05/12/2017 20:35

No. I couldn't think of anything worse than buying tickets for a nice Nye event and upon arrival discovering a load of toddlers.

MentholBreeze · 05/12/2017 20:42

Took our two to one in Munich at a hotel - dinner then party/fireworks last year.. DS1 (6 at the time) was dancing away like a mad thing - absolutely loved it (and no problem - it wasn't 'full' of toddlers - just ours and a few other kids in a sea of adults), and the people we were with enjoy our company enough to not mind our kids being there. DS2 (3) survived too - albeit on my or DP's shoulders by the end.

It's a bit over-budget, but perhaps a hotel has something going on? If you're guests then it's going to be hard to not let you in.....

WitchesHatRim · 05/12/2017 20:47

We've seen NYE in in many places around the world due to DH job.

I can country number of DC there on one hand.

What exactly do you expect your DD to do with people getting drunk around her?

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