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AIBU to be really annoyed that most NYE parties in/around London do not allow toddlers?

233 replies

tashka · 05/12/2017 15:51

I really want a propert NYE party this year and DD is still sleeping during the day so we can put her to bed later in a day and then she'll be able to stay awake until midnight. So I was trying to find some nice place with a NYE party for about £50 per person around SW London which would allow a toddler but could not find any (( all nice places seem to be either too expensive (£100+ per person) or for 18+ only…

I feel so annoyed about it! All I want is to have a good time and celebrate the NYE with my family!

Anyone has any ideas for NYE party near London with toddler? )))

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LunasSpectreSpecs · 05/12/2017 16:33

I think people are confusing two things.

Of course those of us with kids do stuff at New Year's - we go to friends, or get together with family, or as someone else said, hire the village hall with likeminded families. All fine, and of course you'd expect there to be kids there.

But that's different from paying for a "party" event at NYE which is generally about dressing up, food, cocktails and dancing. That is not the sort of environment where you'd expect to find a child. (because it's not appropriate for a child to be there).

OP is looking for the adult, sophisticated, boozy and foodie NYE, but with her toddler in tow. If I were paying £££ for a special night out, I'd be well pissed off have hordes of little kids running around.

thecolonelbumminganugget · 05/12/2017 16:34

What are your friends doing? Toddler or no toddler, I'm not sure I understand why you'd want to buy tickets for a party where you don't know anyone else

Insomnibrat · 05/12/2017 16:34

I'm in the YABU camp. NYE parties are adult centric events. Don't put your own child and everyone else through the mill just because you want a night out. FFS.

Monkeypuzzle32 · 05/12/2017 16:37

The Rivoli Ballroom in Brockley NYE party allows children-quite young from what remember, its about £25 per ticket.

SpitefulMidLifeAnimal · 05/12/2017 16:37

OK, so we're at this naice £50 per head party then. I'm slightly pissed and walking back from the bar with my glass. Your toddler decides to bolt right into my path and trips me up. Broken glass and a pint of Guinness all over toddler. Cuts and scrapes. Bawling of the highest order. Meanwhile, my ankle's sprained. What then?

BewareOfDragons · 05/12/2017 16:39

You're kidding right?

PickleSarnie · 05/12/2017 16:40

You're kidding right?

A family party is one thing. A party where people have spent a lot of money is another.

It's bad enough going out for lunch and having to listen to a toddler and peppa pig on an iPad but I would be really pissed off to go to the effort of actually going out out (and shelling out for babysitters too) to be surrounded by other people's toddlers.

LunasSpectreSpecs · 05/12/2017 16:40

OK, so we're at this naice £50 per head party then. I'm slightly pissed and walking back from the bar with my glass. Your toddler decides to bolt right into my path and trips me up. Broken glass and a pint of Guinness all over toddler. Cuts and scrapes. Bawling of the highest order. Meanwhile, my ankle's sprained. What then?

Mum posts on MN: AIBU? My little Talullah-Belle had a pint of beer tipped over her by a disgusting drunken oik, and the glass cut her!!!

CotswoldStrife · 05/12/2017 16:41

The family-friendly events that I've heard of - even in hotels - tend to be earlier, not midnight ones. There is likely to be an early one but not one that sees in the new year.

OliviaBenson · 05/12/2017 16:43

FFS why does everything have to be toddler/child friendly now a days. Is it really that hard to understand why such events don't allow children to go?

TheHolidayArmadillo · 05/12/2017 16:43

Yeah YABU. Children make terrible drinking partners.

expatinscotland · 05/12/2017 16:43

'Mum posts on MN: AIBU? My little Talullah-Belle had a pint of beer tipped over her by a disgusting drunken oik, and the glass cut her!!!'

There would be 300 posts from users telling T-B's mum how everyone on the planet is an alcoholic.

AnotherGreenDot · 05/12/2017 16:44

Your kind of party would be totally normal in Spain OP! But not here, late nights and small children don’t tend to go together.
We used to do family NYE parties at our church about 20 years ago. Big buffet, bring your own wine (if you wanted), games for the kids and ceilidh till midnight. Maybe a church or community centre nearby will do something similar?
You either have to go down the nightclub/ babysitting route or the church/ community centre / kid friendly route. Or go to Spain 🇪🇸

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 05/12/2017 16:44

Nobody wants your toddler at a NYE bash Hmm

Insomnibrat · 05/12/2017 16:46

I just don't get why you'd out a child through it. They don't understand the event, and even with a nap would be tired.
It'll be loud, lairy, hot, alien..lots of drunk people around... Recipe for disaster I think.

hamptonhangingpork · 05/12/2017 16:52

Op - allow me to present you with the Mumsnet Award for your "Daily Mail Bait of the Day" thread.

Congratulations.

Viviennemary · 05/12/2017 16:54

YABU. I can't think of anything worse than going to a NYE's party with a bunch of toddlers tearing round. It's the stuff of nightmares. Host your own or get a babysitter.

Ceto · 05/12/2017 16:56

I can't imagine any circumstances when I'd want to drag a tired, grumpy and/or over-excited toddler out to a NYE party. We'd hate it, toddler would hate it, everyone at the party would hate us. No-one needs to go to a party on NYE anyway.

BMW6 · 05/12/2017 16:56

You have GOT to be kidding!

saladdays66 · 05/12/2017 17:02

hahahah

Why the heck would any other adults want to spend NYE with a grumpy toddler they're not related to???

This is parentood. Suck it up.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/12/2017 17:02

Is this for real??!! 😂😂

Original poster
tashka · 05/12/2017 17:03

Thanks everyone for your opinions (even though most of you say that I am ridiculous)))

I have to admit I was hoping to hear suggesting where I could go with a toddler (who will be 3) for the NYE party, but it doesn't seem anyone has done it )))

I can't have a house party, my friends have elder kids and are mostly going to various NYE parties with them themselves and I do not want a babysitter as I want to spend the NYE with my DD)) Plus it will cost the same (if not more) that the cost of nice places I found that do not have a specific age restriction for the NYE, so I assume I will just have to take it that I will have to pay a bit more and have a nice party!

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PyongyangKipperbang · 05/12/2017 17:03

I agree with Luna

Just because certain parties are not child friendly/welcoming, doesnt mean that we all hate kids. There are plenty of child friendly events around (such as would happen in Spain/France etc) but that isnt what the OP wants and that is why SIBU.

If she wants the posh frock, posh food party then she must leave her child a home. If her child must be in attendance then she must change her expecations. Simple.

becotide · 05/12/2017 17:06

Do not rock up at a "nice party" with your crotch monkey. You WILL be asked to leave. There is no age restriction because nobody can believe anyone would be stupid enough to take a toddler to a NYE party.

LadyinCement · 05/12/2017 17:07

Grin at suggestion of British Legion on page 1 !!!

Round here I've spotted The Irish Club, Railway Workers Club and Working Mens Club. Just had a look at NYE at the latter and there's a tribute act on, pints only £2, and a meat draw. Children welcome but not on dance floor after 9.30 and "no babies and toddlers to be left unattended in the foyer". Xmas Grin