To not tell DD

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DD is 6, nearly 7. She's been vegetarian since August and has been absolutely adamant about it, brilliant with what she eats and shows no sign of relenting. I'm all for this and have also pretty much gone veggie. DH and DS have not, therefore there is meat stuff in the fridge.

Fridays are our night when we rush from a to b and back again without time to turn round. I WFH so try and fit that in amidst everything else. This is me preparing my excuse for being such a fuckwit. I did oven chips and what I thought were fish fingers for DD tonight before she went out to Beavers (this is not an AIBU about crap parenting and crap food, it's Friday, we're busy, they eat well the rest of the time!) All good, I had one, thought weird consistency but nothing more of it. Got them out to put in for DS later and realised they were chicken fingers. We have never had these in the freezer before, I can only assume DH bought them as part of a Co-op meal deal or some such thing.

AIBU not to tell DD? I don't think it will do either of us any good.

GreatStar really? I never would have guessed she's not really a vegetarian! Isn't it all about choice though? My dd rarely eats fish and doesn't seem too concerned about the Haribo issue. She wears leather shoes and uses a leather backpack which she chose for her 18th. It's up to her how she describes herself, and I'm not condemning her for it. The original post was actually about whether OP should "fess up" to her 6 year old daughter that she'd blundered and fed her chicken by mistake. I don't think it would be in anyone's interests to make a 6 year old feel bad, regardless of whether she's vegetarian or pescatarian.

DD is pescetarian.

I'd just let it go, not tell her and not let it happen again.

My mother couldn't understand when I gave up meat at age 12 and used to tell me chickens just walked around and fell over, saying 'oomphf', so were perfectly fine to eat. And lied to me about what was meat and what's not.

" don't think it would be in anyone's interests to make a 6 year old feel bad, regardless of whether she's vegetarian or pescatarian"

And where did i say she should be made to feel bad?

"My dd rarely eats fish and doesn't seem too concerned about the Haribo issue. She wears leather shoes and uses a leather backpack which she chose for her 18th. It's up to her how she describes herself, and I'm not condemning her for it."

Im certainly not condemning anyone?????

And as for choice I'm all for it. I'm merely pointing out the difficulties for vegetarians when others call themselves that but arent.

Did I say you were condemning her? And I didn't say you wanted to make OP's daughter feel bad either. I just said I didn't think it was in anyone's interests to make a 6 year old feel bad - I've got 3 dds and I'm pretty sure they'd feel bad if they found they'd inadvertently done something they didn't want to do.

I am also at a loss to understand how my daughter describing herself to her family as a vegetarian but then (in situations which make catering for a family easier) occasionally eating fish - but not describing herself to us as a pescatarian - makes life difficult for other people who identify as vegetarian. If she was running a "vegetarian" restaurant but had fish on the menu, I could see that would be a problem. But that isn't the situation.

Yes, apologies, I realise I have entirely absented myself from the thread.

Thanks for those who have said DD is amazing for having made the choice at such a young age. Yes she is and I'm really proud of her for it. Whoever said it wasn't her choice - bollocks; as I have said further up-thread, under a different username, she had been talking about it for ages (more than a year) on and off and then suddenly made the decision having seen live lobsters in a French supermarket. It suddenly all became very real to her.

I have no idea why she is now OK with eating fish but frankly, it makes my life easier (the fish v chicken fingers aside!). I'm not going to question her squiffy reasoning at the age of 6 (well 7 tomorrow) she is a work in progress, as we all are.

For whoever it was who asked how I ate chicken fingers and didn't realise they weren't fish - good question, my guess is there is very little chicken in them and they are as processed as all get out so frankly it could have been anything!

And finally, I didn't tell her about the "chicken".

My SIL is a flexitarian. (Made up name for people who like the flexibility of saying they are veggie but sometimes eat meat). She goes on about being vegetarian, so when she comes over and I do a buffet, I always make sure there are lots of veggie options. I always see her popping a couple of cocktail sausages or similar in her gob as she's going around. It annoys me more than it should.

That would annoy me too iMogster

root is Italian not Latin I think

We have a flexitarian coming to stay with us for a couple of days. I thought she'd made the term up!

I thought it was made up, read it on a satirical Fb page. Just Googled flexitarian and it is real. I'm kind of laughing but not.

There's even a flexitarian diet cook book, it says:
"If you'd like to have all the health benefits of a vegetarian diet--but can't imagine giving up meat . . .
If you'd like to lose weight, increase energy, and boost your immunity--but can't stand following a bunch of rules and restrictions . . .
The Flexitarian Diet is just for you!"