Would you look after a friends child for three days?

[Tinkerbec]

Well exactly as it says in the title.

Friend of two years ( have kids at same school) has asked if we can look after her child for three days and nights.

One night I see no problem but three seems a lot. My dd does not get on well with her child as she is pretty hard work. Sulking, complaining, always hungry. It is ok for a bit but three days.

We don’t have much room for her either as I am staying with my parents.

Friend is going to a concert and a selling conference for her job. I mean I would if she was in hospital or something. I also would for my sisters kids and my best friends children.

AIBU?Would you?

In your shoes, I would see the sulking as a bonus and use it as an opportunity to distance myself further. What a CF asking your parents.

If you have a real fear that she'll show up at the door with a sob story, then I'd find some way to 'let it be known' that you AND your parents will be away from home on her departure day. DD at school presumably and you at work? Parents taking a country drive or doing some major Xmas shopping that day?

You don't think she'd take her daughter to school on Thursday and then tell the school that you're picking up do you? Are you her emergency contact?

You don't think she'd take her daughter to school on Thursday and then tell the school that you're picking up do you? Are you her emergency contact

I certainly hope not! But who knows?

No not her emergency contact. She had an elderly father , her boyfriend and her older adult dd for that.

I am going to say I have plans now and keep the door shut.

I wouldn't. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I wouldn't feel guilty about it either.

Just out of interest, what do your parents think about the girl staying over for three nights? Do you think they might take pity and let her stay if CF showed up on the doorstep?

Good plan!

She sounds like a total piss-taker, not a close friend!

You have there what is known as a Cheeky Fucker! Glad you said no!

Just out of interest, what do your parents think about the girl staying over for three nights? Do you think they might take pity and let her stay if CF showed up on the doorstep?

No my Dad said she had a right cheek. The odd pick up is fine but that is too much.

I have and would do again, but that is for a close friend. This friend has 5 DC. Her eldest has now left home, the next one down is the same age as my DD, but they clash, so she would not ask me to have her, she made other arrangements. The next DS is the same age as my DS and they get on OK, the next DS is three years younger and my DS would say he is his best friend. She now also has a BF baby, who would always be with her. We had the two boys a couple of times. One when her ExH let her down over having them for a weekend and she had planned to go and see her BF, so a bit desperate. Another time so she could go on holiday. I would have them again any time.

I have had a friends younger DD a few times. My DD treats her a bit like a doll, playing with her hair etc, she loves it, so I would have her again. One time they phoned at about 10 am to say 'We are going shopping, then we'll come and get her, is that ok?' I assumed they meant to a supermarket in our home town and said that was fine. They came and got her at 5pm, having been on a big shop to the big town over and hour away. Last time I had her I made sure to agree pick up time and that was stuck to. I also got a little return favour in the form of getting my friends BF to do a tip run for me in his much bigger than ours car. So all good.

Your friends DC, no, I would not do that. She seems a taker and a really cheeky one at that.