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Would you look after a friends child for three days?

110 replies

Tinkerbec · 30/11/2017 13:46

Well exactly as it says in the title.

Friend of two years ( have kids at same school) has asked if we can look after her child for three days and nights.

One night I see no problem but three seems a lot. My dd does not get on well with her child as she is pretty hard work. Sulking, complaining, always hungry. It is ok for a bit but three days.

We don’t have much room for her either as I am staying with my parents.

Friend is going to a concert and a selling conference for her job. I mean I would if she was in hospital or something. I also would for my sisters kids and my best friends children.

AIBU?Would you?

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DancesWithOtters · 30/11/2017 14:44

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Tinkerbec · 30/11/2017 14:46

Not MLM more her own handmade stuff.

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Dozer · 30/11/2017 14:47

Cheeky fuckery and her “forget it” response was rude. Avoid!

usernameinfinito · 30/11/2017 14:47

I would only do it if it was a medical emergency.

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Tinkerbec · 30/11/2017 14:48

Yes that has annoyed me.

Would not even dare ask any if my friends only in an emergency.

Think you are all right. I feel a bit relieved.

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Branleuse · 30/11/2017 14:52

shes got some brass neck. Thats the sort of favour I would only ask my mum for. I dont even think id ask another family member, let alone a friend

Willow2017 · 30/11/2017 14:52

Good for you op, thats just taking the p.

Tell your parents to keep refusing to pick up her kid too.
'Pick up my child' = keep them for 2 hours and feed them for me for free wtf?

She knows when she is on to a good thing. She is taking you all for mugs for free childcare, time to shut that shit down right now.

Why would you have a child who doesnt even get on with yours for 3 days and nights and who is rude and sulky?

Do not get dragged into a discussion on this once she comes out her sulk, you dont need to justify it to her, "No that wont work for me." is enough.

dustarr73 · 30/11/2017 14:52

Give her an hour or so,when she realises nobody will have her child.She will come back and try and make out shes doing you the favour.

I wouldnt do it now ,not even for an hour.

SuburbanRhonda · 30/11/2017 14:56

Yes 4 stones but nobody dare mention it as she is completely in denial.
Throws all letters from school in the bin.

What letters? School doesn’t get involved with children’s weight unless a parent asks them to.

ArcheryAnnie · 30/11/2017 14:57

I have done, but in circs where the child was one of DS's best friends, and frankly it was even easier for me than DS alone! They sat and chatted like a couple of old men for three days. It was bliss.

if the child had been hard work, or if my DS hadn't been keen? In an emergency, yes. Not an emergency, probably not.

ArcheryAnnie · 30/11/2017 15:00

Ah, have read the thread, and "probably not" has turned into "certainly not" for me.

BitOutOfPractice · 30/11/2017 15:04

What letters? School doesn’t get involved with children’s weight unless a parent asks them to.

Children are weighed and measured in school. Then letters sent out (not by school admittedly) to parents whose DC are over / underweight

BitOutOfPractice · 30/11/2017 15:05

And OP, she sounds like a user and the fact that you feel relieved says it all

Out of interest, when is this she needs you? Fairly soon?

georgie262 · 30/11/2017 15:06

There are some friends I'd be happy to do this for but a school mum friend probably not, especially if my children didn't like the child that's quite a difficult situation

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Tinkerbec · 30/11/2017 15:08

What letters? School doesn’t get involved with children’s weight unless a parent asks them to.

They had a year 6 nedical check up.

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Tinkerbec · 30/11/2017 15:09

Medical!

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Tinkerbec · 30/11/2017 15:09

Out of interest, when is this she needs you? Fairly soon?

Two weeks time. Thur to Sun.

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MrSnrubYesThatsIt · 30/11/2017 15:14

I love a good cheeky fucker thread.
glad you told your friend to jog on. well done.

SuburbanRhonda · 30/11/2017 15:14

They had a year 6 nedical check up.

That will have been the NHS then, and the letter will have come from them. They normally just do height and weight, unless she’s not in a state school or not in the UK.

dustarr73 · 30/11/2017 15:14

Two weeks time. Thur to Sun.

Plenty of time to rope in some other mug

The80sweregreat · 30/11/2017 15:18

No way. Sounds an awful lot of work for you and they dont get on either!! your own child won't be happy if you did do this i bet!

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Tinkerbec · 30/11/2017 15:18

Probably is the NHS she just said it had gone straight in the bin as they didn’t have a clue.

This sounds harsh but she also wets the bed. I feel mean that this puts me off a bit too.

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Tinkerbec · 30/11/2017 15:19

She said she could take her with them but her attendance at school is below 80 percent.

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InsomniacAnonymous · 30/11/2017 15:23

"She says she needs the money for Cheap that she will make over the three days."

What's that?

brasty · 30/11/2017 15:24

A close friend, absolutely. But my close friends help each other out. More distant friend, far less likely.

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