Would you look after a friends child for three days?

[Tinkerbec]

Well exactly as it says in the title.

Friend of two years ( have kids at same school) has asked if we can look after her child for three days and nights.

One night I see no problem but three seems a lot. My dd does not get on well with her child as she is pretty hard work. Sulking, complaining, always hungry. It is ok for a bit but three days.

We don’t have much room for her either as I am staying with my parents.

Friend is going to a concert and a selling conference for her job. I mean I would if she was in hospital or something. I also would for my sisters kids and my best friends children.

AIBU?Would you?

Not for her to go to a concert, no.

We had our friends 3 daughters then aged 2, 5 and 8 for 5 days until her sister could come from Canada and help after she was admitted with an exploded gall bladder to hospital and found herself in ICU. Was a bit of a squash but otherwise it may well have been social services and we didn't want that.

Another friend once had DD for 2 nights so dp and me could go to FIL's funeral - dd was really too young.

But 3 nights for no good reason or emergency with a child who sulks and your DD does nto get on with - no way

No.

Is she a good friend?

She can be and deep down she has a heart of gold. She would likely do it for me.

However she can be very opinionated and a bit delusional and a bit of a taker.

No, not in those circumstances.

I just commented on another thread about jumping to my best friends aid at 10pm the other night as she had to go to A and E.

I think this is different though.

I have told her. Think she is sulking at me.

No.

Definitely not, and you have the perfect excuse, but discuss with the rents first so they know "Sorry, but I stay with my parents in their home, there isn't room and it isn't my house".

No! Not if your dc doesn't get on with the child.

Hmmm, sounds like the solution is for her to be honest with here sister, say 'i accept you are concerned about my dds weight but this isn't something you can fix over 3 days, lets just habe a peaceable visit'. However I realise that conversation isn't something that it's your ability or job to arrange!

Helll no.

She didn't say she lives with her parents - she said they help out with school pick ups, and are reluctant to be responsible for picking up this other child for three days.

How old are the children OP? It's a long time to have a child who you find hard work hanging around the house - I wouldn't feel guilty about saying no if it doesn't work for you. It sounds like you do a lot for them already.

As the kids don't get along, definitely not.

Minty op mentions in her post that she lives with her parents.

I would not help her especially something like a concert.3 days is taking the piss

We don’t have much room for her either as I am staying with my parents. From the OP.

Oh sorry!! Somehow completely missed that. Ignore me!

the child is 4 stones overweight? that seems such a lot for a child! I am 1 stone overweight and it shows.

Anyway to the point, no I wouldn't, if the children were best friends and it was an emergency then yes but not when they don't get on.

How old are the children?

No - your daughter doesn't get on with her, she is hard work and you are staying at your parents with limited room. Any one of those is enough for me to say no to three days.

I would if it was an emergency but not for this given the above.

I would if I had the room, child was mainly delightful and a very good friend of my DC though (oh and I knew the mum was a CF).

They are 10.

Yes 4 stones but nobody dare mention it as she is completely in denial.
Throws all letters from school in the bin.

"However she can be very opinionated and a bit delusional and a bit of a taker."
More than 'a bit' . Trying to guilt you by saying that 'there is only you' to ask to do this is massive guilt-tripping. So massive taker.

She can stay with her older sister. She might not want to, but she can.

It's good that your not-really-a-friend is now sulking. It might give you and your parent a rest from her requests and mooching off you (staying so long your mother feels obliged to feed her).

It's good that your not-really-a-friend is now sulking. It might give you and your parent a rest from her requests and mooching off you (staying so long your mother feels obliged to feed her).

It’s actually mad writing it down.
Think we have been too nice.

I have said I could have her one day. She just replied to forget it.

Then forget it,you offered a compromise.She is not interested.Win,win situation for you.

God god, why would you do this to yourself or your child?

Your friend is a pisstaker. pure and simple. she has NO right to contact your parents and get them to pick up her child!

You are living with your parents, therefore you can't take in additional kids for more than the occasional overnight for kids that your DD wants to spend time with.

Your DD and this girl are not close, nor will ever be, so it's just not going to be possible to have her for 3 days

That is a huge request. I wouldn’t have the front to ask a friend to have my DC for any reason other than a real emergency. And yes, you have been way too nice. She is taking the mick with your parents.

I have said I could have her one day. She just replied to forget it.

She’ll get over it.

Otherwise how else is she going to get you and your parents (!) to run favours for her??

I was going to post , based on the title that I probably would for a good friend as a one off.

But on reading the thread, no, I wouldn’t.

Is she a friend who onky ever gets in touch when she needs something? If she’s one of those types and you’ve always said yes to her so far, her true colours will show and she will sulk and be angry with you. I recently wanted to ask my best friend to help with looking after my dog after I’d had an op, didn’t need to ask as she offered but if I had and she couldn’t do it for any reason at all, even just not wanting to, then I’d not have been angry or mad.