About babies name?

[Linzerelli13]

Currently 39+6 with baby #2.
We already have a DD (3). Before we found out she was a girl we wrote a list of names for both boys and girls that we liked and narrowed it down to two for each. When we had it confirmed she was a girl we both picked the same name as our favourite.
When we found out that this baby was a boy, I assumed that we would use one of the top 2 boy names we had picked out for DD. DP has changed his preference though, and one of the names has been used by a family member. Fair enough, I thought, so we set about coming up with new names.
We've really struggled to agree this time around. He really wanted Arthur for a while, which I really don't like. (I mean no offence to anyone who has an Arthur, it's just not for me and and I don't feel that it goes with DD's fairly modern name)
We eventually agreed on Connor for all of 3 weeks and then HE Changed his mind again and we eventually settled on Jackson. We mutually agreed that we like it as there are plenty of nicknames and variations, it goes well with his last name and with DD's name.
I've now purchased personalised blankets, hat's, taggies etc as he was 100% that that's what he was called. DD has been calling my bump Jackson for about 6 weeks now too.
Just tonight, baring in mind its my bloody due date tomorrow, He's gone out for a drink with his brother, and come back DEMANDING that we call the baby Arthur.
He says that Jackson is a stupid name and too American and he wants to call the baby something traditional. Baring in mind he bloody chose it and promised me that he was 100% sure on it.
Now I know that this is his brothers influence. I don't particularly like him, He's an arrogant nobhead who has made remarks in the past that has made me not like him. When I was pregnant with DD, he told DP that 'you want to het rid of it. Variety is the spice of life and you dont want to be tied down to just one woman. Having a baby is a big mistake'. 2 months later his gf was pregnant. He also took the p*ss out of DD's name.
Anyway, when DP has come home after the 6 pints his brother has fed him, He's now adamant that Jackson is a stupid name and he wont be calling our son it. He doesn't even want baby to have his last name if it can't be Arthur.
AIBU? Or is he? And do you agree that his brother is a tw@t? Sorry for the rambling post.

If your partner drinks 6 pints in an hour I’d be more worried about that than a baby name.

Both our DCs' names were decided long before they were born, and when they were born, they looked like babies, so were given the names we'd decided on.

That's how it worked for both DS1 and DS2. With DD however, we did change her name when we met her! She just looked more like our second choice name somehow.

Absolutely call him Jackson. Your dp is a twit.

We definitely know its a boy! We've had to have so many scans theres no mistaking his winky. I only bought them as Xmas presents for him as there's not a lot you can get a newborn and they match stuff thay DD was bought when she was little.
Like I said each to their own with when they pick a name but i honestly thought it was set in stone! Pretty sure his sister's have bought some personalised bits too.

Tell him when he pushes a baby out of his vagina he can call it whatever he wants. Your baby is called Jackson. I'd also give him a bollocking for drinking day before your due date. I doubt DB forced him into drinking all those pints.

i'd be furious about the pissed husband at this stage.
it's ridiculous to buy personalised stuff for a baby before it's born.

Agreed with @stiffstink

"Ok then Jackson (your surname) it is"

Probably not helpful but I do like Connor

I would wait for him to sober up then discuss - he’s obviously been riled up by his brother tonight but might clear his head tomorrow. You can really have this discussion while he’s still tipsy or whatever

Can’t * have this discussion sorry

If he really doesn't like Jackson, you can't use it. Simple as. Its up for discussion until the baby's born, I think. I think you were wrong to get personalised stuff so early.

That said, the way he's gone about "discussing it" is not right. Wait until he's sobered up and have a proper conversation.

I'm obviously annoyed at him for drinking so much, particularly the day before due date. That goes without saying.
What annoys me more is that HE suggested Jackson. HE pushed for it. His family have all said how much they like it, etc and we have taught DD that that's his name now.
It's only because hes gone out with his brother that this has come up again. He loves to stir the pot and wind DP up. Think that has annoyed me most! I've already said we could have Arthur as a middle name if he wanted.
Again each to their own on buying personalised stuff. But when you agree on a name and think it's set in stone I think it's reasonable given that they're Xmas presents and if I go 2 weeks over there wouldn't be time to order for Xmas delivery

Tell him you'll be using Jackson, as agreed, or your favourite boys name with your surname. End of.

What a prat.

Does he normally drink 6 pints before 7pm on a Monday evening? The day before you’re due to give birth, and you have a toddler. He sounds like a twat

First of all, he's a twat going out and getting pissed on your due date and when you've a little one at home.

Second of all, his brother didn't feed him pints, unless he hasn't got the use of his own arms?

Third of all, tell him fine. Baby will be Jackson Yourname.

He's a dick.

Yuck. Drunk. Ignore.

It seems a bit unfaor to use a name he hates, just like it’s unfair to use a name you hate.
Are there any other names you could compromise on?
What’s DDs name?
Agree about Jackson being too American, sorry.

The brother sounds like a real prick (and not the best influence on ur OH, my partner gets influenced by his sibling too and it annoys me No End)!!

It's a tricky one (honestly , I do think Jackson is very American and Arthur is much nicer) he agreed to the name and uve got to push the baby out so u shud have the last say IMO !! Good luck x

Is it really necessary to keep having a go because she bought personalised stuff? Not for everyone, not a crime.

I would just leave it, especially for tonight, he's more than tipsy if he's had 6 pints. We had decided on a name for our son, we didn't buy any personalised stuff but we referred to the bump as this name (to each other, we didn't tell anyone else). As soon as he was born we knew he just didn't suit it and it took us 3 days to find another one. He's 2 weeks old now and I'm really glad we changed our minds.
Wait till baby is here and see how you both feel then.

It seems a bit unfaor to use a name he hates, just like it’s unfair to use a name you hate.

Agreed. I think you both have a veto on any name, even if you did buy personalised stuff (don't worry - the baby won't be able to read it).

You need to compromise on a third name, not Jackson OR Arthur (please please don't call a baby Arthur!). Unless he sobers up and decides Jackson isn't so bad after all - quite likely if he's been influenced by his brother and the beer.

LTB! LTB! LTB!

Why not just settle on Jack as a nickname if he's decided he doesn't like the full name?

Best to discuss this sober. I'm intrigued how his brother fed him 6 pints though. Did he hold him down or put him on a drip?

Clearly it's not reasonable for him to insist on Arthur but it's no more reasonable for you to insist on Jackson. The fair thing to do would be to agree on a name you both like, if he still dislikes Jackson when he sobers up. We changed our minds a few times and had a number of different favourites over the course of each of my pregnancies, it's not unusual.

The personalised stuff is unfortunate and I don't think you've done anything wrong in buying it. It would be better, however, to have wasted the money spent on those bits and bobs than to give your son a name for life that his dad has changed his mind about liking.

Arthur is a much nicer name than Jackson though, although I realise that's not the point

God, no. Arthur is hideous!