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To be repulsed by husbands teeth!

82 replies

maggieryan · 25/11/2017 21:07

I always look at peoples teeth, can't help it. I love a nice smile and have my own teeth shortened regularly and always get complements on them. First thing I noticed about my husband years ago was his great smile and lovely teeth. Now years later my husband teeth are in a state. He has weak gums and the top couple were moving outwards, he ended up going dentist and got them taken out and false teeth out in. Tried to be supportive and never let on it was an issue (never seen him with the teeth out) Anway he looked and felt a lot better, now two years on his two bottom teeth have moved and are starting to stick out, I've said about going back to dentist to get it sorted and he keeps saying he will but hasn't. It's very noticeable to everyone now and I'll admit embarrassed by them, I just think every one notices your teeth the first time they see you. I hate looking at him because all I see is his teeth. He afraid to go because he knows they'll be pulled but he will look so much better if they were. Fully expecting everyone to tell me how fickle I am and if I loved him it shouldn't bother me. I do love him but it does bother me. AIBU?

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maggieryan · 25/11/2017 21:08

Meant I get my teeth whitened not shortened :)

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PantPlot · 25/11/2017 21:09

You have your teeth shortened regularly? Are you half-rodent?!

paxillin · 25/11/2017 21:09

have my own teeth shortened regularly

Are you a rodent that they need shortening regularly?

paxillin · 25/11/2017 21:09

Oh, triple x post

CorbynsBumFlannel · 25/11/2017 21:09

It depends how noticeable it actually is imo. Bottom teeth would have to be very crooked for it to be noticeable imo.

IrritatedUser1960 · 25/11/2017 21:10

I was going to say! I can't stand manky teeth either. I'd ask him what the problem is about going back to the dentist.

Ffsdh · 25/11/2017 21:10

Apparently eating grass or hay is good for keeping teeth short —if you’re a rabbit—.

Notreallyarsed · 25/11/2017 21:10

DP has damaged and missing teeth. A result of an untreated gum infection while in a war zone. They’ve got worse despite treatment over the years. It doesn’t bother me a bit. I’m not embarrassed, I’d be horrified if someone judged him for his teeth. I don’t feel any different than when I met him.

Tinselistacky · 25/11/2017 21:11

My dh has missing teeth due to lack of care as a dc and a phobia of the dentist.
He looks like a scruffy vagrant. .
Am actually guilt tripping him to take ds and go himself.

twinone · 25/11/2017 21:11

Do you have your teeth rasped like a horse, or trimmed like a rabbit? Confused

PollyPerky · 25/11/2017 21:14

You have your teeth shortened regularly? Are you half-rodent?!

it's funny the first time, but not when the same joke is repeated ad nauseum. [and the Op did come back to correct.)

OP It would repulse me too. Does he know how you feel? Would he change if he did?

Frouby · 25/11/2017 21:15

My teeth are shit. I don't know why as I have always taken very good care of them and always going to the dentist.

I am very paranoid about my teeth. The best news I have had all year is that mu nhs dentist will replace my 20 year old veneers under the nhs.

Posts like yours make me sad.

Replace teeth with sticky out ears, a lazy eye or acne. See how it reads.

maggieryan · 25/11/2017 21:18

I wouldn't hurt his feelings and tell him I feel bit repulsed but I have said I'd love him to go and get them sorted, he's not happy either and is actually becoming v self conscious but is terrified of actually going dentist because he knows they'll pull them. God I know I sound so judgmental and I'm really not. I'd never admit to any one in real life and if I were reading this post I'd be thinking what sort of wife is she, but when it actually happens it's different.

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FluffyNinja · 25/11/2017 21:20

My DH has truly shocking teeth. They're brown and stumpy like Steptoe. He had crowns fitted years ago but they've all gradually broken and I hate looking at them and cringe when he smiles. He won't go to a dentist as he knows it will cost €€€€ to fix but I don't know how to persuade him that they really need doing. Financially, we're just getting by so don't really have a lot to spare but I'd happily prioritize his teeth.

Supermagicsmile · 25/11/2017 21:22

I ever notice anyone's teeth (ironic considering my username Wink)

Supermagicsmile · 25/11/2017 21:22

Never*

twinone · 25/11/2017 21:24

Blush didn't see you'd put whitened just after your first post. My dm has to have her gums shortened, so I thought it may actually be a thing Grin

Back to your dh's teeth. Personally, I have a dislike for the current trend of whitened tomb stones, everybody who has orthodontic treatment looks the same.
Give me natural and a bit of variety any day.

I do not judge crooked teeth.

MissClareRemembers · 25/11/2017 21:42

I notice teeth too but only because DS has very over crowded teeth and I am forever looking out for someone, anyone whose teeth are as crowded as his.

He is so conscious of his teeth that he keeps his mouth shut in photos. He is 11. It’s so sad. He has years of orthodontic work ahead of him.

He can’t help it and nothing has caused it. He didn’t have a dummy or suck his thumb.

I sincerely hope he isn’t being judged about his teeth. Angry

Jumblebee · 25/11/2017 21:53

@Frouby posts like this make me sad too, my teeth aren't great and I have a very noticeable gap between my two front teeth.

I hate the thought that people might be looking at them and feeling repulsed Sad

Iwanttobe8stoneagain · 25/11/2017 22:02

Groovy interested in the veneers. I had some put on when 15 under nhs now 41 so dread the day they finally fail! How did you find out? Hey shit happens when you get older, none of us are what we were

maggieryan · 25/11/2017 22:05

I have lots of friends who don't have straight teeth, crooked teeth and lots more, I don't judge them at all. He's my husband and I feel repulsed and don't fancy kissing him, I'm not judging him, just being honest about how I feel. I'm no oil painting so it's not like I'm looking for perfection. Sorry to all of you who don't have perfect teeth, but I wouldn't judge anyone for it. Thanks everyone for your replies!

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Bambamber · 25/11/2017 22:16

I always notice teeth first too, but it stems from my own previous about my own teeth (now fixed). I have to say, a lot comes from ignorance too. I used to think that unsightly teeth was always caused by poor care and lack of hygiene. Even now i know better, i still notice.

TroubledTribble28 · 25/11/2017 22:26

My wonky and overcrowded smile is nonetheless clean and bright, no cracks, chips or fillings. Is my smile repulsive because I don't look like a horse?

Bostin · 25/11/2017 22:31

I don’t notice people’s teeth, I had a boyfriend who did and would mention it and I’d never noticed what he saw.
I have a condition that has made me ugly (I wasn’t too bad before) so I’m glad my husband isn’t as shallow as you.

BadTasteFlump · 25/11/2017 22:34

op you have to explain what you mean by I have my own teeth shortened regularly

I am a dentist and I am really, really intrigued.

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