Rant!!!...To want to call the Police...well I'm just really angry..what the heck!!

[MistressoftheYoniverse]

My daughters wrist has been broken by a boy at school!!...I'm so angry ..he laughed while she was crying ..

A boy broke my finger at school because I was 'annoying' him. If you don't call the police he won't see this as serious.
Strange he's all for equality but doubt he'd be okay with her breaking his wrist. Idiot.

I know you are calling the police but thought I'd reiterate the importance. I think in the morning is fine, as you say they're not going to come round until then anyways.

Also - don't send the message out to your daughter that making excuses for him is being brave. Please update us when you've spoken to the police. Your daughter is unlikely to want to pursue this - you have to be the adult here and push it through. Teach her her worth.

I had almost the exact same thing happen to me when I was that age. A LOT of years ago.

Fortunately unlike the poor previous poster, it did get reported and the young thug got hauled into the police station for a thorough bollocking.

It was wonderful. He had been low grade bullying me and a few others for years. But I could never get anything done about it cos he was a sneaky twat. He was suspended for ages, when he did return he was treated like a pariah b his former friends much to his shock, since he thought he was the dogs bollox for breaking the bones of someone half his size, and soon got expelled for something else.

Compare this outcome with the other poster where nothing was done and Report it,
please.

Agree with everything deckoff said, especially the last paragraph in brackets. We are dealing with a similar kind of scenario and haven't yet informed police as there are extenuating circumstances and also ds isn't happy about it and it could actually cause more harm to ds than good. We haven't ruled it out though.

Op - I totally sympathise, it's a really difficult situation to be in and it's all very well people who aren't involved to shout phone the police.

Fortunately in our case the school are being very supportive and backing ds, and the parents of the other child are on board. If they weren't, that alone would make us go to the police.

Ultimately you need to do what you think is best for your daughter.

If the police are already involved before you contact the school, they don’t have any opportunity to attempt to lean on you and talk you out of it.

If it were me , I would a) call police on 101 first thing , b) email the headteacher to report the incident and attach your DD’s account of exactly what happened, names of witnesses etc, and also explain that you are keeping your daughter away from school until they can guarantee her safety, and c) leave a voicemail message on the school answerphone system summarising the above, in case the head doesn’t check emails first thing.

Please report to he police as soon as possible! Should the case go to court and you wait a day or two it's something else the defence can throw at you - 'it wasn't important enough to report immediately' which can put a shred of doubt in a jurys mind and the culpret gets let off!

If the police are already involved before you contact the school, they don’t have any opportunity to attempt to lean on you and talk you out of it.

Yes, this.

lazy

There would be no issue at all with the op waiting till the morning and certainly nothing for a defence to "throw" at the op.

I investigate serious crimes like assault and frequently have cases that weren't reported immediately, it's has no bearing on the outcome at all.

She was spraying them with water, he kicked out? Hardly sounds like a serious crime or GBH.

I'm not suggesting the police shouldn't be informed but yet again, I can't help but think the answers would be different if the sexes of the people were changed around.

I’d also urge you to call the police. You need to stop this boy, becayse he could do it to someone else, telling rhe school isn’t enough.you need to stop him in his tracks.

It’s assault. To kick someone hard enough to break a bone he has used a lot of force. That wasn’t messing around. That was deliberate force. To laugh in her face as she cried and was clearly in pain proves it.

Having broken a bone I know your daughter would have been in a hell of a lot of pain. If someone kicked you hard enough to break a bone you’d call the police.

And if your daughter asks you not to, then explain to her that this boy hurt her deliberately and you hav a duty to ensure he doesn’t go on to hurt others because he thinks there are little to no consequences to his actions.

Tempemail, I can only assume you’re drunk or deranged. No the answers wouldn’t be different if the sexes were reversed and yes kicking someone hard enough to break a bone is a crime. I’m fairly sure you’d agree if it was your wrist that was broken.

And he didn’t just kick out in a playful way because if he had, he wouldn’t have broken her wrist. And he’d have been immediately apologetic on seeing her crying and in pain, not laugh in her face.

Hardly sounds like a serious crime or GBH.

Yes it does, to anyone with a brain.

@TheStoic

How about those with training on the matter?

www.e-lawresources.co.uk/Wounding-and-Grievous-Bodily-Harm-%28GBH%29.php

HTH

Temp, what are you going on about, I’m assuming you’re now agreeing it is a crime?

So if someone hit you and broke your wrist tememail you would take no action? Nonsense. Sex of the attacker utterly irrelevant

Thank you temp, just proved my point perfectly. That definitely helped.

Admittedly haven't practiced criminal law for years but pretty confident breaking someone's wrist is a crime

Why didn’t you call the police as soon as it happened? Why do you keep procrastinating?

I would call police and not non emergency either.

I would also be tempted to send a solicitors letter to lads parents saying you are taking advice about suing for pain and distress. Might focus their minds if minimising starts.

Personally I have found going nuclear when a child is bullied works well. The snivelling bullies are put off as hurting your child brings them too much hassle so they turn their attention to children with less assertive parents. Worked for us anyway.

This happened to my little sister when she was 7; a boy in my year, aged 10 or 11, deliberately stamped on her wrist. She had to have surgery. The HT & boy's parents were pathetic and the boy went on to hurt a younger child much more seriously.

She was spraying them with water, he kicked out? Hardly sounds like a serious crime or GBH

He kicked her hard enough to break her wrist, ffs! And, if we're getting the whole story, he started the water spraying lark first.

His response was very disproportionate imo.

Candlelight234 as someone who works in a school I would be encouraging the parent to contact the Police, not sweeping it under the carpet or 'playing it down'. Schools can be supportive!!!!

I would contact police today then email school tonight saying this is what happened, here is the crime reference number, police will be in touch, dd will be in on tuesday as will I to discuss. Good luck op

Having read the full story, I probably wouldn't call the police. I would wait to see how it is dealt with at school. Whilst the boy absolutely should not have kicked out at the OP's DD, it appears to have been as part of a wider messing about. I doubt very much none had any attention whatsoever of seriously injuring the DD and clearly dodnthave any idea he'd done any more than made it hurt (no one knew it was broken until she was taken to have it x-rayed the next day).

The boy absolutely should be punished but it sounds more like unthinking stupidity than deliberate assault. Would the Police do something like give him a lecture of how he could easily have ended up with a criminal record for assault rather than charge him? Learning a lesson/being scared by the police would probably be better than actually charging him.

OP, I hope your DD makes a swift recovery . My DS found his broken wrist more of an inconvenience than painful and I hope this is true for your DD.