He offered to throw his drink away!

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AIBU- at lunch, with both children and their dad, who’s not around during the week. 2 year old says she doesn’t like the fact he’s got squash and she’s got water. He turns round, completely genuinely (!), and says “oh, shall I throw mine down the sink?”!!!! She says yes, and I interupted just before he got up from his chair to throw away his drink, because the 2 year old didn’t like him having it!!!!!! She’s 2! We are grown ups! We are parents that are supposed to set boundaries and teach them to deal with life!! AIBU??!!

Doesn't anyone else just have sugar free squash?

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I don't think anyone is expecting a toddler to understand that at all. Sugar or sweetener consumption isn't all about teeth, it's about health. Adults have different tolerance levels and have a choice whether they put sweeteners in their body but don't actually need to justify their decision to their toddler to not give them the same drinks, foods or amounts of sugar/sweeteners.

So you'd sit there with a burger and chips while your kid had a salad and that would be great parenting and promoting healthy eating?

No. But that wasn't the point you were making. You were saying about the impact of drinking squash on teeth.

An adult drinking squash in front of a child doesn't negate the importance of hygiene and a balanced diet, but it doesn't contradict it either. It's the same as fizzy juice or wine. Adults may drink it but it doesn't mean you give it to your child.

So you'd sit there with a burger and chips while your kid had a salad and that would be great parenting and promoting healthy eating?

I actually know someone who will order chinese or something for herself whilst making the kids beans on toast, then they eat at the same time. I think thats awful tbh. If I am eating something crappy, I either do it after the kids are in bed, or they get the same as me.

I was replying specifically to someone talking about teeth but it's exactly the same. If you want to avoid unhealthy food/drinks then you need to set a good examples by being healthy yourself. Obviously adult drinks are different but as many people on here have pointed out squash is, if anything, more of a kids drink. If you're going to ban it you should at least have the decency to have a healthy drink yourself!
This thread reminds me of I neighbour I used to have who would tell her kids to 'stop fuckin swearing'. Kids needing to learn to do what they are told regardless of the example set.

This thread is fucking weird. In fact this whole forum is fucking weird.
The people that I know don't make a big palava out of drinking squash. Thats normal. People that like squash drink it, whatever age they are. I've never met anyone in real life that obsess over such minor trivia.

I agree that most people don't make an issue out of squash, but then again, most people become overweight adults. What you drink plays a major role in this.

I knew that it would be easy for me to stick to an only milk and water rule for my kids, and it has been - right up until my oldest started secondary. But his habits are now fully baked, and he still favours water.

I know I'd be no good at banishing junk food from my house, that would be silly. This is just something easy that we decided to do, and it pretty much worked: we've raised kids who like water.

I know there's a bit of a belief on here that people post about only drinking water with their meals, for example, but then close their laptop and wash their bangers and mash down with a pint of Irn Bru.

I can't speak for anyone else, but we do only have water (rarely wine) at meal times.

When I was younger we used to drink tea with our meals but the tannin reduces the absorption of iron, so I haven't done that for years.

We don't have any drinks in the house at the moment apart from a few bottles of alcohol in the pantry gathering dust (Port for when I make red onion marmlade, brandy for the mulled wine and some absinthe), and some orange/apple juice cartons for packed lunches. There's milk in the fridge, tea and fresh ground coffee (no instant). That's it.

I'd say most of my friends are similar but have a better stash of wine than I do!

I have one friend who drinks squash. But she also eats marshmallow fluff straight out of the jar so their are far worse things to judge her for

People have three big jugs of different flavoured squash on the table every meal

Doesn't anyone else just have sugar free squash?

No, because it's revolting and full of artificial crap. Mind you, so is most full-sugar squash. I don't have it in the house. Water, tea and coffee for every day, and fresh juice at the weekend. I don't 'make a big palaver' out of it, I just don't buy it.

I often drink fruit juice or squash with my lunch as water is boring and I don't want to hit the alcohol that early. Squash is fine with a sandwich or snack whereas a nicely cooked dinner deserves a glass of wine with it.

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I wouldnt drink squash in front of a child only getting water

Would you not drink coffee in front of a child either? Or alcohol? If it's not a drink for a child, then its not a drink they can have, is the simple answer.

Would you not drink coffee in front of a child either? Or alcohol? If it's not a drink for a child, then its not a drink they can have, is the simple answer.

Coffee and alcohol are firstly and foremostly not appealing to children, whereas squash is.

Secondly, any child over the age of 4 or 5 can grasp the fact that alcohol and caffeine are objectively harmful for children in a way that they're not for adults, and adults are in a position to accept the related risks in a way that children are not.

Thirdly, because coffee and alcohol are culturally adult drinks, children will accept this without feeling aggrieved. It's their normal.

I find if you grind up the chicken bones after eeking out the chicken for 28 meals, then adding to water collected from puddles, not only do you save money, but up the protein and calcium in your diet, environmentally friendly too.
I can't believe that everyone doesn't do this.

Sugar free blueberry squash and prossecco, great!💕

Coffee and alcohol are firstly and foremostly not appealing to children, whereas squash is.

Meet my 2yo daughter. She’s been hapipily drinking our tea and coffee since before she was 1* (despite us not drinking either sweet), and would be into the booze (that we’v e successfully taught her is called “baby poison”) if we let her.

*Never very much, and not at all now that her picky eating has made her borderline anaemia.

My grandparents loved a nice glass of lemon barley water, I only ever drank that at their’s (until I was an adult, and then when I visited we drank wine instead because grandpa had joined several wine clubs and there was mountains of wine to get through. He kept forgetting he was already joined up and joined again).

I wouldn’t drink juice (squash) in front of a young child if I’d told that child that juice isn’t good for them. I’d hide it in a mug though.

It's rude to have food or drink that is not for everyone (except, obviously, alcohol). I would have dumped it out if I found out that dc could not have it. I was often babysat bc my single mother worked and I was served bread and water to babysitters' dc toast and tea at tbe same meal often enough to know how badly it feels. Children are cognizant of unfair behavior; just bc they are small and unable to get for themselves doesn't mean they should be treated unfairly.

Can we nominate this thread for classics please

Just to clarify, having the squash thing taken a complete life of its own - he was only drinking weak squash (don’t know what that makes him?!) - and our children can have squash but it’s not all the time and definitely not in the very easy to tip over lightweight pink plastic tumbler she wanted her drink in (that I’m fed up of causing sticky floods on the table/chair/floor!).

My issue was more him rolling over so quickly/subserviently to a 2 year old child’s random want! I think it’s a good thing to know your place in the pecking order at home slightly, life isn’t always fair/how you want it and equal, and surely the earlier you get your head round that slightly the better? We are certainly not generally unfair just because they are children, but I don’t think they should be in charge.

Bet he wouldn't have offered it it had been lager!

Mrs Koala - I've never seen grown ups drink squash.

I've hardly seen this either, usually it's a childrens party, where the host hasn't provided tea or coffee for adults. I hate it with a passion, it tastes horrible and fake. I drink tea mostly, fizzy water or alcohol. I'm not a healthy eating fanatic though, the kids only get water or milk because it;s easier. They're allowed fizzy drinks at weekends etc, if we're out somewhere and I don't mind them drinking squash, I just don't have it in the house. I never understand who buys the still Oasis type drinks, but reading the thread I see that they're probably quite popular. I just prefer the tickle of fizzy and can't see why people would choose still lol.

AnyDanger - If my 2 year old spoke to me like that she’d have the squash dashed on her. Haha - I laughed out loud Any, me too!

I get where you're coming from OP; why would any parent let a child dictate their choice of drink?! Or anything else tbh 😲

Then why didn't he just say. You can have squash in your cup or not at all. No need to throw his drink away or deny the squash!