He offered to throw his drink away!

[mills1234]

AIBU- at lunch, with both children and their dad, who’s not around during the week. 2 year old says she doesn’t like the fact he’s got squash and she’s got water. He turns round, completely genuinely (!), and says “oh, shall I throw mine down the sink?”!!!! She says yes, and I interupted just before he got up from his chair to throw away his drink, because the 2 year old didn’t like him having it!!!!!! She’s 2! We are grown ups! We are parents that are supposed to set boundaries and teach them to deal with life!! AIBU??!!

I used to drink a lot of coke but have cut back a lot since have kids as they ask for it, you can't have something and not give it to the kids so now I don't drink it in front of them.
When I did and refused to let them have done they would ask me why I was drinking it if it was so bad for my teeth etc

This thread is hilarious

I totally don't get this thread because:
A) I would have given my DD squash (no added sugar) at that age. She wouldn't have drunk plain water at that age and as she suffered terribly with constipation, it was more important to get fluid in to her by any means and I can't get stressed over some weak squash. (She drinks pepsi max though now like her dad, so I clearly don't fit in on MN!)
B) I wouldn't be having a 2 year old telling me what I could or couldn't drink. There are lots of things I would eat in front of my child that they couldn't have for various reasons and I would explain that.

Totally bizarre.

Actually OP I really dislike the "but I/we are the adult/s" mentality. We are inclusive as a family and try very hard not to qualify for extra 'perks' simply because we are adults. The feelings of our DC's matter and I think it is important to make them feel equally valuable members of the family.

This is hysterical. Do you go to bed at 7pm? Let the kids take a turn of driving the car? Share a bottle of wine at the weekend with the 5 year old? What about homework do you set some for each other so you do it at the same time as them?

Different is not actually the same as unequal in this context.

We drink squash (very diluted) with meals, or juice, or wine sometimes. DD has water, or juice (sometimes diluted), or squash.
DD knows that sweeter drinks are a treat, and that adults sometimes have different drinks. Luckily for us, who drinks what hasn't been an issue, but I wouldn't pour my drink away to appease her.

FWIW, I know plenty of adults who drink squad (aka cordial). We're quite partial to lime or cherry.

I don't think it's a class thing, my parents are WC and i'm horribly nouveau. But like a pp i never saw adults drink soft drinks that weren't Tea/Coffee, water or booze when i grew up. I was thinking about it last night in bed (sad cow alert) and i think i unconsciously think all sweet and fizzy drinks are for kids.

In my family the quote from Ab Fab 'Eddie, what's soda water?' 'Its a mixer Pats' pretty much sums up the attitude to soft drinks

I'm not pearl clutching at all either. I give my 3 yo coke and squash etc. It just wouldn't occur to me to drink it myself. As usual i'm the weirdo on MN!

God almighty though...people really will seize upon anything to make themselves feel superior about. Drinking squash is childish and common now is it? Do fuck off.

Is that at me?

No not specifically you. Just a reflection on the thread in general. You are not the only person to have mentioned it.

I thought it was a bit of a lighthearted conversation about bloody squash. Certainly not a superiority contest. The majority have said squash is normal for adults. I wouldn't get upset about it. I'm on the wrong side of most things food and hygiene related on MN anyway

"I thought it was a bit of a lighthearted conversation about bloody squash. Certainly not a superiority contest."

Me too...but yet....

Another one who thinks people are weird for liking disgusting tea and coffee, but hey ho, each to their own.
I like squash.
And no two year old would be dictating to me. If you start that slippery slope then imagine what they'll be dictating at age 14.

Whats amusing me is that people are falling over themselves to justify their drinking of squash by clarifying that’s its “well diluted” squash, in moderation will not kill you, litres of it a day isn’t good for children but then again neither is too much water, or too much of anything for that matter. The thread is about the OPs DD wanting equality and whether it was appropriate for her dad to acquiesce to that. Judging others over whether they drink squash or not is among one of the most ridiculous things I’ve seen on MN so far (I am however loving it )

@needtogiveitablow I don't like the strong taste of squash that isn't properly diluted because I always well diluted it when the children were small and I have got used to that level of flavour (or non flavour!). If DS is making it up he makes it about 2x stronger than the bottle recommends and none of the rest of us like it like that so he makes his own now. I am off the generation of Ribena babies so am a bit paranoid about juice strength though.

It’s Mumsnet homeopathic squash.

It’s odd that he was drinking the squash while insisting the child had water imo. Obviously adult drinks are different but no reason at all why the child couldn’t have weak squash. Would you sit and eat a chocolate muffin in front of a child while they have carrot sticks? If you want your child to have a healthy diet you need to lead by example imo.

I drink squash all the time....I'm not great at drinking plain water.

People are seriously saying they wouldn't have squash because their kids couldn't? Or it would set a bad example? I hope you don't drive them anywhere or drink alcohol ever. I mean it's not fair that you can take the Fiat out for a spin and they can't...

If God decides to go for #2 then said son will feed all of mumsnet using a single chicken and bottle of Robinson's.

I’m also baffled as to why people don’t let their children drink squash. Mine have both drank it since the age of 1. I didn’t know it was a ‘thing’ not to. But then mine eat McDonald’s a bit too regularly and eat chocolate everybody so my face doesn’t fit on MN.

I don't know any adults who drink squash either. I hate it.

You can’t compare it to alcohol or going to bed at midnight regularly or watching 18 films. Those things aren’t suitable for kids would likely warrant a ss referral if you allowed a 2 yr old to do them. A 2 year old could drink squash. If you have made the decision as a parent that water is healthier then you need to lead by example.

MN is bloody bonkers!
another squash drinker here. as are all my family, my BF, my friends and actually most of the people i know!

Cherries and Berries mmmmm

It's the BEST!

Close second, summer fruits.

Don't be bringing me any of your manky Lemon though.... Blergh

Water, tea and alcohol here too. The children drink fresh orange juice. I do occasionally, but find it a bit harsh.

The children drink water and milk and the eldest (18) also drinks alcohol and proper coffee (no instant).

We bought a bottle of squash a couple of years ago in case their friends wanted it when they came round, but threw it away when it went all funny and there were clouds of mildew in it.

None of us like it. It's vile.

Very occasionally have coke or lemonade for a 'treat'.