Female colleague on business trip

[JadeFeather]

DH left last week for a 2 week business trip abroad. Just found out that his female colleague (that he’s very close to) is joining him today (Saturday) so it would seem that they would be spending the weekend together. He’s now saying she’s leaving tomorrow to go on to the next destination where they have a meeting. Seems a bit odd for her to stop over on a Saturday... if it was a weekday they could have had meetings to attend. DH mentioned previously that his bosses were asking whether it was necessary for her to be at the meeting and he apparently said no. So it seems like the idea for her to go came from either her or from him.
I don’t know if I’m just being paranoid. The reason I’m worried is because I found out that he had previously told her about some personal issues I was having that were impacting on our marriage. I felt that this was a betrayal of my trust and if I ever wanted to discuss anything personal about him with a friend I would check with him first. There have also been various trust issues very early on in our relationship but he keeps reassuring me that he’s matured since then.
AIBU?

Sorry, "not worth"
"It creates"

LYING WITCH IN WARDROBE - Accept that this 'souvenirs' could be read as flippant.

OP could spend an awful lot of time being a detective trying to catch DH out. For what purpose? End of relationship? Or she could get on with her life, try to engage herself and her family in the places her DH goes to for work - in choosing gifts DH would have to remember that there is a family at home. OW might get the 'fun sex' but the DH shopping for his family - not so sexy.

Sorry OP - did not want to have to spell this out, but if this is going on, there is an option to turn a blind eye, and play the long game here. If your DH is shagging her it's reason for divorce, but he wont admit to it - he knows its going to cost him. At least get some decent big gifts from him before you see the solicitor, once your relationship is over, he will move on & be buying someone else gifts - not you, and you can't assume you will find better or be able to buy the 'stuff' yourself. Sometimes 'stuff' is nice. Stuff that can't be split by divorce settlements.

dlnex, I was really hoping that you didn't mean all that you said in your last paragraph. But you actually did. Bloody hell.

Dinex What?

At least get some decent big gifts from him before you see the solicitor, ... you can't assume you will find better or be able to buy the 'stuff' yourself. Sometimes 'stuff' is nice.

What?

I mean seriously - what?

Sorry. X posted my 'what?' with bettes 'what?'.

I think that comment earns itself a double-take Laiste

Well I will triple post it “what”????

This is her husband. The money should be shared.and I think that if he is cheating, which is highly unlikely based on nothing more than a female colleague is flying in and out for a networking dinner, I fbink the last thing on her mind would be getting “stuff”.

Ffs.

Bluntness I said the drip feeding of information to make her feel insecure could be emotional abuse. I didn't say that meant he was cheating. You seem to be missing quite a lot of the naunces.

I don't think any amount of 'stuff ' is worth your self respect.