Shopping for my wife - please help.

[1pregunta]

Good afternoon ladies.

I hope I'm not imposing here. During lunch, sister has put me on mums net chat. We would be very grateful for a quick survey please. I have come out to buy the item below as a gift for my wife who is also mother to our 5 children. However, my sister is confusing me by suggesting a different item. I only have until 3pm today.

I feel the item she is proposing looks slightly like a handcuff and also rather plain, but I'm open to feedback. She will post a photo in a moment.

Many thanks

Carlos.

[YouWhoNeverArrived]

I don't like bangles and I never wear bracelets, so I'd choose the pendant. Good luck!

[Deux]

So Randomer, what are you doing about it? There's always someone who wants to piss on someone's chips.

[randomer]

Not pissing. It makes me sick, the hideous spending when children are eating newspaper.

[astoundedgoat]

randomer

Wrong thread perhaps? Or maybe you have some insight regarding the OP's charitable donations every year. What are you doing about Syrian children yourself?

[Coconutspongexo]

Randomer
I imagine you never buy anything then except what you need to survive?

[ShowMeTheElf]

OP please do come back after Christmas and let us know if she loves it!
Jewellery is such a personal thing I couldn't say which she'd prefer, especially as they are so different.

[HermionesRightHook]

Randomer what are you trying to achieve by being so rude? Just because someone has more money to spend doesn't mean you can treat them like they're not human beings with feelings. And probably with sizable charitable donations, too.

[thegrinchreaper]

Don't get her the bangle, it's an unromantic gift especially as your sister also has it. It's the kind of thing a friend would buy another friend (unless your wife has asked for it).
The first necklace is the best of the bunch, but it looks a bit cheap. What about some classic diamond studs or a less fussy necklace?

[TrollTheRespawnJeremy]

I don't think either of them are particularly nice.

Have you been in to the jewellers to see what you could get for your money?

[lovemylover]

Personally I wouldn't buy either, I think a ring would be a better choice,as it would most likely be worn all the time,
Bracelets are sometimes awkward to wear ,and can be annoying when they slide about, necklace is nice, but again might only be worn on special occasions
If it HAD to be between these 2 I would pick the necklace
And its not the OPs fault Syrian children are styarving, he might already give to charity,
Not his fault either if hes rich enough to pay these prices,its his money, he can do what he likes with it
Why should he feel guilty

[1pregunta]

No intention to cause an argument - apologies. I have to get back to meetings, but I purchased the pendant and a ring from the boys which I'll pick up next week in time for her birthday. Thankyou ladies for the varied advice. Very insightful on here. I will be sure to let my wife know about all the categories.

[Bluntness100]

I would go with the bracelet, it’s gorgeous, I’d be delighted to receive that. I wouldn’t wear the necklace.

I think this thread has shown its personal taste. Does your wife wear necklaces that are quite statement? Does she like hearts on jewellery?

I’d be inclined to trust your sister, assuming they get on well. As for the key element, just give your wife the key.

[Lweji]

You're probably leaving, but the key thing is to keep the receipt and be very open to exchange it if she doesn't like it.

I agree with others. Think of what she normally wears and likes.

BTW:
"She gave birth to our daughter this year after 4 boys, so she deserves it."
What does the number of children have to do with what a woman deserves or not? Particularly what sex they are?

On a personal note, I'd HATE a bracelet that was locked and couldn't be taken off easily. I'm already picturing it being cut in A&E or something. Keys getting lost. Etc, etc.
It's a stupid fashion.

[randomer]

This will go round and round. Maybe people donate to charity. I do what I can. This is a massive dilemma which comes to a head for me at this time of year. It's a huge moral dilemma and probably this is not an appropriate place to discuss. How can some people spend on non essentials and others have nothing.

[KalaLaka]

randomer that's heartbreaking. I hope it's not true, though, that's just terrifying.

Yes, spending this amount on some metal and stones (probably mined through slave labour or near enough) can definitely be seen as immoral. I'm with you on that.

[beepbeeprichie]

The bracelet is definitely not a classic. It's very much a fashion thing at the moment and I've seen Kardashians wearing them which would instantly put me off. Plus the non removal thing- just no.
Boodles stuff is lovely. What about something from the rain dance range? I have some pieces and they are fabulous with substantial chains to stop tiny fingers breaking them.

[loveisevol]

What a lovely thread. You sound adorable. Your wife is very lucky to be getting that beautiful necklace. Very thoughtful indeed. I wasn't keen on the bracelet.

[Willow2017]

Your original choice is the one i like best out of them all. Simple uncluttered and if there are other pieces to go with it for birthdays that settles it 😀

The bracelet is nice but not the idea behind it at all.

Lucky woman.

[pisacake]

blimey £18.4k for a 0.9 carat diamond and a bunch of teeny-tiny diamonds totalling 0.8 carats. Main diamond not even certificated.

nice margin on that, eh what?

Why not get something vintage for a fraction of the price

[Branleuse]

I prefer the look of the bracelet. The necklace looks like it would appeal to a young girl or teenager.

I hate wearing bracelets though, I dont mind jewellery, but bracelets catch on stuff and jangle about theyre annoying. so i wouldnt like either of them

[CardinalCat]

I love Boodles. The pendant, however, is reminiscent of a lovely big flowering vulva.

[extinctspecies]

I prefer the bracelet.

[SecretSmellies]

Both necklaces were stunning and I am sure your wife will absolutely love her gift. :)

[randomer]

Thank God someone understands what I'm trying to say. If this is genuine it seems an insane amount of money to spend.

[baritonehome]

this is clearly a wind up. Fugly overpriced jewellery in aibu. Anybody spending 14k on a necklace would get proper sales advice but not post in he aibu nest if vipers