Just found out a work colleague's mum does her washing and ironing... AIBU to be shocked?

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She's in her 30s, doesn't live at home. No kids. No LDs or anything like that.

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My mil has come to my rescue re ironing and now removes washing to be washed and ironed. Soooo grateful for this service. Yabu.

If my mum or friend or stranger offered to do my washing and laundry I wouldn't say no...I'd be grateful :-)

You seem overly concerned with this, op.

How lucky your work colleague is to have a supportive mum.

Now go concern yourself with yourself own set up.

Yes, I would be a bit eyebrows about that op. It's very infantalising.

Amazed how many grown adults can't possibly find time to do their own laundry...goodness knows how others cope when working full time and raising children eh?

Think op is getting a hard time. She is entitled to her opinion as is everyone else. I'm just amazed at the number of grown people taking advantage of their parents. If it is in exchange for something or you are paying them or they are ill or going through a bad time, fair enough. Otherwise it's taking the piss

You are, not they are

I had a friend whose mum pretty much ran her life for her. Washing, cleaning, cooking etc well after she moved out. It made me see the Mum as a mug and the 'child' (thirty!) as a bit pathetic. It was well beyond a helping hand though, she almost did everything but wipe her arse for her.

I am in disbelief that anyone would actually care about something so minor and unrelated to their own lives. We all have something of ourselves which could be judged by others so those judging this woman should get off their high horses.

I've done that for my adult daughter when she lived nearby in a flat without a washing machine or dryer. I work from home and it's absolutely no hardship to stick some things in the wash and then dry them. I'd get a bottle of wine or something in return.

When I was young and in a flat without a washing machine we had a launderette nearby and we'd take a bag of washing up there and pick it up on the way home from work - it would always be dry and folded. Same thing, really.

god forbid a parent doing an adult childs ironing
does it really matter to anyone apart from those involved

I have a work colleague like that. Her mum goes to her house whilst she is at work to clean and do laundry for her. Privately, I do think, "Grow up".

I'm torn between shock and envy.

Madness. No way my mum would but she is not the martyr housewife type. Too busy at choir, Zumba, travel etc etc as it should be.

In fact as she has got older her and her friends are obviously totally over drudgery. Dad does pretty much all the housework no longer fresh cooked elaborate meals but the simplest minimal effort ones possible. I will no doubt go the same way.

I also know a few grown adults who give their laundry to their Mums to do, including ironing etc..it’s ridiculous. (Unless you’re poorly and Mum is being kind, not just babying you because you’re a lazy arse!)

I think it's very common, I see lots of parents run themselves ragged providing childcare, cleaning, ironing etc for their adult children. So many seem incapable of doing it themselves.

Likewise lot of people on here have cleaners whether they work or not.

Ooooh, actually, I've got an even better work colleague one! The lovely cleaner who does my classroom has a 40 year old son who is a PE teacher at said school.

He brings his dirty kit up to his mum to take home and wash at the end of the day.

Don’t sweat it there’s women on here do their dh/dp laundry for adult men
Men who can’t work a washing machine but put hold down exec jobs(apparently)

Having a cleaner is totally different - you pay a professional for their services.

I have a few people that come to my house and do all my housework all my cooking all my household admin tasks I do nothing at all.

It’s not my Mum but I like all of them loads more than my mum

I'm jealous too - done my own since I was 13 (a very long time ago ) and I used to have to do it by hand in the sink then because I wasn't allowed to use the washing machine

My mum loves ironing. I think if I were to honour her with the privilege of my families ironing every week she’d feel all her christmases have come at once.

I don’t even own an iron

My mum does our ironing, she’s quite insistent on it. She rings me up and asks if we have any to do. If I say no she sends my Dad round while I’m out (he has a key) to take all dirty laundry, clean but wet or drying laundry and all ironing piles away.
I think it’s because if she doesn’t DH does it and she doesn’t think he ought to. I don’t iron but DH doesn’t mind it.

Oh and I’m 40, have 1 school age child and work 2.5 days a week. DH works FT.