Just found out a work colleague's mum does her washing and ironing... AIBU to be shocked?

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She's in her 30s, doesn't live at home. No kids. No LDs or anything like that.

Just

I used to not iron because I was a lazy mare, but now I do not iron because I am environmentally aware!!

I used to not iron because I was a lazy mare, but now I do not iron because I am environmentally aware!!

I'm jealous.

So what. My dear mum did my DB's ironing for years. She said he did so much for her - he did - that at least she felt she could do something for him that he wasn't that good at. It made her feel needed and was a lovely gesture

I don't iron anything. If you hang stuff up straight after getting it out of the dryer, there is no need (usually.)

I do think it's odd that a grown woman in the 30's has her mother doing her ironing though. Bit lazy of them to not do it themselves.

I quite often pop over to my dd & do her ironing, she has a toddler & has an autoimmune illness it helps out, plus I like ironing.

Do you feel the same about people with cleaners who do their laundry?

My cleaner changed my bed sheets and puts washing away. I have no LD either just like the women in the OP.

Does this shock you!?

I don't iron my own clothes. No way in hell would I iron or do anything else domestic for my grownup children unless maybe they were ill!!! Mugs

^^ Note my user name....

My (male) best friend's father used to come round & do all his washing & ironing for him. Best friend was well into his 40s by the time he persuaded his father that he could manage.

When I worked full time as well as doing a degree, my mum used to clean for us. I did pay her though. Loved coming in on a Friday when she'd been!

My GP told me I shouldn't iron (or hoover) when I went to him with a bad back. It's one of the things that brings it on, apparently it's the repetitiveness of it.

But I suspect if my mil was closer she might offer to do mine. You know how people say they don't understand their mil? Well, mine likes ironing.

My dd is a chef (23), one day his work colleague( 22)asked if he could leave early as his dm had finished his ironing and he had to get back and put it away!!

MY 26 year old colleague has her mum cook her dinner and make her packed lunch untill a month ago . She's just got married and spent half an hour last week telling everyone she made a tuna salad. I shit you not !

My 23 year old Oxbridge graduate colleague also is the same and she told me she doesn't know how too cook anything but an omelette.

The only time my ironing ever got done was when my mother came to visit. She used to drag out the ironing board, blow the fluff off the iron and stand there ironing and tutting for a couple of hours.

I don't iron at home (I do a lot of pressing of things i'm sewing, but I don't do laundry ironing). I'm still not sure what my mother was trying to prove.

Where I worked, a secretary had her mum do the washing and ironing (and I bet, the cooking) . She was in her 40's at the time. Married, two kids. Must have been hard when her mum died....

Wondering why it is any of your busines and also why you mention the non kids?
I have friends who live at home and chores are shared out so yes, washing may be done for them but in the case of my friend, she will do most of the cooking, half the food shopping and the washing up. You have no right to judge.

My exmil used to iron tea towels, underwear and even flannels!!
She ironed exh work shirts then proceeded to fold them up into A 4 sized squares!!

If it was in exchange say for doing a garden or something which someone's mum could not because of age or a disability, then maybe, but otherwise it does surprise me.

It's pathetic.

I do the washing and ironing for my mum and both my adult sons. My mum can’t do hers as she is disabled but my sons are perfectly able to do theirs if needed. But if I am doing 2lots I might as well do 4 and they do other things for me to help me out.
It is called caring for each other. I do what I can to help them and they In turn do other jobs to help me.

My DM wouldn't offer, but tbh if she did I'd tell her to do something she wanted to do, not my chores!

She has a 9-5 job and goes on plenty of holidays, matches away etc (her DP is involved with rugby).
I am a bit that they could afford a cleaner but instead get her mum to do it for free.

Who cares? I wouldn't complain if someone did my washing for me. Sounds pretty cushy.

You sound a bit over invested. Do you even like this colleague very much? Doesn't sound like it.