AIBU to get butt-hurt about pples reaction to my pregnancy ?!..

[Littlehouseonthepraririe]

Am pregnant with my 6th! I want to share the good news on facebook, not with a fanfare or some obscure balloon riddled/ cryptic sign (tho I do enjoy other pples announcements like that)! But just with a standard f.b post as we have a lot of friends /fam all over the world (and mainly because I'm excited)!

However, when I shared the news of our 5th along with the congratulations I had a Lot of OMG ur mental/ mad etc comments.

Would I look weird if along with sharing the news I tagged on a little light hearted something like ' we know the Waltons life isn't for everyone and we might seem a bit bonkers, but we are really excited to introduce a new member to our clan'.. In the hope that it will ward off What's Wrong With You type comments ?!?

We have a large home for lots of children and my OH works from home so the children aren't lacking in time or space etc and they are always asking for more siblings, and this is the life I've Always wanted, so I don't really Get why pple would write comments like I had last time..
I mean I have lots of friends travelling in the back of beyond or moving up the corporate ladder , which personally is my idea of hell, but I am genuinely happy that they are happy and following their dreams, so obviously just write positive, congratulatory comments when they announce they've landed in a new country / got a promotion..
Am I being butt-hurty and overly sensitive unnecessarily , and would it look rude for me to write something jokey in an attempt to ward off the bat shit crazy comments..?

My mum was a 6th child and she wasvery beautiful and her mums and sisters favourite child/sibling.
I couldn't handle 6 kids but if you can then enjoy it! Congratulations with your little miracle. Ignore the rest. They don't have to understand. Just keep replying "we feel so blessed" or "thankful" or "happy" till they get sick of it.

congratulations .

I'd be more offended by the Waltons comment. I, and many others, struggle to get pregnant at all and drawing attention to fecundity is rubbing it in people's faces. Most of my friends only announce it once said baby is actually born with statutory pics. I'd just put it simply, that you are all really excited because youre having another baby.

Announce with the msg, its your life and if you have the space, patience and finances to cope then sod everyone. I got comments for being too old (35), everyone always has an opinion and unfortunately you do invite them to give it by announcing on fb. Congratulations x

Butt-hurt! That's awesome!

I don't think you'd be unreasonable to tag something on to the end of your announcement. I'd take it one step further, I think, and say "no comments from the peanut gallery about being 'insane' - we're delighted!!" I have no problem in telling people my Facebook feed is not a democracy - if I don't like your comments, I'm deleting that shit. (I usually don't, to be fair, I love a good debate, but I have no qualms about it.)

It's no use in just saying "don't be sensitive". These comments piss you off, and you find them hurtful. End of story. Nothing wrong in telling people to keep their thoughts to themselves though.

Congratulations, by the way, and good for you x

I don't think anyone means to be rude. I think people who have 1 or 2 kids don't understand people who want more. I have 4 girls but that I more Tha enough for me. Especially since the fourth I had no idea about until I was giving birth on bathroom floor 😂 I think the more u have the more u adapt to a busy loud house hold 😂 I enjoy chaos n mess until 8pm then I turn into an crazy lady wanting kids in bed so I can have some peace 😂 congratulations and good luck oh n fuck what others think as long as u and ur kids r happy xx

Genuine question - why do you want six children? Do you have a mix of sexes or is it to have another try for a boy/girl? I know a few 'big' families - 4/5/6 and in one case seven and it has always smacked of 'showing off' a kind of 'look at us, aren;t we fertile, we're just a mad, crazy family.
' I just don't get the need or want for six kids but maybe I'm missing something. I can tell you though that for the people out there who haven't been able to have a desperately wanted first (or second) child these sorts of families are rather annoying and in your face - I really wouldn't post anything, just privately email or text your far flung family members. But then I'm a person who wouldn't dream of posting an 'I'm pregnant' on social media and then bore everyone with 'bump watch' for months to come. Yuk.

Hey congrats!
Six is amazing, I personally wanted 4 but hubby didn’t see eye to eye with this number esp living in London.
The reason why every one is surprised is because it’s not common anymore to have that many.
In the Middle East 3 is good number, not to much not to Little. In Palestine you see families with 10 kids, in some parts of Syria 7 is the norm in south Lebanon its 5. My friend is pushing her 5th (she lives in London) but both her and hubby wanted 5! They have a big house and a lot of help.
If you can afford it, and your husband/partner is ok with it... then by all means go for it! I think it’s tough physically but hey power to you and it will be the most beautiful thing on Sunday lunches with your kids and grand kids... you won’t regret it for a minute. In fact your feel silly that you let others opinions bother you!
And to all the ones that don’t like, then they can stuff it. Your life and your happy.. that’s all that matters 🙂🙂🙂

I'm glad the tide is turning. I dared to mention environmental impacts on a thread a couple of years ago where a woman was announcing her 8th child and got shouted down by the 'have as many as you want hun, fuck everyone else' crew.

Why does it have to be announced on Facebook anyway? Just tell close family and friends and then other people when you see them face to face. I don't understand all this need to broadcast to everyone, it's your 6th nobody will be that bothered probably not even close family at this point although they'll do the obligatory 'congrats hun' posts.

If you're so keen to have this many kids why don't you adopt some? You have bio kids so it's not the same as saying that to people with no kids at all. I think you'd have a more positive response if you said you were adopting or fostering your sixth to be honest.

Congrats OP, people can be so rude sometimes. O the opposite I have just had my 2nd with a 7 year gap and had all the "are u mad?" Questions and almost as many asking when I will have the next. It doesn't matter how many you have or don't people will always have opinions.

Unfinished "I'm glad the tide is turning"

me too. You rarely hear the "O" word on here and it's usually received very badly indeed. You rarely hear the O word in real life tbh. I'm pretty convinced some people think DP and I couldn't have biological children & another couple who adopted have said they think people think that about them.

I wish David Attenborough would draw as much attention to this as he has to the plastics problems but it might be that he thinks he's going to finish his reputation if he speaks up any more.

Congratulations!!

Couldn't care less about the number of kids

Care more about use of the phrase 'butt-hurt' by a sentient adult. The sort of juvenile crap you find in a YouTube comments section.

YABU tonuse the word butthurt and to write in text speak as an adult old enough to have 6 children. Apart from that donas you like, the waltons thing is fine and may save some annoyance on your part from people that may think twice about commenting after reading it. (Although I’m sure they will still think the same)

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I wish David Attenborough would draw as much attention to this as he has to the plastics problems but it might be that he thinks he's going to finish his reputation if he speaks up any more.

I think he's probably done the best he can while remaining gallant. You have to not care about being rude to criticise someone for having too many children.

Congratulations I would love to have 6 kids but sadly I had to stop at 2 sod what people say if your happy that's all that matters

I don't think people mean to be rude, and you have to admit 6 is pretty mental - if they all ran in different directions at the same time you and your OH would be screwed

Congratulations. Sounds fantastic to me. I’m 1 of 7, same Dad, 2 different Mums. My DH is 1 of 4, 3 birth children and 1 adoptee.

We have 3 children. It might have been more but our eldest has a serious medical condition which means she needs lots of care and we also had several miscarriages between dc2 and dc3.

Some of our great friends have 8. Their eldest (twins who are 19 now) make fantastic babysitters for ours 😁

However you announce it, it sounds like unfortunately you may get some negative comments but I hope some of the positive comments here go some way to making you feel even more excited.

Museum - actually it also occurred to me, maybe a lot of outlets just won't make a programme about it?

he is quite frank in articles like this for example and there's some talks on YouTube

www.sciencealert.com/the-time-david-attenborough-said-humans-are-a-plague

Congratulations. Don't worry about people's comments- I think people are generally just trying to think of something to say and don't mean to be insulting.

I'm another one who dislikes the term "butt hurt" and certainly wouldn't want to hear a child use it. Not everyone takes this meaning from it but for some people it's a term which equates being whiny with being weak and dominated by means of anal rape. Am sure that lots of people use the term without thinking about anal rape at all- they just mean something's a pain in the arse- but it's worth being aware that some people understand it in this way.

Make your mind up rice- do you want an increase or decrease in future population? Or just whichever one justifies your 2 children point?

If you share news on Facebook it seems to me that you have to accept that people are not necessarily going to react in the way you hope they would. Personally, had I friends who had announced their sixth pregnancy I would take my cue from them and be pleased for them if they were, whatever my private thoughts.

The basic problem is the Facebook habit - if you think it seemly, on an open internet forum, to share with the world and his wife your business, then you are in no position to tell anyone else to mind theirs.

All that said, congratulations on your pregnancy, and I warm to your obvious delight in creating what sounds like a lovely family. And you should ask yourself if the kind of people who accuse you publicly of being mad or mental [including some of the snide bitches on this site] are really the sort of people you want as friends.

The twentieth century's besetting sin is that everyone thinks they are entitled to an opinion, and the internet enables them to spread their oafish sniping without let or hindrance.

Very long post, slight self indulgence. However has this become an American website as there's far better choices of adjectives to use than butt hurt, proud of being British so try to avoid American clichés. Very unecessary.

I'm British and I've used the phrase butthurt for about ...5 years? 7 years? I just thought it was an international phrase!