When people read your message but don't reply

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It's my absolute pet hate you know when you see th little blue ticks and no they have read it but choose not to reply. I know sometimes you don't always have time to reply but then hours... a day or 2 goes by and still nothing and you feel a pest for chasing it up?!

unfortunately both my adult sons do this to me, very annoying and sometimes quite hurtful

They haven't done anything to you. They don't have to respond on your timescale. I hope you don't let that neediness show to them, as they will reply less.

Who was it that raised millennials? Boomers? Who trashed the economy and had everything handed to them on a plate and throw tantrums if minimum wage staff don’t immediately bow to them?*
*not ALL boomers.

I changed my settings so I can't see when people have been online and can't see when I have read their messages and I can't see when they have read mine. Life is a lot less stressful now

Erm...Cloitoria...eh?

unfortunately both my adult sons do this to me, very annoying and sometimes quite hurtful

My MIL is like this, except that it’s telephone calls. If we don’t call her back straightaway, she’ll call again and then again, and leave an anxious message asking if we’re all right. It’s actually early evening and we’re getting the DDs to bed.

Very well said AstridWhite.

For OP and all other posters in tears - the recipient not replying, or not even bothering to open it, IS a reply.

If you think about it…

Bit someone upthread was using this thread as a way to whine about millennials being snowflakes. Literally any excuse to gob off about a generation that they raised and fucked over.

Clitoria

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I think much depends on the circumstances - does this person do this frequently? Do they have a particularly busy timetable at the moment - shiftwork, new baby, bullying issues at school etc that mean other important but non-urgent issues like messages are pushed to the back burner?

On the whole, i don't think its unreasonable to expect a friend to reply to a message when two days have passed by. If they have reason not to give you an answer - like the PP who's friend's paramedic partner couldn't go to dinner - you can always send a holding response. 'Sorry, don't know if x will make it, the shifts aren't released till Wednesday'.

Clitoria yes, I saw that. They related their argument directly to the question in hand. Unlike your general rant

Actually I wish our fathers (mine and dh's) would text then they wouldn't always call in the middle of dinner/bath time/bed time etc. We could then reply when convenient. Which is the point of texting surely?

OP. They're just not that into you!

I do this all the time. I've never thought it could be considered rude (not that I would change my habits). Equally, if someone has read my message and not responded, I don't care. If it was that important I'd call them.

It's not like I get annoyed if they don't reply the next minute but the next day or later when they have been online is abit annoying and it was wedding related appointment which is very soon and no i definitely aren't being the typical bridezilla- quite the opposite ! I must stop letting it bother me but glad to see other people get pissed off with it too! D

Ah wedding related.
They're bored of hearing about the wedding!

I don't use Messenger or iMessage, I just Text, I generally reply after I've read the text, but sometimes I can't. What's App is used for sending photos or arranging a group night out. If someone sends me a Facebook message, it sits there not read until I go on my laptop, which I don't take anywhere.

Why is everyone so needy these days. It’s weird.
I’ve removed the read receipt and last seen online because I’m sick of the comments of “did you see my message” yes I did see your message... you knew I’d seen your message. I saw it whilst I was busy... and I will reply as and when I have 5 mins to my bloody self.
The people who get annoyed at this are also the same ones to ping one straight back before you’ve even exited the app!!!

My MIL is like this, except that it’s telephone calls. If we don’t call her back straightaway, she’ll call again and then again, and leave an anxious message asking if we’re all right. It’s actually early evening and we’re getting the DDs to bed.
My mum does this ^^ except she'll also try my mobile and will leave numerous messages (that I then have to waste time deleting). Once she did this when I was out and she sent my dad round to check! He seemed to think it was my fault when I pulled onto the drive at the same time as he arrived (only about 30 mins after her first phone call!!!) even though I was sure I'd told her I was going out (and shouldn't bloody have to!)

I get this too OP, but it very much depends on the message, as to whether I'm annoyed or not.
I have a couple of friends who I have always been there for, a listening ear when they've needed to rant or have a problem however minor, and if they message something important, I always reply as soon as I can. However, that respect is not reciprocated I have been coming to find. And now I just don't bother mentioning when things aren't going well, and I don't mean trivial stuff..as they either change the subject with an obligatory oh dear...or ignore it altogether! Very rude and the older I get, the more observant I've become. Definitely not worth it.

You're probably just an annoying person OP

And if you think you aren't, please read the thread, that you made, about yourself, not getting enough attention, for yourself, so you could get attention, from other people, because the person you were annoying, doesn't want to reply..........

Prosecco give yourself the day off you miserable thing !
the majority on here think the same on the matter if you had read it

Wolfie I wish that was the truth but I've messaged ONCE and she has been paid to provide a service so also tough if they are bored of it

If it's a business then send an email or call. If it's a friend then friend plus wedding plus paid service equals nightmare. Don't be messaging friends about business.
Maybe they've changed their mind.

Unless something is urgent, I don't reply straight away. I can go weeks without speaking to close friends and then spend a few days on the trot with them. Just the way we are.

I'm not sure where insaid it was a friend