to think we need a Mums of teenagers Union or something (lighthearted)

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This would be to:

Tell each other what we actually let them wear and watch and buy and do, instead of hearing all the time "ALL my friends do it!" and secretly wondering if we're really the only parent on earth who makes their child miserable.

Share thoughts on how not to go mad every time we hear "yeah sure I'll do it in a minute" and then see our dear teen disappear for a few hours... or urgently need the bathroom... or suddenly remember a missed homework... or feel sick...

To make a list of all the things we need to change so they're happy, all the things they know better than us... starting by who we are, what we eat, where we live, what time we wake up, what we watch, what music we like, how we drive, the choices we make, what we cook ... I'm sure I left out loads.

And much more (suggestions welcome)

I think such a Union would be great
AIBU?

The mum was absolutely convinced that her three-year-old daughter would never turn out the same because she had been better brought up, had a much more pleasant personality and already helped in the house.
It was an absolute hoot.

This is up there with those who think their baby is going to sleep through from birth because they’ve read a book while pregnant

I'm dropping my almost 14 year old off to have a pre birthday meal with her friends today. She tried to give me strict instructions on what to wear so I don't embarrass her... I'm so tempted to cut two eye holes out of a paper bag and wear it when I'm collecting her and paying for their food!

Justhope is there a link to that thread? It sounds highly amusing!

Oh god, I’m in. I need this space!

Count me in - 2 x14 year olds and a 13 year old.

Potty training 3 toddlers and the not so terrible twos had nothing on this.

I can deal with my teen until I come across a "I'm so lucky, she's my best friend" type mother, then I just wonder "Is it me?"

Sign me up too...

I love the SSDD Same shit, different day - that is how it feels sometimes - Groundhog Day...

DD17's favourite saying is "at least I'm not doing xyz..." as IF doing everything else except xyz is acceptable... or
"my boyfriends mum will take me in - she says I can always stay there" or
"I'm soooooooo stressed out, xyz is the ONLY thing/person/whatever that lets me cope"

Oh, and the biggy - a couple of months ago (start of 6th form) she "changed" - it is no longer "Can I" it is "I'm going to..."

Every house should have a secret extending corridor with their bedroom on the end, then once your child becomes a teen it extends outwards pushing their pit bedroom away from the house.

I'm in , sign me up! 2 DDs 17 and nearly 14.

DD1 causes most problems at the mo, namely a bedroom that needs stepping stones. Spends 20 mins in the shower while DH has a near heart attack about the water bill, cue him banging on the door, her shouting "God you're so tight, what's your problem ?"

I am also sick of hearing about other girls' and their parents. They have their own bathrooms apparently, they get given squillions to spend, they can stay out till 2, parents buy them bottle of vodka for parties etc etc

I've just read "Get out of my life, but first give me and Alex a lift in to town." and it helped me get some perspective.

DD2 has always been more easy going, DD1 was a tricky baby at times and an emotional child so I'm hoping that DD2's calmer nature means her passage is smoother(I'm a mug, I know!)

Oh dear. We have had the worst week with the little darlings.....thank you thank you for this thread.
I know I will survive but jeez. It's gonna be touch and go for a while it think

I’m wondering if the Teenage Union is onto us and reading our thread as per Daily Fail.

DS(15) and I have just had a normal conversation (oh yes) about music (the ear bleeding noise he listens to) and after I played him a couple of Jam songs, he admitted they ‘weren’t actually that bad and I might download the tube station one’

I’ve checked he hasn’t got any letters from school in his bag so I’m guessing he wasn’t buttering me up and might actually {whispers} have been being nice.

This is not a stealth boast, just wanted to spread the news that there is hope.

How about the language? new words that younglings use, it happens in every generation.

DH and I had some complex travel arrangements, It did mean a bit of faffing, DS comes out with you two are such total melts. I asked what it meant apparently it means fucking idiots.

One of the reasons teenagers are charming to other parents is to make their friends look even worse. DS let this slip once

Harry Enfield sketch about becoming a teen

Bad: DS refused to go to (prepaid) swim sesson this morning. :(

Good: Vicarious excitement of DD's life. She got thru school entry exam this morning and is now walking around the mall with two boys who are best mates... Lad1 likes her but she rebuffed him 2 weeks ago. He drunkenly apologised later online (but they seem good). Lad2 she definitely doesn't like b/c he definitely has a crush on someone else.

Disappointed in DD's lack of imagination. Why does she think a boy can only have one crush at a time??!

A few years ago DD was concerned about my appearance at parents evening, and was quizzing me on what I was going to wear.
me: as I am coming straight from work, whatever I am wearing that day.
DD: can you try and look, you know, younger?
me: what, like Botox at lunchtime?
DD: yes
me: that was sarcasm
DD: well, can you wear jeans?
Me: no, because I don't wear jeans to work. But carry on like this and I will go to the market and buy a fleece with a wolf on it, and wear that and my gardening crocs.
She never asked again. (And I was relieved to see that most of the other mums looked quite normal).

But carry on like this and I will go to the market and buy a fleece with a wolf on it, and wear that and my gardening crocs.

Apparently I'm ok in the clothing dept. In fact I have been advised that her friends think I look glam/trendy!!! HA HA HA HA but on th other hand apparently they think I'm strict, uptight blah blah blah. Can't win em all!

Have to say that apart from the bedroom and terrible punctuality, DD1(17) has been improving in relations with us lately. We have had many big rows in the last year about boundaries, cheek and rudeness but dare I say that since in 6th form there is a glimmer of maturity. Conversely DD2(13) is perfecting her door slamming on a regular basis.

My people are here 🙂

DS14 needed a bowl. All bowls were dirty. Told him if he wanted a bowl he could wash one up. Cue shouting and stamping and "I can't wash a bowl up because you are such a crap mum you have never shown me how to do it".

I spoke about hot water and washing up,liquid but apparently that was not the required response.

He went without breakfast instead of washing one up .

wow... even my 9yo can wash up a bowl. I never showed him how, he's figured it out.

Xmas prezzies for my 13yo are gonna be Hellish. I suggest he just save up a lot of money for future but he's not having that. He sure as Heck doesn't need more Lego. I have just been browsing the "Gifts for 13yo DS" thread & DS would want nothing on there, either (except chocolate). Maybe I should spend £80 on chocolate for him. Sigh.

I am also sick of hearing about other girls' and their parents. They have their own bathrooms apparently, they get given squillions to spend, they can stay out till 2, parents buy them bottle of vodka for parties etc etc

Apparently I am the strictest parent ever because absolutely all of DDs friends parents are like this. But ignores the fact that the vodka buying parents are also the same ones who are constantly in school about their kids behaviour issues. I’ll stand my ground thank you - happy to be a failure at the cool parents comp