to tell you why having a December birthday is shit (lighthearted)

[cjt110]

My birthday is on the 22nd of December. This year I will have suffered 31 of the blasted seasonal things.

Its rubbish because:

This year it's on a Friday. People will, as they usually are, be finishing ogg their last minute Christmas bits/going on Christmas do's etc and so won't be available for a get together.

Even if they were, the places will be packed as it will be "Mad Friday"

Because I want to buy all sorts of stuff, as I do every year, but can't incase they get bought for me for Christmas/Birthday. This time of year I usually end up wanting to buy duvet sets. pjs etc for myself but have to hold off til after Christmas to get hem incase someone has got me some for Christmas.

As they're so close together, I never know what to say when people ask for gift ideas.

....Add in your suggestions to counter to above, or reasons why your December birthday is rubbish.

I'm Dec 21st and the only things that used to bug me were lack of people around to meet up with, all going to work/family do's or working in later years, and the joint birthday/Christmas presents. One relative took it to a new level one year and we (I have a twin) had a joint birthday/Christmas present 🙄

Mine is Dec 22nd too. Actually I mostly love it and I like having all the Christmassy stuff alongside my birthday I think of it as the start of my Christmas week. Plus I get school holidays off work so I'm normally off which is lovely. I'm not a big party goer so I'm quite happy to have a big takeaway and birthday cake with the family.
The worst thing for me is that you can't go out shopping without being swamped by crowds. I like the Christmas atmosphere in the town but it is way too busy and you can't go out for a meal easily. I normally try to sneak out early for a quick outing before it gets too packed and then a nice dog walk. Then home for hot chocolate and read my book by the fire. Very hygge!

I can see why others don't like it if their friends and family are all too busy to do something. I never see friends on that day and sometimes my family members have been working shifts which you can't get out of at Christmas, but I've always had enough people around to enjoy myself somehow and everyone has been nice to me. But I can see if you don't have anyone to spend the day with and no one makes an effort it wouldn't be nice.

Mine is the 3rd, my dad's is the 10th, sisters is the 19th and my nieces is the 21st. December is an expensive month!!

I always get 'forgotten' about though, especially as Christmas is celebrated and brought about earlier and earlier every year.

I always got 'forgotten' about in the work collections, I'd paid in all year for my birthday to be lost in the Christmas planning, or on two occasions, paid in all year for the teams to be moved or disbanded just before my birthday so that got swept under the carpet. I gave up after that.

Everyone is too busy to arrange anything or it clashes with plans, Christmas shopping, pre-christmas drinks ! Argh!!

I see your December birthday and raise you a January birthday.

"Another pair of slippers from the bottom of the bargain bin? How thoughtful."

My sons birthday is 13th . Not too bad but what really annoys me is all the birthday cards in the card shops seem to get reduced to one small section and shoved out the way, completely overshadowed by all the Christmas crap. I think all people with winter birthdays should be allowed another one in the Summer !

Oh yes cookiecat, Birthday cards! I normally have mine bought for dc by now for that reason. I’m behind this year.

I think I'd prefer a December bday to the one I've got... Bloody January! Its miserable, its dark, everyone's got no money and my personal bugbear SO many people are doing dry January. As I'm the 19th I'm before payday as well. It is the worst, I wouldn't wish it on anyone!

cjt110 we share a birthday I'm 22nd too I'm 28 this year. I use to hate my birthday when I was a kid because I never got to have a birthday because it was so close to Christmas.

@FilthyforFirth

We're twins. With a shit birthday

It really is @floellabumbags! Do you get the same 'I'm doing dry January so lets go for a drink in Feb' which never bloody materialises?!

Oh yes. Dry January, skint, on a diet, too tired, too cold, feel ill, nothing to wear, let's do it next week/month/decade...

I was particularly pissed off with the detoxers when it was my 30th! You can have one night off!

DH’s is at new year and he hates it. Everyone is sick of eating and holding off drinking for their nye plans. The last few years have been helped by the Star Wars films as he usually can get a few folk to go to the cinema and a beer&burger. Last year we both had a big birthday a few months apart so we pooled resources and booked a few nights away nearer my birthday when the weather is better. Still crap for him though.

I can offer commiserations... My birthday is late January...

Also a difficult date as people are 'partied out' and it's a long way away from the - usually early - December pay day so it's harder for people to celebrate with me (or buy presents!).

My middle dds birthday is Boxing Day. We do full on Christmas then Christmas Day night all decorations are taken down and birthday decorations go up.

Our family get together still happens on Boxing Day so she has a little family party then. Christmas presents first, then party food, then the focus back on her for her presents.

Her party is always the last Saturday in January so after January payday and we have most people attend.

All her presents are wrapped in birthday paper and I strongly suspect she has regifted /unwanted presents Christmas presents from her friends. She’s not about the presents just loves all her friends having a good time.

She loves it as she has a whole month of birthday whether she will be the same when she’s older.......

My godson was born on Boxing Day. I make sure he gets separate presents from us but I know some people combine.

DD is mid-August, so a lot of her friends are away. Maybe next year I'll suggest an early September party.

Mine's between Xmas and New year.

My mum always told people when I was younger not to get me joint presents, so that was good. But the weather is always crap, have to think of both birthday+Xmas ideas to give people as they often ask, doesn't feel very special as everyone else have had lots of presents too for Xmas (this was more a thing when I was a kid and cared about present-boasting!)

But I liked never being at school for my birthday, and currently not working on my birthday as the company closes over Xmas+new year.
And I like that people who have moved away are often in the area seeing family, so we can meet up :)

Hi,

My daughter's is mid-December and although I see some of your points, I do see some plus points to having a December birthday (at least from my point of view).

1. When she was born and I was breastfeeding constantly on the sofa, there was always plenty of delicious Christmas treats to hand
2. Everyone is in a reasonably jolly mood already and all the lights and decorations are out
3. Huge selection of party food in the shops.
4. Pre-Christmas toy sales mean that we often get her presents at a good price

5 She's usually at school on that day, but it is often the day of her Christmas party or the Christmas shows, and often things are more relaxed by then

1. 2 weeks of school holidays shortly after her birthday!

I’m December too.

I hated it growing up. All my presents were joint ones, and when we did Christmas presents at the end of term, I always got the same joint present as everyone else got as their Christmas present. I felt massively cheated.

As an adult, people can’t often afford to go out for meals that close to Christmas, restaurants have to be booked weeks/months in advance and everyone is broke or too busy to attend!

I'm very early January. It's poo!

I don't exactly have a big family, 8 people, 4 of them are in the second two weeks of December and 2 in Mid Febuary.

I'm fortunate on a money side but trying to come up with ideas for people is a complete nightmare.

Mine is today, not shitty for the same reasons but for years now it has always been awful, I share it with another family member who has always taken priority and it's straight after DH's so his seems to have all the attention and mine is an afterthought at best amongst our friends.

This year has taken the piss though - not anyone's fault, just a succession of awful things has happened in the last few days which has culminated in my birthday being totally forgotten by everyone this morning and I don't want to mention it because they'd be heart broken if they realised. I've decided to not let it get me down and declare myself a birthday in September instead (with an additional one in April next year to make up for today being lousy)

Mine is the 29th, it's shit because:

Most pp are away so can never have a party, or anything much on the day itself
I often get joint presents or just an Xmas present and feel grabby if I want an actual bday present too, even though I buy nice presents for everyone else on their birthdays
Pp are broke, knackered or both
Feel like I don't have a birthday, like I don't matter, every bloody year and it makes me feel sad. And a bit resentful tbh.

My grandad's is Christmas day and my mums is 30th. I always make a point of 2 different presents for my Grandad wrapped differently because it must suck when people think they can give you 1 for both when they wouldnt for somebody who's birthday was in june.

I also make sure i take my mum out for a nice meal and sales shopping and make it special as she spends so long prepping for christmas.

Things that annoy me (even when its not my bday):
Joint presents where clearly it is the same price as a present i got for christmas
Wrapped in christmas paper
People completely ignoring it/not being free (my aunts/nan are really good though).

Happy Birthday the colonel
Why not look up your Saint's day and make that your official date?

We do that for DC1 whose real birthday is right in the middle of school summer holidays.