to tell you why having a December birthday is shit (lighthearted)

[cjt110]

My birthday is on the 22nd of December. This year I will have suffered 31 of the blasted seasonal things.

Its rubbish because:

This year it's on a Friday. People will, as they usually are, be finishing ogg their last minute Christmas bits/going on Christmas do's etc and so won't be available for a get together.

Even if they were, the places will be packed as it will be "Mad Friday"

Because I want to buy all sorts of stuff, as I do every year, but can't incase they get bought for me for Christmas/Birthday. This time of year I usually end up wanting to buy duvet sets. pjs etc for myself but have to hold off til after Christmas to get hem incase someone has got me some for Christmas.

As they're so close together, I never know what to say when people ask for gift ideas.

....Add in your suggestions to counter to above, or reasons why your December birthday is rubbish.

Dd is 19th December

She gets stressed getting too many presents so from about 8 has only had small birthday parties

The timing of her 'party' or event is crucial so she can invite her friends

Ds1 birthday is early January...and that was worse when he was little...think obviously unwanted Christmas gifts being given to him for his birthday and again not being able to hold a party until much later as people were busy...or just forgot over the holidays

Jan birthday here.

Agree, it’s rubbish.

Everyone’s skint, partied out, detoxing. It’s cold, dark and crappy. All the festivals are over and done with.

DH moan’s about it every year. As if I had the choice!

Mine is the 22nd too and this year it’s my 30th. Every year it gets forgotten by friends and some family members (seriously, EVERY year) and it fucking sucks. It does hurt a little because I always make an effort for everyone else’s birthdays but never even get a card for mine.

I agree it' s rubbish. I say that as a January birthday person. I can totally relate. I think around Christmas/New Year is particularly hard.

Mine's the 18th, too, glitterbabe. It's rubbish because :

• all restaurants etc are full of loud Christmas parties, booked a year in advance
• everyone's at maximum pre-Christmas stress
• they even sell 'Happy Birthday at Christmas' cards

This is a good one, though !
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Christmas baby too. My parents always ensured I did get bldoubls as a child but it was still Rubbish because of a whole years wait before anything else. These days I enjoy it as it generally means Xmas lastsfrom 23 evening till Boxing Day.

Mine is the 8th. People seem to think that won't be a problem, but when it comes down to it, there's NEVER a Friday or Saturday night when everyone is free because work christmas parties start so early these days. So I've decided that birthday brunches are the way forward!

My son's Bday is Dec 21st. We always make a big effort to make sure it get celebrated.

It does add to the expense of December though.

Mines 30th December - very crap. Right Between Christmas and new year. So no one wants to go out for tea, drinks etc as they are burnt out of eating it saving big celebration for new year.

Presents in Christmas paper is a huge no no and every year I joke I’m moving the day to mid summer just like the queen.

Every year I make a big plan and fuss for dh birthday (spa day, trips with stay overs etc) but when it comes to mine it’s just another day and he’s burnt out of ideas from Christmas.

And whilst I remember I hate a bug present at Christmas that means it’s a combined present

14th December here, agree, totally shit, I hate it.

Actually, as a child I didn't mind too much as December was so exciting - my mum's is 3rd and it was such a huge build up. But as an adult it is truly crap.

Have a group of friends - we all meet up for birthdays but mine always gets sidelined to miles away from the actual date as people have work dos, children's plays etc.

Last year was my 50th (sorry, OP, it doesn't get to feel any better) and I went out for a lovely family meal. Never again. Only the Christmas menu was available (at double the price) and we were surrounded by huge raucous work parties.

Only slight advantage is I sometimes get DH to get me a big joint present which is double the cost of two singles - so I often end up with one really nice item instead of two ok ones.

Christmas Eve here.

I gave up on anyone giving a fuck about my birthday years ago

Mine's in early Dec, which is okay actually. Everyone is in festive spirits in December, so I don't really mind and it's just far enough from Christmas that I'd get two presents, or one big joint one

I have a friend who is Boxing Day, that must be crap, my aunt is 19th, and cousin is 31st, although I suppose everyone is up for a night out on NYE. My poor niece is 2nd Jan and I think that's probably worst of all. She said a lot of people forget her birthday and it's really hard to celebrate, because no one wants to do anything just after new year. Also, being in the holidays a lot of her friends are away.

My friends mum has a boxing day birthday but she celebrates it on the second May bank holiday Monday which I think is a great idea.

It sucks big time. Ds is 8th Dec nephew 29th Dec and I'm 3rd Jan.

Can I feel a little of your pain (I'm 28 November)?
No decent birthday cards, because they clear them all out in favour of Christmas cards, and nobody EVER buys in advance.
Ditton birthday wrapping paper.
Everyone is saving their money to buy Christmas presents, so I often get random shit.
Don't know what to ask for for Christmas, until I know what variety of random shit I've got for my birthday, so it's usually too late for anyone to get it.
Everyone is on pre-Christmas diets and doesn't want to go for a blow-out dinner, in case their Christmas outfit doesn't fit.
(LH, obviously, I usually have quite a nice time...)

Ds2’s birthday is December 11th. It’s oretty shit, although it’s true that everyone is merry! Just not focused on birthdays...

It was wonderful when he was born though - I really felt there was something special about having a Christmas baby, and it was lovely having a snuffling newborn sleeping near us while we all tucked into our turkey lunch

OP we have the exact same DOB!

It sucks because yes people forget.... you get sidelined, one present for both days, quickly forgotten about particularly because my sister's birthday is the 23rd.

Fortunately though I did remember to book it off in time :p

I always wonder why people with Xmas birthdays don't celebrate their half-birthday. I'd be happy to go out, buy a gift etc for a friend's half birthday in June!

Mine is the 27th and it's shit. I've always wanted to go to the panto on that day and have my birthday announced like so many other kids but it never happened.

OP I share your birthday too.

For me, the most annoying thing is if we go out to celebrate, pubs & restaurants are always full of office parties, large groups & the like getting pissed.

And there's often only the 'Christmas menu' available.

And to go somewhere half decent I need to book a table about 2 months in advance.

MoosicalDaisy I was born at 5.25pm... Are you older or younger than me?

iveburntthetoast we share a birthday! the only other person who shared my birthday had the same first name as me and we were born in the same hospital a couple of hours apart. Yes we went to school together! same festive name too

I hate my birthday with a passion. The joint gifts thing, the xmas card as a birthday card, fobbing you off because 'its xmas!'

My best mate is on the 18th dec and he suffers too.

I think you have to be extra cautious with kids and december birthdays. Mine was the only one in dec/jan so I had to suffer the whole year of nothing then get joint gifts because 'we cant let jet have presents through the festive period and not her siblings' though the whole 'we cant let jets siblings have presents through the year but not her' never crossed their mind.

I may be bitter after 30 odd years of my birthday being ignored. The only one who remembers is my DC who every year draws a card in school.

My dts are at the end of January so everyone is totally skint having been at the end of a six-week pay and Christmas, plus there's only the crap post-Christmas afterthoughts in the shops. Plus everyone's on a January health kick so don't want to celebrate. Bah!

EatsFartsAndLeaves because people think you are being a cheeky fucker buy expecting to celebrate a half birthday too even though they never do the december one :(

DD's is on 12 Dec - she is a teen and she loves it really - she loves going to shows and concerts as her birthday present from us - there are always loads end Nov/start Dec, (Gorillaz this year!) there are always decent films just about on release the weekend after,

we go out for a family meal and everywhere is decorated and jolly, plenty of offers on for the sorts of toiletries/make-up/sweets/tatt teens buy each other, so loads of presents of higher value than at other non-discounted times of year, she doesn't care if her stuff is wrapped in newspaper let alone Christmas paper - it doesn't last long enough to be noticed!

Mine is in mid May and in a family of teachers that means GCSE start week! Stress...