to tell you why having a December birthday is shit (lighthearted)

[cjt110]

My birthday is on the 22nd of December. This year I will have suffered 31 of the blasted seasonal things.

Its rubbish because:

This year it's on a Friday. People will, as they usually are, be finishing ogg their last minute Christmas bits/going on Christmas do's etc and so won't be available for a get together.

Even if they were, the places will be packed as it will be "Mad Friday"

Because I want to buy all sorts of stuff, as I do every year, but can't incase they get bought for me for Christmas/Birthday. This time of year I usually end up wanting to buy duvet sets. pjs etc for myself but have to hold off til after Christmas to get hem incase someone has got me some for Christmas.

As they're so close together, I never know what to say when people ask for gift ideas.

....Add in your suggestions to counter to above, or reasons why your December birthday is rubbish.

29th here.

It was worse when I was a kid as all my friends were usually away for Christmas break!

One good thing was if I didn’t get something I wanted for Christmas, I still had a chance of getting it a few days later

I don’t mind too much now, although no one even starts thinking about me until after Christmas is over. At least they can shop in the sales I guess!

That's us fucked then as DS' is 11/08

Ouch. I know a surprising amount of people who’s August birthdays always fall around the bank holiday. Horrible as children, usually no parties as everyone was ‘doing something’ on the long weekend. However, most of them as adults had blinding drunk weekends to ‘celebrate’, so silver linings and all that . It’s definitely better to have summer birthdays as an adult, light, bright evenings to go out in. December is pretty bleak without Christmas, and January is worse.

Mines on the 23rd. I quite like it as everyone is in a good expectant mood and always ready to celebrate.

Downside is merging of presents which I hate. They are separate events!

DS2's birthday is the 27th. He's only 4, so quite likes having his birthday two days after Christmas, but was a bit confused about why he couldn't have his party at a local farm adventure park place (which closes in October...)

I HATE it though!! I find it really stressful getting everything ready for Christmas and his birthday: the Christmas tree/cards/decorations all have to come down on the 26th so we can have a little birthday tea for him the next day (our house isn't big, we can't fit all family + tree into our lounge); I have to bake a birthday cake on Boxing day; and it's an expensive time of year anyway...argh.

I make sure his birthday doesn't get lost though. We have a proper, separate celebration and birthday gifts wrapped in birthday paper etc...

This makes for sad reading - my dd is Dec 29th!

Every year so far it's been chaos and exhaustion trying to fit things in and work around people. This year we are just staying at home as a family. I don't know what we will do when she's school age with friends and wants a birthday party. I swear I tried so hard to get her out earlier! Was due 14th December, that would have been a bit better.

My uncle's is Dec 25th and I always make sure to remember him (and not use xmas wrapping on his bday present!)

I am really tempted this year to think fuck it and not bother lol

18th Dec here and hate it!
Worst things over the years- getting joint presents, getting birthday presents wrapped in Christmas paper, getting a card and being told that's your birthday/Xmas card, always being promised the Xmas tree would be up in time for my birthday (it never was) not having chance to get a present at different time of year so nothing to look forward to.

Can you move it? Even by a week or so earlier? My birthday is in the summer and it was annoying at secondary school as I always had exams on it. So I would ‘officially’ postpone it for two weeks and celebrate it then. I think that can work if you are consistent and rigid enough to force everyone to follow suit.

Actually, my own birthday is in the early part of the year. As someone else posted, that's not great either. Presents are often the dreg ends of the sales, so not always that great. People are still skint after Christmas and it tends to be cold, so people don't always want to go out anyway. Not really sure that anytime is ideal for a birthday - I've always liked the idea of a summer birthday but then that time of year is exam time when you're at school and when you're older, people are often away on holiday. Better for presents I suppose, but again, more difficult if you want something 'bigger'as people are less likely to combine Christmas and birthday gifts with such a long time between.

Wow Banana that's a lot of Dec bdays! Your summer/winter gift idea is really thoughtful by the way

Another 22nd December birthday here. I feel your pain.

Especially crap when you're a kid and get one present for both.

Also crap when your irate partner demands both birthday & xmas present ideas 'cos they have no imagination. And the stores have sold out of everything 'cos the said partner is disorganised and left it all too late. So you end up with a rain check for some time in January.

And even more crap when the partner forgets to buy birthday wrapping paper and uses xmas paper instead...

And still crap as an adult 'cos all the restaurants are full of loud drunken work xmas parties drowning out your intimate birthday celebration. So it's easier to stay home with a takeaway.

My dad's birthday is the 11th December, my Brother's is the 26th and my husband's the 27th December. I usually don't recover financially until about February, when my mum's birthday is haha😂

I'm the 28th. And yes it's utterly miserable. Everyone is skint after Christmas and/or saving for night on new years eve. So getting a proper night out is a nightmare/nigh on impossible. And like you people want idea for gifts so you save up all ideas of stuff you want for months to make sure you have things to say but means you miss on out treating yourself etc just in case.

But at least it's not the 25th.

Very poor timing on the parents behalf.

I think that those with birthdays in very early January have it harder as people aren’t as interested in celebrating because they have no money left. Early January just seems to be a time when people are a bit miserable after the build up to Christmas. At least people are merry in December.

This. It’s so bad we regularly move DH’s Birthday to June.

DS1's is the 14th and DS is the 24th. Neither of them think they're shit yet, but my Nan's was the 27th so she gave me hints by telling me the things that really annoyed her.

They don't have an issue with people not wanting to go out, but they're young and most of their mates don't have responsibilities yet. DS2 has loved that he never went to school, or uni, on his birthday but next year he's going or be a qualified nurse so said he'd rather work Christmas than New Year.

Presents wise they loved it. DS2 was Lego mad, so perhaps he might want the fire station and hospital, he got both within a day. Or if they wanted a games console they didn't have to wait months for new games. MIL used to piss me off because she's split their Christmas money between their birthday too 'because December is expensive' whereas all the other DGC got a birthday present too because they were born in other months.

We'd buy them an outdoor toy in the Summer because a trampoline doesn't really do it in December.

Every Christmas Eve we'd let DS2 choose a friend to take to the cinema and for pizza. We never had anyone decline. People practically chucked their kids out the door.

One thing that does really piss me off is card shops. People don't stop having birthdays because it's December. They don't want their presents wrapped in Christmas paper.

Mine is Christmas day

Mine is the 25th Dec. I hate it. It never feels like my birthday it gets lost every year, I spend most of the day in the kitchen and have to nake a big fuss of others opening their gifts. I tried having it in June once and that felt so flat, do you celebrate the last birthday you had or the upcoming one? It didn't work for me.

Over the years I have had birthday gifts wrapped in Christmas paper (birthday paper is available all year round people) and Happy Birthday written in a Christmas card. I am not greedy at all but I have lost count of the amount of times I have heard 'I couldn't afford much, it is Christmas' which makes me feel a little bit second best.

I think December birthdays should be banned!

I have a December birthday tbh I quite like it because I hate trying to get people together and them letting me down and all that fuss and disappointment that can go with birthdays. Usually I have a jolly old time doing very little which is the best way to spend it imo.

WIBU to completely ignore that it's my birthday when I'm at work that day and that it commences when I finish?

My birthday is also Christmas Day.
It is completely rubbish!!

As a child my parents did try to make a fuss. On they day the delayed my siblings receiving gifts and we had a 'birthday party' in our PJ's.
After they sang happy birthday we all celebrated Christmas as traditionally all families would.

It was worse as a teenager. When it got to the stage of presents from others people would negate my birthday and the phrase 'there is a gift under the tree for you' was often used. I really begrudged this. Mostly as a teenager I didn't have the foresight of money being tight for people at Christmas and I felt a bit rejected.

As an adult (late teens to now) my husband has been in my life. He invented 'my half birthday'. He has done organised my 21st, 30th, 40th on the 25th June each year. We have had full partys, dinners and gifts exchanged. All my family and friends all embrace it too. Now I am older with my own children I don't overly mind the sharing off the day. Although, sometimes I do feel a bit rubbish about it.

Early January here. DB is on NYE. He's 3 years older you'd think DPs would have learnt!

Early January, everyone has started their diet, booze free, skint. I take fruit or healthy snacks into work as no-one ever wants cake.

My mum and her mum were born on Christmas Day.... they always said it was rubbish!

Mine is the 17th.

I'm lucky that my family do try their hardest to make my birthday a definite birthday and not birthmas.

However it always annoyed me that my mum, dad, sister, nan AND great nan all had their birthdays in June. So they got stuff every 6 months instead of waiting a whole year

Mines between xmas and new year and my family always want to go shopping in the sales, and drag me with them with the excuse they can buy my gift at the same time.
It’s shit. Everyone is too broke to go out and if I try something for January everyone is dry and or dieting.