Should the teacher be saying this to 5/6 year olds?

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Hello.

Just a quick one, really. My 5 year old never used to say this to anyone considering it's never really said in the home - "use your common sense!"

I asked him, "who says that?," to which he responds "[Teacher's name]."

Do you think that a Year 1 primary school teacher should say things like that to 5/6 year olds, considering how rude and abrupt it is to say something like it? Personally, I find it quite ridiculous considering the fact that not even DS15's Year 10 secondary school teachers say things like that.

Cheers.

You could see it as encouraging self-reliance perhaps?
Imagine being a reception or y1 teacher... how many inane questions must you get asked every hour

Should've been more clear, but it's less about what she says and more about how she says it. She makes it seem like she doesn't want to be there - was like that at parents evening too

For goodness sake.

Turn it around. Teacher says 'I'm not sure if it's cold enough for my coat today' and child says 'use your common sense'. Is it still fine? If not why would adults be teaching kids (who learn by imitation) that it's a polite thing to say?

Yes corbynsbumflannel (I couldn't help but die of laughter whilst typing this out I'm so sorry x)

This is exactly what I'm getting at. I don't see why it is okay to talk to young, impressionable children like that.

I say it quite a lot in response to some questions - when you are faced with a group of year 7's who all ask if they can turn the page when they have run out of room it does tend to serve its purpose.

I am secondary though and do get daft questions most of the day.

Best strike it from my list of reponses as I am now disrespectful and not a very nice person so it seems!

I say to mine "I'm not going to answer that, I'd like your to think about what u just said" because from my 4 yr old up they ask me stuff they know he answer to

FFS are you serious?

No wonder so many kids these days literally cannot cope if every single thing doesn't go their way, when this kind of precious horseshit goes on.

Noodledoodledoo Secondary? I really couldn't care less. Secondary school teachers are well within their rights to say anything they bloody well like - especially with, ugh, Year 7s - as their students can be taught to be polite and when to use abrupt responses like this.

However, it does not strike me as correct/acceptable to teach 5/6 year olds a phrase that you wouldn't use to be particularly polite.

I say use your common sense to other adults as well - really don't see why it is considered rude.

It’s probably quite annoying when 30 small people keep asking you silly questions.

Shall I put my socks or shoes on first?

What shall I do with my book?

My pencil doesn’t work

Etc etc etc.

I don’t know how anyone deals with little ones, as PP said above, 11 year olds are bad enough.

but it's less about what she says and more about how she says it

You've never even heard her say it!

Wilburissomepig In case you were wondering, I am serious.

My DS is more than capable of "coping" and does not get "everything [his] own way." This is entirely my own concern, and I'm only annoyed because he's now using this phrase against me - which, by the way - in case it escaped your thought (or lack thereof - I do not take to lightly.

it's less about what she says and more about how she says it

But you don't know how she says it. And she could very well be at the end of her tether. 'use your common sense' is much more polite than 'are you seriously asking me that again?' which is what I often feel like saying to my class of 5 yr olds.

Maybe he's trying to tell you something op

It's not rude, please do not complain to the school or similar. The 'tone' your DS uses does not mean she uses it in a nasty way. Kids always ham things up when they are doing impressions. He should use his common sense as should his classmates. It's sorely lacking in many children, and their parents too it seems.

How do you know the way she said it? Sounds fine to me. I teach secondary and get asked the most ridiculous questions sometimes. My favourite is always the Year 7s who put their hand up to tell me they’ve run out of space on a page and ask what they should do next. “Use your common sense” is not an impolite answer to that question. They know that the answer will be “turn the page and use the next page of your book”, they don’t actually need me to tell them. If I give a direct answer 10 more hands will shoot into the air to ask me the same thing later in the lesson.
If a child asks you “is it ok if I use this pen?” in a year 7 lesson I have learned that you must NEVER, under any circumstances, look at the pen or say yes or no, otherwise every child in the room will want you to personally inspect and approve their pen. They all get the default answer of “Use your common sense, is it a colour I can read with an ink that won’t soak through the pages in your book?”.

sirfredfredgeorge I hear it enough from DS to know exactly the tone that she employs to say it. I have never heard DS use notes quite that high except when imitating his teacher.

No wonder so many kids these days literally cannot cope if every single thing doesn't go their way, when this kind of precious horseshit goes on.

This ^^!!

Hopefully it will stick and your DS will learn to use his common sense.

When I'm trying to help a child make a sensible decision about something, ie using their common sense, I spend time talking it through with them. I ask them what they think they should do, and why... Then talk them through it if they are wrong.... I wouldn't assume a 4/5 year old had what adults define as common sense

Yabu and totally ridiculous.

Oh for the love of God. From this thread, OP, I'm starting to think your child has a very valid point...

DumbledoresApprentice Year 7 is a different matter. Year 7s can be taught to be polite - what to say, when, and in which context.

Can you a 5/6 year old? "Use your common sense."

I'm not lacking in any common sense, I just don't like having to deal with rudeness from my child, when it isn't me who has thrusted it upon him. I wouldn't complain to the school because it's so trivial, but I just wanted to know if you thought it was okay for 5/6 year olds to be subjected to phrases like that, and then for them to be repeating it back to you. Clearly you do - so it's just me being slightly sensitive.