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Neighbours bullying us (parking)

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Pinkpowerofthought · 18/11/2017 07:44

Moved in two months ago. On a Sunday afternoon I found someone had parked on my driveway next to my car, under the private parking sign. My partner came home and couldn't get on the drive. I wrote a note which was ignored so dp went and found him and he moved it.
Fast forward a month later. The same house different car has parked just the front wheels of their car on our driveway. This has went on for a week.
Last night I drove nose in so he didn't do it and he's now blocked my car in and still parked on the drive.
I have work this morning.
Dp is going round to chat to him later.
I'm heart broken. I feel totally bullied by these ignorant twats and we have just moved in. Trying to get the house lovely and do it up and we have these twats making life a misery.
Can I go to the police about this if it doesn't stop?
He's clearly doing it on purpose. There are other spaces to use and they have their own driveway too.
Included pic of the driveway when it's clear

Neighbours bullying us (parking)
Neighbours bullying us (parking)
OP posts:
cathyclown · 18/11/2017 16:37

I think like a pp said, park where he parks for a while anyway.

pizzicato · 18/11/2017 16:38

We have just paid £80 to the council for a white H line outside our drive. It's helping but sounds like your CF neighbour would ignore it anyway. The guy from the council did say that even we are not allowed to park on it and if anyone did, to report it.I thought that they were unenforceable in law but according to council man they can do something about it. Keep taking photos and keep a diary.

WishingOnABar · 18/11/2017 16:38

Actually I think Nowwhyareyoucrying has it. If you consistently park where he was parked for a few weeks he’ll find a new spot.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 18/11/2017 16:55

Could imagine coming out to plant pot smashed to pieces one day.

Large pastic pots. Filled with bricks. (Small decorative plant in the top in a little pot).

This situation would infuriate me OP (your diagram makes things much clearer than the photos - thank you).

I would do what a PP has suggested and knock on his door every single time. Don't get your DP out of bed - get your CFN out of bed. If he says there is room to get round just say that you are a natural blonde and need more room than an excellent, skilful male driver like his good self, and you don't want to risk damaging his car Grin

I can't for the life of me comprehend why these people do this sort of pathetic, childish anti-social thing. They are tossers. I think the best you can hope for with these neighbours is an armed truce.

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/11/2017 17:05

As you have just bought the property, the former owners should have informed you of any problems or disputes with the neighbours. Idk if they had issues like this too.

Pixiedust1973 · 18/11/2017 17:09

What a cock. Angry I think the bollards idea is a good one. Does sound like you moved into a street filled with arseholes though unfortunately. Gutting! Sad

Pinkpowerofthought · 18/11/2017 17:11

Dp is going round now

OP posts:
MrTrebus · 18/11/2017 17:11

You need to directly ask why are you parking here? Be confrontational but direct not rude. There must be a reason rather than just being a twat. But maybe you live somewhere a bit rough and he is just a twat.

Abouttoblow · 18/11/2017 17:15

If he blocked me in I would set my alarm for 2am every time and go ring his doorbell and tell him to move. Drive round the block and come back. If I couldn't get back in my drive, finger on the doorbell till the whole house was awake
EVERY TIME at 2am Smile

gallicgirl · 18/11/2017 17:19

It's just odd parking anyway, regardless of being partly on your driveway. Surely most people park parallel to the kerb rather than part on the road, part on the drive?

rebbykay · 18/11/2017 17:26

We once had sh*tty neighbours. They were awful - parked right in the centre of the 4 parking spaces that weren't even outside their house a lot of the time, and when asked to move, refused. When they were parked on the road, they'd watch people park up behind or in front of them and then call the police saying they'd hit their car.

One time, the husband came over to our house and screamed at my little brother (who was only about 5 at the time) "tell your f*cking dad we've called the police!" My poor brother was heartbroken at the time. The police came over and told us the neighbours had watched my dad deliberately drive into their car, leaving a mark. When we walked the police out to the car, it was clear that they'd made the mark themselves as our car bumper was 6" below theirs :-/ The police had a word but it turned out the wife's brother was on the force.

One day, I was driving out of the close on my moped and she overtook me in her car, then slammed on the brakes directly in front of me. Then got out and shouted at me for nearly driving into her.

They also used to collect up their dog's sh*t and dump it in the gardens of neighbours with dogs, then call the council.

Directly before we moved, my mum got her own back by printing a mock-up newspaper front page with their house on it, with the headline "NASTY NEIGHBOURS MAKE LIFE HELL FOR CLOSE". She actually took the time to write an entire report ending with "so it's the wishes of all in * close for this horrible, arrogant, nasty set of so-called people to move to Outer Mongolia at the first opportunity so they can all have their lives back." She got up in the middle of the night and put one on every windscreen... Genius.

We all got a visit from the police the day after but they nearly went mad trying to find out who did it. They then came to threaten us and ended up getting in trouble with the police themselves. Justice!!!

Jaxhog · 18/11/2017 17:29

If hes parked across a dropped curb, call the police. It's an offence to do that.

It;'s doubtful that anyone who thinks its ok to park on your drive will listen to reason.

bullyingadvice2017 · 18/11/2017 17:35

Can you loose the bush and then have a fence or gate fitted

buckeejit · 18/11/2017 17:44

CF-knock on every time &
1st time-sorry you’ve parked over my drive again-can you move now?
2-remember last time? Please move & explain you need the road in front of your drive to be kept clear for access
3-ask outright ‘why are you parking on/in front of my drive?

Be civil - bollards are a PITA for you so avoid if possible

LannieDuck · 18/11/2017 17:45

Are there other places to park in the road?

I would be inclined to get up at 6am and knock on his door to tell him you need to get to work.

LannieDuck · 18/11/2017 17:45

What's his explanation for parking there?

steff13 · 18/11/2017 17:48

If it's on your property can you have it towed? I could do that if someone parked on my driveway, but the rules might be different there.

Failingat40 · 18/11/2017 17:59

I don’t understand why people are failing to understand the situation here.

CFN is parking on a PUBLIC road causing an obstruction to op driveway by parking over it, blocking her exit or on it, where he has no entitlement to do so.

It can be a police matter, phone 101 report the car and say you need to get your child to hospital urgently and they’ll get it towed if no response to the registered keepers phone.

He’ll only stop parking there if he gets a fright. Towed away (bill £100+ storage) or place hazardous materials on the road, nails on a strip of wood, broken glass, paint lids. You’ll have been busy doing lots of diy of course.Wink

KarmaStar · 18/11/2017 18:01

If he is causing an obstruction call the police.the driver responsible could get a ticket for obstruction of the highway.
Consider also the issue of harassment and getting a cctv camera up which may deter them.
Wonder why the people sold up the house you're now in?
Could you find out if same thing happened to them hence the move?
This s is rotten,so exciting moving to a new home then some ###### ruins it.
Don't let them get you down and don't let them make you lose your temper,they'd be the first to complain.in future conversations with them record it on your phone,it could help should you require it.
Good luck🌻

ivykaty44 · 18/11/2017 18:02

Stop using the drive altogether and park both cars across the drive

That way he’ll have to find somewhere else to park

After he’s got used to parking somewhere else go back to parking on the drive

If he then blocks you in revert to parking on the road so you don’t get blocked in

If anything is said, just explain that you can’t get blocked in your drive due to work etc so have to sadly use the road which takes up two spaces

If it’s tight on the road for parking then he’ll get pissed of sooner than you

MrTrebus · 18/11/2017 18:05

What happened OP?

Lillybilly20 · 18/11/2017 18:08

What happened? Hope everything is ok, be careful people like this can be violent and aggressive. Treat with caution xx

Rubyslippers7780 · 18/11/2017 18:12

How did it go with your dp speaking to them?

raisinsarenottheonlyfruit · 18/11/2017 18:19

Good luck pink's DH. I hope they're not too unreasonable.

wearenoisyneighbours · 18/11/2017 18:27

I’m wondering if this was a problem for the previous owners (no obstruction/parking signs) as most people don’t need that when a private driveway is obvious). I wonder if this is why the previous owners left. If so, they should’ve been upfront about it during your purchase. Good luck.