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Neighbours bullying us (parking)

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Pinkpowerofthought · 18/11/2017 07:44

Moved in two months ago. On a Sunday afternoon I found someone had parked on my driveway next to my car, under the private parking sign. My partner came home and couldn't get on the drive. I wrote a note which was ignored so dp went and found him and he moved it.
Fast forward a month later. The same house different car has parked just the front wheels of their car on our driveway. This has went on for a week.
Last night I drove nose in so he didn't do it and he's now blocked my car in and still parked on the drive.
I have work this morning.
Dp is going round to chat to him later.
I'm heart broken. I feel totally bullied by these ignorant twats and we have just moved in. Trying to get the house lovely and do it up and we have these twats making life a misery.
Can I go to the police about this if it doesn't stop?
He's clearly doing it on purpose. There are other spaces to use and they have their own driveway too.
Included pic of the driveway when it's clear

Neighbours bullying us (parking)
Neighbours bullying us (parking)
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Pinkpowerofthought · 18/11/2017 15:10

Are penguin billiards moveable though? Would someone not just Nick it? My driveway is on the road next to house so pretty easy to just Nick it?

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PacAMac · 18/11/2017 15:10

Yanbu, he is doing it on purpose, knob!

DB22 · 18/11/2017 15:11

He's being a dick and it would pee me off too. Go round each and every time he does it. Preferably at awkward times like 11at night and keep telling him without emotion that he shouldn't be doing it. Also send photos to your councils parking department. He will either get bored or this will be the start of more issues as he is that way inclined. Either way you can't do much but he does need to be told this isn't on. I wouldn't start doing it back to him however tempting that is and I would keep interactions with him as unemotional and non confrontational as possible.

CotswoldStrife · 18/11/2017 15:11

Do you park parallel to the road - side by side on the drive rather than one behind the other? Otherwise it's hard to picture how your DH moving his car would help to get yours out.

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Pinkpowerofthought · 18/11/2017 15:13

Yes Cotswolds he would be blocking his own and restricting access to the road. However he can park at the side of our hedge without interfering with our driveway but he doesn't.
Heart broken was the wrong word I think. Yes this is our first home. Had visions of my children playing with neighbours kids in a happy neighbourhood and now two months in all I can imagine is tit for tatting with the neighbours over parking.

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CotswoldStrife · 18/11/2017 15:14

Heavy plant pot would also do the job rather than a bollard - you could fill the bottom of the pot with heavy stuff to make it hard to move.

Ninabean17 · 18/11/2017 15:18

What does he actually say when you ask him to move? Has he said he owns the drive etc?

kootoo123 · 18/11/2017 15:18

There is a difference between your neighbor bullying you by deliberately blocking you in and your neighbor parking so that it causes an inconvenience for you coming or going, which you can still do.
While he could park better I do think the whole heartbreak over this is a tad overreaction.

happypoobum · 18/11/2017 15:18

Ooh yes, great idea, a load of incredibly heavy pots. However, are they the sort of family who would delight in damaging/removing them?

Could you still get your two cars on and off if you put a small fence up at that end of the drive?

Otherwise bollards may be the only solution. They aren't movable they are concreted into the ground.

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Pinkpowerofthought · 18/11/2017 15:18

I like the sound of that idea. I think that's the only way we can stop it. There is already a sign up saying do not obstruct. I just have a gut feeling about these people that if you have anything nice, they will do their best to destroy it. Could imagine coming out to plant pot smashed to pieces one day.

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StressedtoHellandback · 18/11/2017 15:23

It is strange what gets into people's minds when it comes to parking. They all seem to be so sure that inconveniencing others is just fine. Shows a lack of general good manners and a lack of knowledge of the Highway Code. No-one should cause an obstruction. They even wont move cars to let 999 vehicles through. Total selfishness

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Pinkpowerofthought · 18/11/2017 15:24

Kootoo he does block me in as well. If I park with my car in a straight line he just parks behind it. He does what he likes.

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Pinkpowerofthought · 18/11/2017 15:24

It also means we can't get a third car on our drive when my parents visit cause his is fucking there.

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Kdaddy · 18/11/2017 15:24

Need a overhead diagram as its still not clear from photos.

As far as I can tell looking at the photo of your car and his it does look like he is actually parked across the end of your drive that is totally not acceptable.

Someone already asked but what have they said when you have spoken to them.

I think the law depends where you live as to what can be done but I think you can't block someone in and police can be involved. However, if no one is parked on the drive and someone parks over it I am not sure legally if anything can be done.

Oldbutstillgotit · 18/11/2017 15:25

I must be thick as I am not understanding the exact situation .

ICanNeverThinkOfAGoodUsrname · 18/11/2017 15:30

OP, I understand your photos now. Your neighbour is a dick and thinks they can bully you in to submission.

Who owns the road that runs adjacent to your driveway? Is it council owned or private/management company etc owned?

Lillybilly20 · 18/11/2017 15:31

Why can't you put up a fence around your land?

NamasteTheFuckAwayFromMe · 18/11/2017 15:32

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Landed · 18/11/2017 15:32

I just want to say ignore those who say heart broken is OTT. They don't understand and what it's like when ignorant excuse for a human being comes along and ride rough shod over your property! They (such neighbours) are the type of people who most likely return clothes they wore out the night before or take the tip a group leaves at the end of a meal. Get your bollards or plants sorted oit properly asap OP and good luck. Flowers

Lillybilly20 · 18/11/2017 15:33

Actually I undertand now it's because it would block your whole drive and he would continue to park across it. Could you ask the council to put double yellow lines in front?

Lillybilly20 · 18/11/2017 15:34

He's a cheeky cunt!

Lillybilly20 · 18/11/2017 15:35

The bollards are a good idea, you could put three in to demonstrate the three parking spaces you have

Lillybilly20 · 18/11/2017 15:36

Why can't he park on his own drive?

happypoobum · 18/11/2017 15:36

Actually, what you could do is have a six foot fence built with double gates which you keep padlocked. If it's a quiet suburban road, which it appears to be from the photos, then it shouldn't be a nuisance to get out and open the gates.

Or could they park alongside the gates?

If they are actually blocking your drive then you will have to speak to them again. What did they say? Sorry, we won't do it again, or what's your problem?

Have you actually spoken to them?