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To ask for my money?

384 replies

Kellyopio · 17/11/2017 21:20

In March I paid for concert tickets for me,my friend and her cousin.
They were £50 each.
My friend paid a week later but her cousin never paid.
I sent her a message and pic when the tickets arrived and reminded her they were £50.
8 months later no payment and concert is Sunday.
She is writing on her Facebook she is excited and can't wait but I don't think she's going to pay.
I asked my friend and she said she doubts she will pay for the ticket.
I asked my friend can she speak to her cousin and remind her about the £50 and she refused.
What would you do now?
Let her go for free?

OP posts:
ijustwannadance · 18/11/2017 12:57

Id rather keep the ticket for my coat and handbag than let her have it for nowt.

LazyDailyMailJournos · 18/11/2017 13:01

I suspect the reason why your friend doesn't want to speak to her, is because she knows that CFC (cheeky fucker cousin) has form for this and won't pay.

Text her one last time and tell her that if you don't get payment from her by 3pm today you'll advertise the ticket on FB. Don't accept any offer from her to meet you at the venue with the cash - because she'll only turn up empty handed and then try and push you into letting her have it anyway. Seriously - show no mercy to people like this!

RhiannonOHara · 18/11/2017 13:03

She's a cheeky mare and your friend is useless. I don't know what you texted but I like this suggestion: 'can you send money for ticket asap if you can't go anymore no worries I'll sell the ticket'.

Hope you manage to sell it for a massive mark-up

NoFucksImAQueen · 18/11/2017 13:06

Mil is like this and it makes me really angry. She owes me £100 from 7 months ago which she said she couldn't afford at the time but we'd get when she could. Since then car troubles and blah blah blah but then they go on holiday and shit.

lovemylover · 18/11/2017 13:06

Advertise the ticket on facebook, saying spare ticket as friend cant make it
Let her see what you have done,she should get the message

kath6144 · 18/11/2017 13:07

If she has visibility of your FB (as you seem to have of hers), give her a couple of hours to do transfer then if no response, put a comment on FB saying that you have a spare ticket due to non payment, is anyone interested. It may just make her realise that you are serious!

Sometimes you do need to be upfront or people take the mickey.

I meet with 2 uni friends most Decembers, overnight, for a pre-xmas get together. Another uni acquaintance joined us last year, at my suggestion as she lives near me.

I booked this years hotel in Sept, amid a flurry of texts to all others to check it was ok. I had to pay full amount in advance so asked for payment within a month, before my CC bill was due. Newer friend asked if she could wait until pay day (despite her and her DH having v well paid senior jobs & not short of money from what I understand!)

No probs, but when I didn't get anything on her pay day, I messaged her again a couple of days later. Money appeared straight away. I have also asked if she can drive this year (given that I drove last year, as it was first time she joined us). She did give me petrol money, but as my DH said, why should I drive every time.

I was never the type to let people walk all over me, but I am even less so as I get older (now in fifties). I certainly wouldn't have let this go on from Feb until the day before the concert.

ilovesooty · 18/11/2017 13:08

Start advertising it now. You've contacted her and she hasn't replied.

kath6144 · 18/11/2017 13:09

Crosspost with lovemylover

Definitely advertise on FB.

GottadoitGottadoit · 18/11/2017 13:09

So glad you posted here, your original text made it sound like you were in the wrong for asking for the money. Here's hoping she just apologises and pays up!

MyBrilliantDisguise · 18/11/2017 13:09

Oh I really want to know the outcome of this! I'd rather give the ticket away to another friend rather than let this woman have it for free.

AlpacaLypse · 18/11/2017 13:10

Google Twickets. They do a ticket resale service that's respectable, unlike the touts outside the venues or Stub Hub etc.

Rudi44 · 18/11/2017 13:11

Are you friends on Facebook? I would advertise the tickets saying it's up for sale as you have been let down at the last minute. Do not give it to her! You will be able to sell it outside the venue

hiyasminitsme · 18/11/2017 13:12

Concert is tomorrow - text her with a deadline for BACS of one hour from now, in one hour put it up for sale on facebook and tag her in

expatinscotland · 18/11/2017 13:13

'I've sent her the message,I included my bank details
No response as yet ..'

C'mon to fuck! NO one is this wet in real life, seriously? She's a cheeky bitch and you're letting her rip the piss out of you waiting for a response. One more message on FB and a text of the same thing: 'The money needs to be paid to me by 3pm or I will flog the ticket.'

The end.

Oh, and your 'friend', she isn't one.

Stop letting people take you for such a mug by not being one.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 18/11/2017 13:14

OP if she hasn’t responded by say 3pm stick it for sale on Facebook

PacAMac · 18/11/2017 13:15

Put the ticket on FB for sale.

Makesmilingyourbesthobby · 18/11/2017 13:19

If you still haven't had the number off your friend, then id message her & then message her cousin via fb the same sort of message now, friend- I need her number to find out if she still would like to buy ticket off me or I'm going to have to try & sell it as I can't afford to lose £50 so close to Christmas, cousin- hi I've been trying to get your number to find out if you still want to purchase ticket off me for tomorrow so I can try & sell it on if you don't want to come
Give it a hour & post it on fb for sale due to timewaster, if you cant sell it worse case give it to your your dh or sibling/friend as a extra Xmas gift, don't listen to any excuses from them she's had long enough to reimburse you Flowers

Lweji · 18/11/2017 13:25

OP if she hasn’t responded by say 3pm stick it for sale on Facebook

This,

RhiannonOHara · 18/11/2017 13:27

Well said, expat. FFS, I think of myself as a bit confrontation-averse but I wouldn't let someone get away with this. Let's hope the OP doesn't.

kaytee87 · 18/11/2017 13:31

Cheeky fuckers everywhere. I have a ‘friend’ like this, I now don’t pay for anything for her unless it’s a gift.

ClaryFray · 18/11/2017 13:34

Yeah, stick it on Facebook for sale. Post a status on Facebook asking if anyone on your friends list wants to come along :)

LilyRose16 · 18/11/2017 13:38

Your 'friend' doesn't sound like much of a friend of she wasn't willing to step in and make sure you got your money Hmm

SquirrelTail · 18/11/2017 13:39

This comes down to principle. Yes, it would be nice to let her have it and it'd be a more fun night. I doubt you'll be able to sell one lone ticket outside the venue to a passer by but why won't she pay you? Does she think you're unworthy of being paid or that you're just some sort of thing she can use and discard? Ask one of your friends if they want a free ticket, or bring your other half or one of your kids or someone. Don't let her make a mockery of you that night while you're there by using you. Also, considering deleting her off social media if she is unprepared to pay. She's a user, why have any more interaction with her? Tell your friend you're not happy about this woman using you and expecting you to give her a free ride rather than spend her own money.

JennyOnAPlate · 18/11/2017 13:40

Send another text along the lines of “as I haven’t heard back from you I’ll assume you no longer want the ticket and am about to list it for sale on Facebook” then do it.

SquirrelTail · 18/11/2017 13:41

Paste the link to 'Fitz and the Tantrums - MoneyGrabber' beneath her status.

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